Friends or Foes

United States
May 15, 2007 9:54pm CST
I am so frustrated! I have been trying to help a friend for her wedding and do her hair and everyones elses hair for a fraction of the price that I would normally charge. Then I find out the night before the wedding that she is talking trash about me and spreading all these lies to our group of friends and perfect strangers!!! I mean I know that she is just marrying to marry because she has 2 kids with this man, and truly doesnt love him. And she has made reference to how wonderful my relationship with my husband is so maybe it is jealously I dont know!! All I know is that when I broached the subject of what was told to me she started yelling at me and being even meaner to me...trying to play the victim instead of maning up to the situation. WHY do I ask do people feel the need to act this way and treat other like dirt??? Needless to say - I ended the relationship and make a couple of new friendships out of it, maybe that is what I was suppost to get out it.. I dont know, part of me wants to retaliate but I know that I would only be stooping to her level.. I need some imput....PLEASE!!!
3 responses
• United States
16 May 07
I would say something back to her, that is pretty messed up, but is she a really good friend? maybe these rummers aren't true? first try talking to her again to see what happens, then end it.
@anjoks (2084)
• Philippines
16 May 07
You just did the right thing. It's better to end your relationship with her rather than staying plastic towards her, you know what i mean? Its hard to hold grudges to friends right but its her fault anyway. For you my friend, nice thing u've been exploring new friends, new acquaintances. One day, somehow your friend will realize how important you are to her life. . I assure you that day will come and she'll apologize for what she did. . . Enjoy life. People come and go in this world but memories lives on. . We can never change that.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
16 May 07
Well the fact that you broke ties with her must mean that it was pretty nasty what she did. Maybe she is having second thoughts and frustrated about marrying this guy and just lashing out at everyone and it just so happens you are the one that she does this too. It doesn't mean she should treat you this way either. I think what you did by approaching her and the reaction you got is enough to sever ties with her, in which you have already done so I think you did great. Its hard to forget what good friends do to you but I think you handled it really well.