Argh! I cannot get the lady I babysit for to accept that I quit two weeks ago!!

@vokey9472 (1488)
United States
May 12, 2007 4:27pm CST
Ok, I was babysitting for this girl who is the daughter of my sister's friend. I watched her kids for $30 a day. Well, I got that job at the coffee house and told her two weeks ago that I couldn't watch her kids anymore and that she would need to get a new sitter. Well, she has been leaving the kids with my husband after I leave for work in the mornings. My hubby feels sorry for the kids so he has been watching them, but I technically quit the babysitting gig two weeks ago. Today, I told her that we cannot watch the kids anymore. She told me that she cannot find anyone else that she can afford and that we will just have to watch them until she can find another sitter and then she left the kids and went to work. I was in shock. She basically told me that I am going to watch her kids until she says differently. I was like, OMG who does she think she is to just order me around like that? I don't know what to do. I tell her that I quit and she just ignores me and keeps bringing the kids. She doesn't even listen when I tell her no, she just gets back in her car and drives off. I am not sure what to do. I thought about calling cps but I don't want her to lose her kids. She is just not listening to me. I cannot refuse to open my door as she will just knock until I finally answer it. I know cause I tried that once. Any advice on what to do with this woman? I cannot keep this up. She HAS to stop bringing her kids to me.
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@ElicBxn (61070)
• United States
13 May 07
call child protective services - she's abandoning the children & since you've told her that you aren't going to watch them anymore your husband should've done this the first day - it will be harder to convince cps that you aren't doing the job anymore since he's been watching them, but you need to inform her one more time - not accept any $$ & call cps even before she leaves if she says she's going to leave them.
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@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
14 May 07
I called CPS and was told that they would open a file and begin an investigation but that since she knowingly left them in my care for weeks and I accepted them when she dropped them off, she did not abandon the children and they could not come pick them up from my house. I was told to call their emergency contact to come get them if I was unable to watch them. I tried calling their grandmother, but she was at work and told me to call their grandfather. The grandfather told me to call their mother as "they are her brats, let her take care of them" (that is a direct quote). So, I have told her that I will watch them for one last week provided that she pay for the week in advance, provide all their supplies and that on Friday, it is their last day. After Friday, is she tries to drop the children off, I will call the police. She went pale and told me that she really only needed some help on Monday (today) and that she would have a new sitter by Tuesday. We will see.
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@ElicBxn (61070)
• United States
14 May 07
Good luck with her - she sounds like a user, and it sounds like the grandfather feels that way too.
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@stormygrl (763)
• United States
13 May 07
I can't believe she justs walks away but I had a friend that even if you said no they just show up and expect to leave them there. Try talking to her after work and tell her you will file a restraining order against her if she doesn't stop showing up at your door. I can understand your husband not wanting to refuse to let them in if the kids are right there. It sounds like she may just leave them on your doorstep if no one would answer. Good luck.
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@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
14 May 07
Well, I have told her that after this Friday if she tries to leave the kids, I will call the police. I told her that I quit two weeks ago and that she conned my husband into watching the kids and this was it. No more after this week and only because I know she hasn't found a new sitter. She told me that she only needed me on Monday (today) and then she would no longer need my services. Something about the threat of police involvement scared her. We will see if she really does stop coming.
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• Canada
22 May 07
I would DEFINITELY call the cops!!!! It's not up to you, and if she is irresponsible to treat you like that, she's not responsible enough to have children. Maybe she won't lose them, but if she does, it is her own damn fult for pushing you too far and using THEM as pawns. It would be for the children's own good if you called the cops next time she does it. First threaten her. Tell her if she does it again you're going to call the cops, and then if she does it again after that, call 'em!! But don't wait till she brings 'em back to threaten, phone her and tell her RIGHT NOW!
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
29 Aug 09
Well, I'd say you have three choices, keep watching the kids, lock the house and leave in the morning before she gets there (go out to breakfast), take the kids to her work and drop them off at the front desk. She obviously has no respect for you or your husband and is bullying you both into watching her kids. Until you put your foot down she'll keep doing it. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]