how can I start all over again?

Philippines
May 14, 2007 2:26pm CST
I got dumped by my fiance and I haven't done anything to deserved to be rejected. My family has been nice to him and I have been completely faithful to him. I feel that I didn't deserve to be treated this way. Please help me.
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10 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
15 May 07
You really didn't give us any information here so there might have been a good reason for him leaving. It might not have been your doing, it might have been something that he was feeling or thinking etc so maybe he made the right decision. Everyone gets hurt in a relationship break-up, both parties feel the pain & sadness when you go your separate ways. You should be happy, he may have been wanting to cheat or something & by breaking up with you, he wouldn't have cheated or gone behind your bacl or anything. It all really boils down to why he dumped you in the first place.
• Philippines
15 May 07
I think he probably just don't know what he wants. I don't know what he wants either. Thank you for your insights.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
15 May 07
Some place down the road you will find that it turns out for the best. He couldn't have really loved you and you deserve to spend a lifetime with someone who is totally devoted to you. It's hard. I got dumped two weeks before the wedding. I thought my life was over. I was in a slump for a very long time until I decided to let go and keep on going. You will need time to grieve....but don't take too long for another opportunity might be waiting right around the corner.
• Philippines
15 May 07
Thank you jillhill. I guess, you're not the only one in this world who got hurt because of love. You have my sympathy.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
14 May 07
Why did he break up? Does he not love u anymore? If that is the case i am afraid that there is nothing you can do to win him back. i am sure u dont wanna be with someone that doesnt love you back anyways. I know what heartache is all about, I have also been betrayed and it is hard to get over it . BUT it is possible. U just need to let it take time, a heart can be mended.. Try to go out with friends and activate yourself and u will see that life is not so bad and before u know it, you will find someone that really loves you the way you deserve-
• Philippines
14 May 07
He said he loves me, but he is willing to let me go. He agreed to break up with me after I offered a break up. I didn't want to make things hard for him coz I know guys are indirect when it comes to breaking up.
@DavidReedy (2378)
• United States
14 May 07
There's no easy answer to this. Try your best to simply live life for you. Do the things you enjoy--for you. The loss of someone special always hurts, but you can and will carry on.
• Philippines
14 May 07
thank you david. it's not easy to be rejected, but you're right I have to move on and accept that it's all over.
@healer (1779)
• India
14 May 07
Life is not a bed of roses but thats life, am sorry to hear that you got dumped by your fiance. You have to be strong and give life a second chance for we don't know what tomorrow holds for us. You have been faithful to your fiance so, you have done your part right so why worry. Worry for him, a person like him will never have a smooth life. He does not deserve you, he will realize his mistake one day. You deserve better so, let the time tell you what to do. Anyway good luck in your future and be strong.
• Philippines
14 May 07
thank you. I hope my heart gets healed by time coz I don't know how to where to start picking the broken pieces of my heart.
@Aspenn (30)
• United States
14 May 07
Many of us don't deserve to be treated the way we have been, but it's all part of a learning experience. It gives us the notion to teach and show others how hurtful it is to act this way towards ones we "love". IF it's even love. Sorry your heart was broken. *hugs*
• Philippines
14 May 07
thanks for your hugs
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
15 May 07
We cant expect life to be fair always dear... I understand how you feel... when you do all the best that you can to make things work between you... your family treated him the best way possible... yet in the end he wont see all your efforts and only see the things you've done wrong... Focused on his need... need of time, need to be happy, need of space....never see how you feel by the way he does things... The bast advice that I can say is " if he dump you and you think you dont deserve it... then ask yourself IF YOU DESERVE A MAN LIKE HIM" If you gave all your best to make things work out between you nad nothings happen... then yo have to give yourself a break... Its either you're not meant for each other or he just have to see your worth... whatever it is be prepare and remember that not all relationship last if its not meant for you... someday you'll understand why... maybe someone better will come along. Have Faith
@easyzheng (666)
• China
15 May 07
The quickest way to forget about the previous one is to find another, and the second one you find must have something in him better than the previous one and try to love him.
14 May 07
Sometimes in life things happen and you dont want them to happen, Sometimes it's for the best, Maybe not in this situation, i can't say you have not told us much, he must of told you a reason, and also the parents thing it's not about your parents it's about you as a person, he is Probally frustrated.
• Philippines
14 May 07
Thank you for your reply. I still am hurting, but it feels better to have someone to talk to.
@fazelath (1174)
• India
15 May 07
U deserve some one much better then him,he does'nt deserve a faithful girl like you,he was unlucky he lost you,u will find you true love,just let go the past and move ahead in life,hope for the best,best of luck