A parent is defaulting on snack!

@4cuteboys (4102)
United States
May 11, 2007 4:15pm CST
My son is 5 and in Pre-k, it's a full day in a regular elementary school, from 930-330. And today was a mothers day tea, so I went and there were a few other mothers that also went. One mom brought some cupcakes. She mentioned to the teacher that she brought extra for this special event, and that meant she didn't have to bring snack on her regular snack day (they assign us each 1 day a month to bring snack and juice to the room for the kids to all share). So the teachers were like uhm, okay. But I was honestly irritated by it! I buy snack at Costco so it's ALOT and that way they have extra if they forget or what not. I can't believe she was like that, and she also mentioned she doesn't bring juice like they ask because "the kids can have water from the sink" Ok, am I wrong to be irritated? I buy enough snack and organic juice for probably 3 snack days, and never complain. What do you think about this?
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@soccermom (3200)
• United States
11 May 07
This mom is just tacky. My daughter is in PreK also and her mothers day tea was put on by her teacher and the teachers aide. It was so sweet. Anyway, I think I would've told this mom tough, you still need to bring a snack on your assigned day. We do snacks for soccer and every year we have a parent that'll bring snacks on the wrong night and think that relieves them of their snack bringing responsibility. I don't blame you for being irritated, but it's people like you that make people like her look bad, so more power to you.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
12 May 07
I looked at the snack schedule and her day was the 7th, so that was already come and gone, before she brought her cupcakes even, urgh!!!
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• United States
12 May 07
You are not wrong for being irritated and luckily for the teachers/kids there are parents like you who go above and beyond to ensure they have a healthy snack for their snack time.
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• Philippines
12 May 07
if this happened to me, i will be irritated, too, and i will make sure that i will be able to voice my opinion on this matter and i will surely make my disappointment known as regards the incident. this is the only way that some corrections in the wrong attitude of others can be instituted.
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• Canada
11 May 07
Well i think if you are assigned a day to bring snacks to school then it is your day no matter if you bring something extra on soemones elses day and if you bring extra then they can be used the next day but only bring enough for what is expected fo you. If the mom feels that kids can drink water then that is fine maybe she cannot afford to buy juices but water from the tap i have always drank and never killed me. Personnely i thinkit is wrong for the school to ask that sort of thing i belive that you should send a snack for your kid only adn if the class is doing soemthing for a special event then contribbute anyway you feel comfortable. Most of the schools in this area try not to becasue of all the allergies adn reactions some kids have to the snacks that are brought in.
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
12 May 07
Well the only reason I was annoyed about the tap water was because the teachers specifically ask for the juice. And I am just guessing here, but since you only bring 1 time a month, it might actually be cheaper than bringing for your child every day, and what I am assuming here and i could be totally wrong, is that they do it this way, because what if a parent forgets, or doesn't bring their child a snack? it would be hard for that child to see all the others eating. Also some parents might be irresponsible and bring their kid a hershey bar for snack if they didn't have some sort of guidelines to follow.
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• Canada
12 May 07
I undersdtand your frustration but unfortunatly you might jsut have to get used to peopel liek her for the whole time your child is in school. I totally disagree with bring snacks adn juice for other kids as part of a requirment to attend a school unless you knew about it before hand. If a school is gonna do this then say to all parents "OK you have to buy snakcs once a month so everyoen cough up $20 for your share" that way it is doen adn no one will miss or skip there turn.
@Michele21 (3094)
• United States
12 May 07
I think that is wrong!! Your tea today was a special occasion and she shouldn't get out of bringing snack just because she brought something today as well. I would think she was trying to get out of it! I bring snacks for my daughters class too and I always get them juice boxes, I thought that was normal until the teacher sent home a note saying the juice wasn't necessary unless I really wanted to bring it. I asked my daughter and she sure enough told me that no one else brings juice with their snacks. What??? Lets give the kids something to eat and not to drink, I don't go eat a snack and not get something to drink with it so why do that to our kids?? I just thought that was really weird. They have a water fountain in their classroom but why make them get up and get a drink if they start to caugh or something?? Crazy....
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@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't get it - Why is it that parents have to bring the snacks in? Why doesn't the school provide snacks?
