I have approx 65 friends on my Mylot list..

Out of all the friends we have here I think about 1/4 of them don't participate here much if at all. 1/2 of them are too busy with work and kids to be on mylot. Then the rest of them either respond to our discussions or they don't. I can't respond to all my friends discussions because I have like 800 or something like that and I have a full time job now. If I did that I would be on this computer 24 hours a day every day of the week. I do try to respond to my friends discussions as much as possible. I mostly use the discussions my friends started link. I think some of it also has to do with interest in the topic. It's hard to make a discussion for everyone to answer because they might not know about the topic or interested in the topic.

Some of your discussions might simply not attract to all of them, others perhaps just aren't checking the discussions made by friends that much. I don't think you can really do a lot to improve that.

I don't think that you can. It all gets a bit hard. In my case I do check out the discussions my friends started page before anything else. However, if I don't think I have anything worthwhile to contribute then I don't respond. It's not the most recent discussions that are in the front, but the most recently responsed to so its not like I can see all of the discussions by an individual without spending a lot of time looking for it.

i have a lot of friends here too and i don't get that much response in my discussions. i still have discussions that have no response! the thing is, maybe the discussions we create do not appeal to your friends. or they really don't have anything to say about it. when you create discusssions think of the general interests of your friends and what they would be most likely responding to.. be creative!

I have near 65 friends on my list but the most number of response I got is 21 or something. I'm not really sure why but maybe because they are too busy to respond or they just are not interested to respond. As for me, I only post discussions that is about how I feel and what interest me at the moment.

You'd get at least 40 responses to each of your discussions!Woa,I REALLY ADMIRE YOU!I just started one discussion here and only one Mylotter replied my discussion.T_T I have four friends on my list now and they haven't reply to my discussion.It's okay,I don't care about it.I have no right to ask them to rate my discussion.Meself not post responses to all the discussions my friends started,coz some of the discussions I have no intersts in or sometimes I have posted responses to the similar discussions. It's hard to say why friends don't rate or reply our discussions.But I believe though some of your friends don't respond yours discussions,they do read them. Hope you can enjoy your Mylot!

It could be something really simple like they don't know you have started a discussion. I have been on mylot for quite a few months now and it wasn't until about a week ago that I discovered the notify on my friends list so that I can be notified by email of their discussions and I love it and I try to respond to as many as I can. I accidently stumbled upon this revelation. So maybe that is other peoples problems too.

i also have alot of friends, some of them answer more or less all my discussions, some answer just sometimes and some not at all. I try to answer as many as I can from my friends. I guess that some people just dont find me intersting, or are not online that much or have some other excuse. Nowdays I do notapprove a friendrequest UNLESS i see that this person has answered to atleast one of my posts =)

Your not alone. I very rarely get responses from my friends, but I make sue I respond to theirs. Or they start their own discussions a day later , same subject just different wording and get heaps more responses. It is so annoying and makes you think why bother sometimes.

I log on only once or so per week because I'm so busy with work, family, and my infant daughter so when I log on I check discussions my friends started, pick a few to respond to, and then usually I have to log off again. The discussions I choose to respond to are based on how I feel at the time and what sparks my interest. I do feel bad that I don't have more time to devote to the MyLot community and my friends on here but my life is just so busy right now and time is prescious. I think a lot of people are in the same boat as I am so try not to take it personally. I've tried to start discussions on many occasions and rarely get more than 3-5 responses. I've even started a few discussions that got NO responses. At first I was a little hurt but then I realized that people are busy and sometimes the topics that interest me might not hold any interest for them. With as many discussions going on as there are here, I can't blame someone for choosing to respond to a topic that interests them instead of mine. Does that make sense? I do know how you feel though...

You would better not take response to friends'discussions as your responsibility.Because most of people respond discussitions by interest and this is the source of funny to be friend with you.If you respond a discussion you are not interested in,you will feel tired.

You would better not take response to friends'discussions as your responsibility.Because most of people respond discussitions by interest and this is the source of funny to be friend with you.If you respond a discussion you are not interested in,he will feel tired.

Hello bindishah Even I am having the same problem with many of my friends .. I think some of them are so selfish .. they don't even care to look at our discussions and just take it for granted if we reply to their discussions .. I think they added us -- just to get reply on their discussions .. my ratio is extremely down as compared to your ratio .. whenever any of my friend respond to my discussion .. I really feel happy and look for my friends discussion and respond to it .. but I avoid sometimes -- if my friends discussion is not more than 2 lines .. because in this case he and I we both will not earn .. some really don't know -- that one or two liners won't give you anything .. still if I found no discussion with more than 2 lines .. then I will try to respond to any other discussion of my friend .. I just want to make my friends happy:) .. Even I am really happy to have you as my friend .. atleast you are not one of them who don't care about their friends .. and yes you really impressed me:) .. thanks a lot for being my friend