which child do you prefer, boy or girl?
By buchi_bulla
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
India
May 11, 2007 10:26am CST
I like both the children, boy and girl. Each experience of bringing them up is different. But usually people say that girl children show more affection towards their parents than boy children. Once married, boy gives more attention to his family than parents. Where as girls, even after marriage, try to give more time to their parents. What is your opinion?
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
12 May 07
I agree with you. But the scenario in India is slowly changing. Boys are becoming considerate and girls are also not yielding to pressure. Since girls are also earning equally earning like boys and not dependant on husbands, they can refuse to marry a person, who is asking for dowry. But uneducated girls cannot do anything. Education to girls and awareness campaign amongst boys may slowly remove this dowry problem from the marriage market.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
12 May 07
I think even love marriages also are contributing to dowry avoidance. Thanks for responding.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
9 Jun 07
Most of the mothers treat our boy and girl children equally. But how they will turn out to be, when they grow up it is up to them. Anyway I do not have expectations. But mind still craves for their affection. When they show even a small concern and attention, I feel at the top of the world. Thanks for responding friend.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
5 Jun 07
If i were to have children, wouldn't matter to me if it's a boy or a girl.We are all equal, men and women, affection depends on the upbringing of the child. If the parents showed great love and affection to their children, then i think they would be able to show it to others, specially to parents.
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
6 Jun 07
You are right mycharm88. We should be affectionate to our children and they will naturally remember that and show the same to us. But sometimes, if the wife is not understanding type, to have comfort zone, as everyone needs peace at home, boy may not show the affection freely. But he will have it in the heart. Parents should understand his position as son's peace and health must be of utmost concern.
@shan_ab (377)
• India
8 Jun 07
As an expecting mother, a boy or a girl will bring happiness to me :)
But I always felt that bringing up a girl child is much more beatiful, chanllenging and rewarding than bringing up a boy child..
Yeah, the dowry problem is there in India, but keeping it apart, a girl child is always more loving towards to her parents than a boy..
Her growing years are very beautiful, teh coloured frocks adn all teh accesseries you get to buy for your girl will not be suiting the boy. its always the same set of dresses and the vedio games..
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@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
8 Jun 07
When I was carrying my first baby, I always used to see boy's clothes and my husband used to show girls' dresses like frocks with frills and pinofers etc. He used to say if girl children are at home, they will run around in the house, light the God's light (like candle before God) and will spend much time with us. I of course got boy first and then two girls. Now no doubt my son is affectionate but still he is bothered about his wife and his child but my married daughter sees to it that she takes me out for my birthday or wedding day, gets things for me even if I mention casually that I like something. The unmarried daughter takes me to the doc even if I simply sneeze. My son says amma go to doc and keeps quiet.
