What would you do under this situation
By Hgateway
@Hgateway (204)
United States
May 12, 2007 5:09pm CST
Recently, I feel I just can't take it anymore. It's been 3 long years to me that my spritial, my body, my family, my financially even my most care the other half are going all against me. I feel helpless, even I have been trying to communicate with my the other half, but he just walks away or igore me and all the problems we are facing. Not only this, I feel I have been abandon by God.
I know I not a perfect person, but I did try 100% or even put in 200% for all I can for my family. I changed my carrer path as my 1st kid born, since I don't want to flying around or be in office late at night. I done all house works; my other hald just need to bring the paycheck back. I want him to love kids, so I ask him at least come home before 9pm to read bed time stories to kids before they go to bed. When he told me at last minutes before he took off oversea for his new adventure, all I can do was taking care the family along here, since I know no matter what I say he won't listen.
I have done all I can, but why life is getting worse for me and getting tough for me to handle. I'm so tired. Why I feel no matter how much I pray for God's mercy for us, or even ask why this happen to me. No word....
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4 responses
@farazkh1 (1153)
• Pakistan
20 Jun 07
You need to ask the right path first from GOD Almighty and keep on doing your works and stay away from doing sins any kind of minor or major try to understand life ...........and the reason for this short life why we have sent here for sometime .......?
ofcourse to obey our creator and do whatever he have allowed us and stay away from what he have prohibited for us .........
and pray to him whole heartedly to seek his guidence not only in your life but for the right faith too .........
I AM SURE you will find your way and strenth in yourself with respect sooon believe me ......
@Hgateway (204)
• United States
20 Jun 07
Thank you for the encouragement and wonderful words about be faithful to GOD and believe in his rightness. Yes, finally I'm seeing a little light out of this situation, not because current situation changed. It's all about how I see things and how I face it with what kind of attituted I'm in. I know I can't change anyone else nor the the environment I'm in now, but I can change my mood and attitute. Hence, I'm trying very hard not to be bother by my surrounding now. And, slowing for months, I'm albe to pray a little now. Please pray for me and I'll also attend the upcoming conference from our church to seek out freedom for my soul and energy to standup. Thansk!
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@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
13 May 07
Why stay in this sisuation for the kids he is doing them no favors, it takes more than a paycheck to be a father.
I understand you love him but you are going to have to think about yourself here you have kids that need you and I think the best thing you can do for them is to get out,make a new life for you and them and not untill than will things feel better for you.
@Hgateway (204)
• United States
14 May 07
Thank you for the reply. In fact, these two days, I'm seriously thinking about this option that I never ever want to do. I know perhpas everntually I'll have to do this if nothing change, but I don't have the courage to do so and I just don't know why I still love him so much after all. One of my friend told me that, we never know if this is due to I have owe him something other life in the past, so I'm suffering now, but once I'm out means I'm no longer owe him anything.
@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
12 May 07
There is no god to give mercy, that's why you aren't hearing from him. As for the husband, change the locks when he is gone and don't let him in until he puts in writing that he will spend a specific number of hours with the kids every week, thus freeing you to have a life outside the home. Then, get a job! You obviously resent staying at home, so stop doing it! Your kids feel it, and they will only grow to hate you being there.
@Hgateway (204)
• United States
12 May 07
All my regret was why I didn't see this man as selfish back then.
Love really blanked out my thoughts and logic. I feel sorry for bringing my kids to this world.
Due to financial issue, I'm back and working now, but didn't get it better. I feel even more tiredsome. On the other hand, I do feel much relief while at work, at least my focus shift, but once it's time to get home to pick up kids, my mind start to get nervous.
@chloe9013 (532)
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12 May 07
I am so sorry you feel that way! It can be so tough being with a partner who does not listen to you no matter what you do and you try to be the best you can for him and your family. One sided relationships are hard to deal with and i truley hope things get better for you. If there wasnt kids involved i would say get away from him as you doesnt treat you right but thats so hard to do once there are kids. Maybe try and show him what you really do like.. not clean anymore or not do all the things for him.. maybe he will see how important you are. Some people just dont change, or show appreciation and help. And if he refuses to show support then all i can say to you is.
This is your life, you get one chance at it so live it the way you want to and make sure you are happy above all else (within reason of course but you get my drift) although i dont belive in god, he does to you and he loves you very much and this is the freedom he gives us.. he cant just make you happy, you have to make yourself happy on earth and he will make you happy in heaven.
Good luck with your life hun and i hope you find you happyness again
@Hgateway (204)
• United States
12 May 07
Yes, it gets really tough for me to make up my mine of what should I do at this point...for kids or for me. I slowing stop doing things around the house unless I feel I want to do so, but it doesn't bother him at all. There is a period of time, I don't cook nor doing laundry for him, but again he didn't feel a thing.
I guess I need to feel greatful at least he bring the paycheck home, but really situation turn out that I also need to work in order to get by.
Some friends around me just keep telling me, I should let go. And, I finaly realized that now; this is the toughest lesson I'm learning, i just can't let go. I do not understand this is the worse situation I get into in my whole life, but I still love him no matter what he done to me. Am I helpless?
