what will you choose... "a poor life with many friends" or "a rich life alone"?
By ronreyes
@ronreyes (4724)
Philippines
May 14, 2007 2:35am CST
For me, I'll choose the rich life alone.
It's not because of money but because I'm a loner and I really don't believe in bestfriends or true friends so I don't think I'll survive with the poor life with many friends.
You can't be sure always that your friends will always be there for you when you need them. You can't read their minds so you'll never know if they're true or fake.
My greatest friend will always be God and Him alone. If ever I'll live a rich life someday, I'll be glad and very thankful that He gave me an abundant life and that He gave me the greatest friendship of all which is His friendship that I'm sure will last forever.
Hate me if you like but this is just my opinion.
The rich life alone... with God... will always be the best for me!
:)
- Ron Reyes
www.ronreyes.co.nr
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
14 May 07
I would rather have a poor life with friends; I know that probably sounds crazy but money is not that important to me.....plus with money comes the worries of someone wanting to take it away from you!
I will never be rich so I am completely happy with being able to pay my bills, eating well, and spending time with my family and friends.
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@bimflux (294)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I belong to a poor family and yes happiness is always there. Just like bianroxas i cant live without friends, so maybe ill keep it up, i would rather have a poor life with friends. But you know what? In our place? More money more friends.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Wow you got me on that one! I thought it's completely similar. Heehee!
I must admit it's a bit different because it's about love and money and this one is about life with or without friends.
Thanks for alarming me anyway.
Take care always.
:)
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@angela2006 (1845)
• China
14 May 07
I choose "a poor life with many friends" of course.I remember there is a fable of "golden fingers" which was written by Aesop.it sayes a man who is fond of golden very much,then the God wants to punish him,then the God gave him a "golden fingers",everything he touched would turn into gold.at the beginning,he was so happy that when he dressed up,his clothes changed into gold.he loved flowers very much too,later,when he smelled the flowers' frangrance,he could not help to touch them ,then they became gold,he felt sad.after a while,his lovely daughter ran to him,he loved her so much,but when he hugged her,she turned into gold.he was so sad.yes,he was very rich with so many golds,but he had not daughter,he can not enjoy beatiful flowers,what a pity.
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@kayrod2 (1304)
• Australia
14 May 07
Hi ronreyes. I am inbetween. I wouldnt like to be rich and alone. Money to me isnt everything. I love having friends, but not too many, as just not me. A poor life is hard, and you need money to live, so gets a bit confusing. I like to be comfortable. I find richness within, and having loving family and friends make that. Does that make sense?
I wouldnt hate you for your opinion, and if this is what makes you happy, i am happy for you.
God bless and best wishes to you, my friend
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
14 May 07
Well, it depends. At times, when I can no longer contain all the hurts and problems that I am going through, i seek my best friend or just look for some one whom I can talk to and share what I am going through. I am also a loner before, but now that as I am getting older and matured I realize that it is not always good to be alone. And being rich without friends for me is useless!
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@fazelath (1174)
• India
14 May 07
I agree with u,i choose rich life not alone cos friends can be made any time,God is always their with us,i think u are not alone at all,u have many friends at mylot,when on internet i really don't need friends as i have many on mylot,once we get married then our life partner will be there so where's loneliness,
a poor life with many friends,i think a person can't be happy,as how much can friends help u,they won't be free always
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@my_lady (106)
• Philippines
15 May 07
For me, I will choose the rich life alone. In today's life we should be practical. Yes, I accept that maybe some of your friends can help you when you're down but I know that there is always a limitation. And maybe if I have much money someday, friends will come along your way.
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
14 May 07
Hello,ronreyes,I do believe some people can still enjoy living alone with alot of money,may be you are the one.
For me,I think friends are precious and we cannot use money to buy real friendship,actually i can say I am not rich but i live happily because of the love from my friends,they have helped me alot. Without my friends,i will not be happy.I am afraid i do not know what to do if i have money but no friends since i cannot share my happiness with anyone.
Work hard and I am sure you will earn good money here,hopefully you will be rich one day.
Good luck.
@santuccie (3384)
• United States
24 May 07
I agree with easy888. I think this is one of the best responses in the thread, truly heartfelt. I gave you a "+," sweetheart!
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
14 May 07
I don't have any friends where I live now, so I would choose a rich life alone. You didn't mention family, so I would have my hubby and kids and therefore wouldn't be alone anyway. It's not about money with me either. I have a hard time trusting people enough to call them "friend" I have never had a problem being the way I am, I think having too many friends is almost like asking for trouble. You can never be sure what anyone's intentions are. Me, my husband, my kids and God. That's it, I need nothing more.
