my niece is gone! What would YOU say??
By Ravenladyj
@Ravenladyj (22902)
United States
May 11, 2007 4:46pm CST
Long story short and without sharing info I have no biz sharing...my niece has serious behavioural issues, is very rebellious (ODD) has taken up drinking and using drugs (p0t but we dont kwno what else), she has been depressed for yrs, has horrible self esteem, as well as always had a very turbulant relationship with both her parents but recently moved back in with her mum again who's living with my brother...
NOW I called my gf earlier just to shoot the crap and she had just got in the door and was flipping out hysterical cause she discovered her daughter hasnt been seen at school since 1st period and she never came home (she's run away before, has threatend it many times and had a huge fight again with her mum last night)...It IS possible that she is out doing something stupid like drinking and getting high with friends because she figures nobody would be at the house til 6pm (but my gf decided to stay home cause she had a creepy feeling)......my gf gets off the phone with me and calls my brother at work and also calls a friend of hers (I dont care for the friend AT ALL, never have) well both of them tell her
"oh dont worry, she's probably out with some friends and if she really did run away this'll do her some good to see how hard it is on her own"
I LOST MY MIND when my gf told me that!! She of course is even more upset now because like me, she KNOWS what the possiblities are since she was a street kid too....
Am I blowing things out of proportion or am I right in thinking that both my brother and this other friend of hers both need a swift slap in the mouth with a very heavy object????
Also...does anyone (either teens or the parents of teens) have any suggestions I could pass on to my gf...Keep in mind she is in Canada
thanks in advance to all
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@PunkyMcPunk (1477)
• Canada
12 May 07
I am very sorry for this situation and now I am worried too. I left home when I was 14 years old. A country girl bound for the city. I lived in Toronto and then Ottawa and then Montreal and then Halifax. and lots of places in between.
You had better hope that this girl is just out with friends. Maybe she will smarten up after a few days being out on her own and call home.
If she does her parents or someone had better go and pick her up. She does need someone to be there for her. Someone she can talk to but she also needs her butt kicked ( not literally) but she does need to have someone talk to her so she realizes the full ramifications of running away.
She also needs to know that people love her and are worried for her and scared for her well being. I'm sorry but I live in Canada and with all of the crazy stories like that guy out in BC that killed all those hookers for years without anyone knowing, I wouldn't wanna be some random anonymous kid on the streets anymore. I would check around at any place you think she could be. If you know how to contact that guy in Hamilton I would. Just tell him that he's not in trouble, she;s not in trouble, you just want to know where she is and that she's okay. So this way if she does go to his place then maybe she will call you if she thinks she won't get in trouble. I know that it is hard to run away, I was there but once you do finally do it, even if you want to go home, you are so scared of your parents hating you, being disappoionted, yelling, etc.. all of the repercussions you could have from running away make it so scarey to go home or call and ask to be picked up somewhere. I really don't know what to say but I am worried for her and her family. I live in the south Eastern part of Ontario, near Ottawa... if there is anything I can do, let me know.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
12 May 07
Yea I was a squatter and street rat in T.O and Hamilton as well as Niagara but like I said that was back in the 80's, totally different situation now....If I were still living in Ontario both her mother and I coudl see her showing up on my doorstep but now that I'm in NY she obviously cant get to me....As of Midnight last night she'd not shown up and the police had no luck in finding her (they're searching all of niagara region for now)....they put out an APB on her and the cops said that if she hasnt been located by this morning they will hand it over to a detective and the longer she is gone the more agencies will get involved and the bigger the search area will get...
"all of the repercussions you could have from running away make it so scarey to go home or call and ask to be picked up somewhere."
yea that is so true and my niece would DEFINATELY be afraid of what those repercussions could be..not to mention she is, like i said, hangin with some older and less than savoury ppl who would most likely get her high and drunk which can lead to serious bad scenes....She is not a street saavy kid ya know thats what scares her mum and i the most..It was different for us cause we had to grow up REAL fast ya know...We were street smart before hitting the street (13 y/o for me and 14 for her) cause we had to survive in our own homes first for so long..
Thaks for the offer of help, if I think of someting I'll definately be asking....
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
16 May 07
OH MY! I am with you on this! Those people are nuts for saying maybe it will do her good!
I would be flipping out too if it was my niece! She's sixteen and she's got a lot of the same issues as your niece.
I really don't have any suggestions...just prayers for you all. I hope she's found soon. And she's okay.
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
13 May 07
I just pray that she will come to her senses and come home. It's very obvious that she is loved and she needs to come home to those who love her.
Don't give up!
