Secrets between sisters
By brasileira
@brasileira (4)
May 14, 2007 6:48pm CST
My sister and I have always had a very open relationship, we have always shared our feelings and secrets with each other. Recently I found out a huge secret that she was keeping from me, not because she specifically didn't want me to know, but because I think she was too embarassed to tell anyone. Should I be open about the fact that I know her secret? Or should I wait for her to open up? I don't know what to do, and I want to respect her privacy, but now that I already know, I don't think I should keep pretending I don't... Any suggestions? Thanks!
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5 responses
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
15 May 07
I think it kinda depends on how you found out about the secret, if it's a way you could have come across by accident or something I'd say talk to her about it. But if you read a diary or so I guess it might be wiser to keep it to yourself till she brings it up herself.
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@Lifez2short (4962)
• United States
15 May 07
I agree with PhycoDude 100%. I think that if she really wants you to know she will tell you. I think you should respect her privacy.
@brasileira (4)
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15 May 07
Thanks for your advice, I agree with you that it depends on the circumstances. I did come across it by total accident, so I guess it would be alright to tell her I know. The only problem is that I don't want her to feel unconfortable about it, since she is obviously very embarassed by it, so I don't even know how to bring it up...... Great responses from everyone..... thanks! :D
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@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
15 May 07
I think you should keep mum until she is ready enough to open up. I don't think it will be pretending if you don't tell her that you already know. It is respect for her privacy. If she is ready enough she will tell you and when that time comes, that would be the perfect time for you to tell her that you already knew.
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@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
15 May 07
I think you should let her know that you know and that you are there for her if she ever needs anything. She may be mad that you found out but I think she would be even more mad if she found out you knew and didn't tell her you knew. She may need someone to talk to about it and didn't really know how to bring it up to you.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
17 May 07
Well, i guess u should approach her and tell her, sis, though u didnt tell me but by chance i happened to noe...
But i guess it all starts from ur sis's nature...
How introvate or extrovate is she?
If she's more to the introvate side, i guess u should leave her as she is...
I mean...
Since u guys are so close, if theres anything she wants u to know, she will let u noe...
If not, it simply means that shes not willing to disclose, if so, why probe into it...
Besides u guys face each other day in and day out, so why make things difficult for both u n her...
If not, if shes more open up...
Talk to her directly about the issue...
Maybe shes just as helpless and needed to telll someone the matter to...
Yet, theres noone she could trust?
Anyway, its just my suggestion...
the final decision is still urs...=)
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
15 May 07
I think if you know you and your sister are really close like you say then you should sit her down and ask her about it. Shes your sister, you both have a bond that most people would love to share with someone at some point in there life. So yea just let her know that you know her secret..and when shes ready to come to you about it then you will be there to listen with open ears. Remember shes your sister for life..nothing should ever come between that.