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@4cuteboys (4102)
• United States
12 May 07
I don't know, it's been the school rules since my oldest was in Pre-K, it's a public school, they probably wouldn't get approved for the funding to have snack.
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@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
12 May 07
Well, I guess it does make anyone irritated by her behaviour. Sometimes there are people who simply ignorance.
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@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
12 May 07
My daughter has to bring a snack and a drink once a month to her class also. I don't think nothing is wrong with it. It's fine with me. We also have to bring cups every time. But it's once a month. So I don't have a problem with it. I know some mothers can't even afford one snack, but the teachers understand because you know, some people can't afford things that others can, even if once a month. I always write a note and I ask the teacher if she needs extra stuff let me know because I also buy in bulks and have plenty to share if a parent can't do it once a month.
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@cutepenguin (6448)
• Canada
12 May 07
I'm going with - it takes all kinds to make a world? I don't understand why some people don't understand that if they don't do something, someone else has to, and that's unfair. But it's true - there will always be people who try to get out of tasks, thus adding work to other people. Who did she think was going to replace her on her day? Of course kids can drink tap water, but it's kind of rude for her to be so flippant about it. If she can't afford to buy the juice, that's fine, but I'd be quiet about it. I don't have kids yet. My husband, however, already has snacks planned, because his mom was great at providing snacks for school and sports. And I remember that my mom always sent veggies and dip to class events, and I was always slightly embarassed but proud (embarassed because everyone else brought chips/cookies, proud because my mom picked something different and the teacher always said something nice about how it was healthy). So I feel sorry for this mom's kid - there's a good chance that they'll remember this.
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@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
15 May 07
I think that is really wrong- If parents are asked to bring in snack and drinks then they should- unless they cannot afford it. Then they should talk it over with the teachers and the teachers could get someone else or bring it in themselves that day- I always sent in extra also- There was always a day when someone forgot to bring in snack on their day- Heck I even forgot to send it in 1 day- thankfully my dad went and grabbed doughnuts and milk and took it in to my daughters class. Perhaps the teacher should talk to this mom and find out why she is doing this.
• Philippines
12 May 07
there are people who always behave this way. it seems that they are happy about getting to outwit the others. bring this thing up when there will be an official meeting for everyone to attend. no mother may be remiss of their tasks. each one must comply to their assigned dates for the children's snacks. parents must be made to understand that the children will have no snacks if one of the parents excuses herself/himself for whatever reason. it will instead be best for one who has no capacity to provide for snacks to be outright with it and admit before everyone to hear. at least, this way, a remedy to the situation can be planned accordingly.
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
12 May 07
I hate to play devils advocate, but maybe this woman can't afford the snack once a month and is too ashamed to speak up. I know I have had to buy things for school from time to time, and now it is not an issue, but there were times when money was soooo tight, I actually had to send a note asking to be excused from paying. That is really embarrassing because everyone just thinks you're a bad parent. I think snack actually should be up to each individual parent. The schools my boys are in now, they take snack every day with them. You never know if a child has allergies, etc. It's better if the parent sends it in themselves. Teachers and schools now have their hands constantly out for money. If it's not this project or that trip, it's a fundraiser or snack. I pay $150 per kid for enrollment, $1.55 a day each for lunch, $20 a semester for "snack milk" With all these fees, I can see where it may be difficult for some parents to afford extra.
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• United States
12 May 07
I always hated being assigned snack. With how busy our life is, it was inevitable that I would forget. What I ended up doing was as soon as I had a snack date I brought in pretzles and juice so they had it and I wouldn't forget. When I sat on the board of our Nursery School in my church, we decided to raise tuition by $5 per pupil per month and include snacks instead of relying on parents. I feel bad if kids missed out on snack because she told the teacher this AFTER the fact. AT least if she had some warning even if she didn't like it she could have figured something out! Maybe it's time for a policy change - have people bring in snacks for the following week by the Friday before and if they don't for any reason they get billed back? Either that or do like we did and just have it included so you don't count on parents like this.
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
15 May 07
Its wrong on her part all the way, how could she show up thinkin that what she did was acceptable? But on the other hand maybe she couldnt afford it for the regular snack day?? If thats the case then maybe one of the other mothers who can provide snack more than once a month should volunteer to do so. But dont let her off the hook..see whats going on with her and why shes being so cheap with the snacks.