Is it sin not to accept other's gift?

@carryli (875)
China
May 13, 2007 10:54am CST
Today i refused to take a friend's gift-a watch,i thought i was a bit not appropriate.......now he is very angry with me. i don't know what to do with this.... please help me
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@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
13 May 07
its not a sin but your friend might have a special reason for you to have the watch...its just a gift, no harm for you if you accept it..."to refuse an offer is an insult", thats what most people say. carryli, why you refused to accept in the first place?
@carryli (875)
• China
13 May 07
I really do not know why he gave me such gift,but i am afraid he whether fall in love me,i guess.I have a boyfriend,i am araid my boyfriend will misunderstand,
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 May 07
No its not a sin, but why was he giving you the gift? was it for mother's day? friendship? boyfriend? because he was generous? because he wants something more in your relationship? it all depends on the reason why he was giving it to you in the first place. Obviously he was taken back when refused, but I'm just wondering why! You should talk to him about it and tell him the reason why you refused and why you thought it was inappropriate. If he doesn't understand your reasoning then there really isn't anything else you can do about it right? or is there?
@carryli (875)
• China
13 May 07
thanks for your advice,maddysmommy,i just think i should not accept the dear gift.
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@innechen (1318)
• Indonesia
14 May 07
actually it is not nice to reject a gift from a friend, becoz it could hurt their feeling and they might though that you are underestimated them.unless if you have a good explanation why you are doing that.i mean if the friend is someone who had crush on u then you could reject his gift becoz thats give him an idea that you only want be friend with him.why dont try to talk to him and apologize, tell him why you reject his gift so he could understand
@magica (3707)
• Bulgaria
13 May 07
I hope, you have appologized to him and explained why you refuse this present. If dont, do it. Every present is a way to show respect, attention, love, sympathy.So your refusal in fact means that you refuse his respect and attention. Try to be tactfull and to smooth the situation. Even you dont like the present, you must tell: thank you and to accept it.
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@carryli (875)
• China
13 May 07
thanks for your responds,i will appologize to him.
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@psyche49f (2502)
• Philippines
14 May 07
You must have a good reason why you did not accept the gift. I think you have to consider your relationship with the giver...is he a boyfriend? Just a friend, or someone courting you? Is he known for gift-giving just to win you? I understand why he is angry, he might have misunderstood your turning it down...he felt insulted, his ego was hurt, etc. But the best for you to do is to be open to him, tell him the honest-to-goodness reason why you refused that watch he gave you. Tell him why the gift was not appropriate...whether he accepts the explanation or not, at least he knows the real score...
@r4y_m4n (93)
• United States
13 May 07
it depends on your friend's expression when they give it to you if they give it to you with a thoughtful look with like those face that expresses (i hope this person likes my gift) then you BETTER take the gift bcuz they prob took their effort finding/getting you that gift i think mostly people should take the gift, because that person bought it for you alone, if you don't take it, then what's the person gonna do with it?
@carryli (875)
• China
14 May 07
thanks for your responds.:)
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@carryli (875)
• China
14 May 07
thanks for your responds.:)
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• Niger
13 May 07
Try first to go back and accept the gift,it's the advice I can give and in my area it's not polite to refuse gift,but there's exception because if it's a person that you know well and that you are sure that he or she will try to get more from you just because he or she gave you a gift before,then you can refuse and there's nothing to be sorry about.
@shak143 (1280)
• India
13 May 07
Refusing a gift i think is not correct.Gifts are given to show there love and how important we are to him.Refusing in the sense insulting.It's my feeling i son't know ehy you actually refused.
@DawGwath (1042)
• Romania
13 May 07
As stated before, it's really important from whom you receive the gift and for what occasion. If it's from someone you love, care or know, it's not recommended to refuse, as it's given to you with a loving reason. But if it's from someone who has some underhand motives (like "buying" your friendship, trust or even bribing you), in my opinion refusing is recommended. But that's just up to the person in cause.