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@derek_a (10874)
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14 May 07
I am very much a loner myself. To me, a rich life though doesn't have much to do about money - it never has. I suppose that if I was starving and didn't have money for my next meal, my attitude may change, but to be honest, whilst I am not financially rich, I've never had a problem with money.
In my time, I have worked doing the most mundane tasks if I had to, especially when my family was younger and I was a professional musician which is not the most stable of incomes. And I have experienced satisfaction at being frugal with money. In a way I even enjoyed the process of finding ways to save on household bills etc. But I never thought I was poor.
So I would be happy if my life stays as "rich" as it's always been and being alone would be fine, if that is what my karma has in store for me. :-)
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@derek_a (10874)
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14 May 07
Actually, I am not a musician any more. I can still play (piano/keyboards), but I don't do it for a living now. For the past 25 years or so I have been a therapist. There's no money to be earned being a musician any more unless you you get all the breaks and become very famous. And the first necessity is that you have to be young in your teens or early twenties.. :-)
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@sudeshna22 (390)
• India
14 May 07
Hello Ron, first of all I thank you for your topic.
I only can say, if you ask to choose me I will never like to choose a rich but friendless life. I want to have good friends and realtionships in my life otherwise I will find my life dull, only full of money, but nobody to share the wealth.
Now the way you described that you consider that there is no guarantee of getting friends all through my life, I completely agree with you. You are also right that if you feel god as your friend , you will never feel the need of having other friends.
But if you really consider god as your friend, then why are you worrying about money? Then why are choosing "money" against "friedns". Getting god as your friend means you are accepting, whatever HE(your friend) is giving to you, whether it is money, or friends, or anything else. If god will give you "poverty" it seems to me that you will not be thankful and happy with Him. But it is not the way of true friendship. Do not be angry with me, just think about it twice.
God is our all time and eternal friend. He exists everywhere. I really feel very happy and fulfilled in true relationships as love and friendship. I feel that god is within our heart, when we become true friends with others we become a true friend with God also.
@ronreyes (4724)
• Philippines
14 May 07
You're wrong about that sudeshna22. Even though God will make me poor someday, I will still be thankful for that because I know everything happens for a reason. I will still have faith in Him no matter what happens in the future. As I said, His friendship will last forever. That statement alone gives me courage to face whatever lies ahead.
:)
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@sudeshna22 (390)
• India
14 May 07
If it is so, if you are ready to accept whatever god is giving to you, then I you are right, you do not need to search for worldy friends. In that case I respect your feelings. God is our eternal friend.
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@mwalidji (200)
• Philippines
14 May 07
i choose to be poor and have friends than rich without any friends at all.
its hard to find a true and real friend in this world. if your poor the friends you have now is the one you will have through thick or thin... they would always be there for you since they are also poor...
if your rich you cant find that true and real people. some would only be there cause they know that you are rich and if time comes that you turn out to be poor they would be nowhere to be found... they would disappear think of you as no one...
but i guess the richest person is having God in their life... having Him is the biggest and wonderful thing that anyone could have...
@winniepassion (119)
• China
15 May 07
I preffer a poor life with many friends. I have a lot of friends to share my happiness and my feelings. If one day I leave them behind,I'm afraid that they'll try to kill me. Friends can help us when we're in troubles, and friends will not fade while money can be uesd up someday. Money cannot solve any problems in our life.Altho,friendship might betray you in some circumstances,but just hold a faith,and friends will come to you.:)
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@nady100011 (594)
• United Arab Emirates
15 May 07
You know, you hurts me much by reading this discussion!
Sure, this is your opinion but, let me tell you something:
No one is perfect and looking for ideal friend is equal looking for mirage.
How about having a friend whom is good in general with little disadvantages, isn't better that being rich and dealing with people that always doing tricks to take your money.
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@KissThis (3003)
• United States
14 May 07
I would always pick family and friends over money. For one I have been raised to believe that family is always there for you no matter what. My family makes up the biggest part of my friends. Money comes with alot of hassles. You will always have people asking you to share it with them. People will lie to you to get you to share, you will never truly know if they want you or your money.
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@manu619 (450)
• India
14 May 07
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm.........
I prefer a poor life with many friends....
A lonliness life makes us poor....Not just poor.. Very much poor...... While life with our friends makes our life happier and joyfull...... Thats the real wealth of our life... So enjoy life with our friends...
@oasis_9 (831)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I guess it depends on the person... If your happy being alone with lots of money then that's your choice! But for me i just can't imagine life without the support of my friends...and i know that i won't be here right now if it wasn't for them! :) So i'd go for a poor life with friends then having a rich life alone!