Today I can't stop crying, I feel like I'm a crazy woman.

@shorva (923)
Philippines
May 13, 2007 12:21pm CST
Forgive my post, but I've got nobody to talk to. Today my husband told me to stop feeling sorry for myself and that didn't help. Now I feel like there's something wrong with me. I hate the fact that he thinks I'm just being too emotional, maybe I am. I'm just burn out and depress, how can I get over this. Nobody understands me.
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@smacksman (6053)
13 May 07
Sounds to me like you could do with a bit of pampering. Can you off load your children and husband for a few hours and slip down to a beauty parlour/spa for a sauna + massage + cleansing + whatever you girls do to make yourself beautiful. You might just come out a new woman. haha. Good luck - I'm sure you will overcome. Hugs from smacksman
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
15 May 07
that's a good idea! but who's gonna support that idea?, I'll just daydream about it for the meantime:(
@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
15 May 07
im sure your husband gonna support you :) or if not try to have a time for yourself maybe just for a day that you will be alone for awhile maybe not in sauna, just go to a quiet place and feel the fresh air maybe in a beach or mountain or just alone in your home without the kids and have a facial with yourself or have a body scrub with yourself or have a day or two with your husband alone :) above all Pray is the best solution to your problem :)
@cyrile07 (236)
• Philippines
15 May 07
hi there! :) dont be sad.. well, for you to stop feeling sorry or depressed, you have to ask yourself what is it that you feel depressed about? what is it that make you sad? what are the things that make you burned out? you see things like these would actually happened in our life, we have to passed this stage in our life to see if we can get through this stage could trials. Life in this world is not easy, we have to face some difficulties while still alive and its not the end of the world though. so chill out and express yourself, talk to your husband or close friends about your problems or the things that make you what you feel now. give yourself a break and try to think of yourself for a moment. you need that. maybe your burn out because your a housewife or a working mom and has to do the house chores after work.. its best that you treat yourself once a month for you not to be burnt out :) there's nothing wrong with you, i do sometimes feel what you are feeling right now.. its the downside of our being human :) but we have to fight for it and try to have some fun and enjoy life with your husband, kids and friends as well to your family :) above all PRAY to GOD and ask guidance and believe in HIM that HE will give you peace of mind and a restful heart and soul :) may you be happy now and be blessed :) God bless you... be happy =
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Your very right. I really need a break. I felt that nobody appreciates what I do and little mistakes makes me cranky, because of this I felt that nobody likes me and my hubby probably sick of seeing too much of me:( But I'm ok now, I'm gonna start working soon and I'll have social life again and hopefully my hubby appreciates and misses me being around.
@carolynpb (647)
• United States
20 May 07
I think it is awful for your husband to be so unthoughtful! Him saying that only makes things worse for you! Whenever I feel down and out it helps for my husband to comfort me and tell me that it will pass. If he tells me to quit feeling sorry for myself I will get even more depressed. I understand how you feel. There is nothing wrong with you, you are not being to emotional. try to think happy thoughts and get out of the house into the sunshine. Go buy a book that has encouragement in it or look online for encouraging poems and stuff. And forget what your husband said.
@shorva (923)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Yes he is a thoughtless s.o.b. Although I knew about it even before we weren't married yet. I just have to get use to his insensitivity. He just doesn't like to see me weak and emotional I think. But I'm good now, thanks for your advise.
@gardengrrl (1445)
• United States
14 May 07
Hi, shorva, you're not alone! If you have given birth in the last year, you may have something called postpartum depression. This is a serious problem that needs a doctor's help. If your hormones are out of balance, they can help you get back on track. many people do not understand that depression is an illness rooted in the chemical interactions inside the brain, so it isn't something you can control by will alone. You may also find comfort by going to a playground where other young mothers take their children. Many, many moms go through these bad feelings, so you may be able to find friends there who understand. Good luck, and hang in there!
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@shorva (923)
• Philippines
15 May 07
Thank you for your kind words, I probably just need a break, I need to be out of everyone's sight for a while i think
@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
22 May 07
Maybe you're just PMSing. I know that when my period is nearing I usually feel depress. I cry for the silliest things and I feel like my boyfriend is always picking on me. Try to eat chocolates, they always make me feel better. They say chocolates have some sort of anti-depressants quality in them.
@nielcdg (709)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
I just think that its excess hormones from your pregnancy is a post partum something. Believe just play with you baby when she is in a good mood and you will feel fine...Take it from a big brother and a single dad :) I took care of my twin girls years ago when they were still babies I felt so stupid sometimes when I cant make the stop crying. But I got better as my babies learned that I was their daddy (Not much in the looks department Im fortunate they looked like their mom :) And now they are both 8 years old and I still treat them like babies since we only see each other once or twice a year because they now live with my ex. We dont have a normal family set up but we do love and respect each other, their mom is kind a my best friend and she is married now to a better guy than I was before :) But I do take my fatherly duties seriously and give them support every few months (since they dont really recquire me their mom's lola is so well off she even gets angry if I give some money saying the kids only need my love not my money :) You will get better just you wait, for now take care of yourself and your baby...you husband will understand you, you need his support now more than ever.