Please help me mend my brokenheart..................

Philippines
May 14, 2007 2:22pm CST
Hi everyone! I broke up with my fiance a couple of days ago because he wants to have a time out in our relationship. I could not understand where I went wrong and I did all my best to work it out. One of the reasons why he started to hate me was I was too jealous because he has been acting indifferently. The only reason why I started to feel insecure because we always have arguments. All I only wanted to do was talk it over so we can settle our differences but he views it differently, instead, He wanted a time out. I thought he just doesn't want to hurt my feelings by telling me that he fell out of love. I think he was so influence by his mother. His mother is not approving of our decision of marrying and I think he's just making so many excuses and complaints pointing all the fingers on me just to justify that I am to be blamed. I don't have the right to tell him how I feel. Does anyone of you have the same problem like mine? Please help me.
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@DavidReedy (2411)
• United States
14 May 07
The problem is not with you, most likely. It sounds like its with him. First off, we must remember to get away from this notion of blame and head toward a notion of contribution--that is how do we each contribute to our problems? Secondly, sometimes people just get scared and have to run from anytime of commitment. If you nagged him, or showed him that you were insecure, this may have had something to do with him leaving, but ultimately it was his choice, his decision--his thoughts and feelings that affected his decision. You won't be able to help yourself by brooding and blaming. Instead, continue on with life, and the happier you can do those, the more attractive you'll be.
• India
14 May 07
Have patience Baby, have pateince. If it is your Love it will come back to you. If it would not, it was not yours in first place. So why to cry unnecessary for the thing whick is not Kive in its true meaning
• Philippines
14 May 07
thanks david, i know it's hard. and I can't still accept that i got brokenhearted again.
@lucky_witch (2710)
• Philippines
15 May 07
If he really needs tome alone then you could do nothing about it...the more you will force yourself to him the more he will get irritated. As you have said you did all your best... I guess for now its enough... He have to do his part too... If he was affected by his mother so he's acting like that... Be thankful you're not yet married... How can you entrust your life and the life of your children to be...to a man who cannot stand for his own decision and is greatly affected by others? If he really loves you then he will prove to his mother that you are worthy to be accepted in their family. He would help you to change and realize your mistake instead of blaming you... If he think he needs time... i think you need it more... Think about it dear...
• Philippines
15 May 07
that's one problem i have to face. I'm terrified with the idea that his mom doesnt like me.