would you dump a guy your parents didnt approve of???
By LENCARLOS
@LENCARLOS (92)
Philippines
6 responses
@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
14 May 07
There is no yes or no. It depends on how old the people are, and what it is that the parents disapprove of.
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@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thank you for your response. What I wish now, is to build a happy but a simple life with my future husband. As the days come, you people are giving me more chance to fulfill it. Learning a LOT from myLOT, really makes sense...
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@austere (2812)
• Philippines
13 May 07
well, i say no!!! it's my life indeed..and its me who will be sharing my life with that guy.. they cannot decide for me.. no..no..no..i cannot spend the rest of my life sad and refretting for letting my parents chose the guy i am spending the rest of my life with.. if that's gonna happen, i am sure i will not be happy and i will be spending everyday of my life miserable and unhappy.. good thing my parents are not the kind who choose..:) and guess i can spend the rest of my life with someone i truly love..:)
@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thanks for the response. I thought that I would be so happy with my ex-hubby also, because I loved him very much. Though my parents were not the kind, who choose also... now I think that maybe, it would be better if I asked suggestions or comments from them. God bless you.
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@Neo_Knights (1882)
• Indonesia
13 May 07
Well if I confront such situation, I will ask my parents why they don't disagree with my choice. Sometimes love is blinding us, just because she is cute we put aside the reality that she is a smoker or something. But our parents usually see these things.
If their reason make sense, then I will have a word with my partner and tell her about my parent dislike, and ask her if she could change herself ?
If no or in the future she can't change, I will dump her. Love is a great and beautiful thing, don't let regret from the past ruin it.
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@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Yes I agree with you. Maybe if I did that 7 years ago, my life would be better. But I do not regret it because I am happy now with my life, and I learned from my mistakes. God bless you.
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
14 May 07
No I would not dump a guy if my parents did not approve of him because Im the one in a relationship with him not them. its easy for them to look on the outside and judge what they see but you cant judge a book by its cover, you have to really get in and read it to understand it..right?
I would thank them for there concerns, & remind them that they provided me with the skills I need to make choices.
@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
15 May 07
YES, you are right, they provided us skills to make good choices. But for me, when I have chosen my 1st husband, I was blinded with love. Though am seeing wrong or not good traits of him, I pushed through with the relationship. With the hope that he would change, but he never did... instead became worse. Now that am about to marry for the 2nd time, I am sure that, Ive chosen the right one. But still am open with my parents advice regarding it, though still the decision is mine like with the 1st time. Happy sharing of thoughts, thank you!
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
15 May 07
lets just say i should have listened to my mother more when it came to my realationships if i had i would of been spared alot of hurt and dissapointment. But I was the one who said my life my relationship. Good thing my mom like my husband!!! lol
@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
15 May 07
Lets just say that if i had listened to my mother i would have been spared alot of pain and dissapointment, But i was one of the ones that said this is my life my relationship, mainly because i felt that my mom was just tryong to control me. I think everyone should give their parents opinion about their boyfreind/girlfriend a little more thought. and not just look at their opinion as a way to try and control them. It is a good thing my mom at least likes my husband!!!lol
@LENCARLOS (92)
• Philippines
15 May 07
YES, their opinions, advice only, but still for us on the decision making. Thank you for your response.
