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By lols189
@lols189 (4742)
May 16, 2007 8:13pm CST
hi friends and others well this is the conclusion from the first discussion about my boyfriend. well i have not been around as i have been 2 busy getting help for my boyfriend and visiting him in prison. well he had his second court appearance today and the solicitor spoke very positive about him but they refused him bail. i shouted across the room 2 the judges they are plain RACIST as if it was an english person they would of been on bail. i nearly got arrested for purgery which i dont care as i think the world of my boyfriend as most of you will know. i contacted the home office today and the woman made me mad that much on the phone that i told her to F OFF. i am jst basically p*i*s*s*e*d off with all of it as its messing my life up too as well as my boyfriends. he has been remanded in prison until he appears in the crown court on w/c 11th june 2007. he has already pleaded guilty at the magistrates court which he will be sentenced to between 6-18 months. the solicitor told the judge straight that the Home Office is a complete joke which everybody agreed. i am supporting him all through this. also as he has gone i have suffered really bad as i cant eat, when i see food i be sick so i have been eating 1 meal a day if i can manage it. i am really so stressed out at the moment and i am going to see a doctor tomorrow and my life has basically turned upside down. i hope and pray for him as this has really got to me. thanks for reading
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11 responses
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
17 May 07
I am sorry to hear that you are going through all this. I know it is easy to say but please take care of yourself and keep your strength up because if your boyfriend thinks you are not well he will get sick over this. I hope things get better for the both of you.
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@caramello (4377)
• Australia
17 May 07
lols sorry you are feeling so bad, and by the sounds of what you have said, you have a lot on your plate at the moment. As for not being able to eat, stress can do that to you but maybe eat small amounts of something light as you do not want to get too ill from this if you are wanting to support your boyfriend. I am sure all will work out fine but at the moment you need to care for yourself first!
@lols189 (4742)
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17 May 07
thanks for the caring words caramello. also i never used to drink alchol before only on special occasions and for the past week i have been drinking vodka since my boyfriend got remanded on 8th May. i have also missed college too as i am feeling so down. i just dont know what to do as if he is sentenced to 18 months imprisonment i will go crazy completley. thanks for responding
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@marlyse (1056)
• Switzerland
17 May 07
awww sweet lols, sorry to hear they are still mean. but please dont stop eating, you need to be strong. and please please dont be that emotional next time. you cant help him in shouting and some other bad things. try to be calm and try to find another solution. maybe there is another better way to get you both through this time. and dont forget, after a certain time, hes back in your arms. in the meantime you can help both in doing what you did before, go to college, finish your studies and when hes back you can spend more time with him. i wish you both luck and you are in my prayers sweet. hugs and love
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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19 Jun 07
Seems so long since I saw your one of your discussion, I actually wished it was sooner :)
I hope to see you around here some point, although I do recall seeing you had some exams on so I hope they've gone well and I'll see ya when your back.
Keep in there. :)
~Joey
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@retardedrugrat (4791)
• Canada
17 May 07
I'm sorry that you're going through all of this lols. Honey, you need to try and eat.
Small meals and light ones are much better than trying to force down just one meal a day. Even if this means just small snacks throughout the day, it'll do you the world of good.
Please put the vodka to one side. The bottle is not your friend and will make everything seem so much worse. Try to keep calm, and visit your partner as often as you can. He needs you to be strong for both of you now.
I'm praying that everything works out well for you both.
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@mummymo (23706)
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17 May 07
Sweety my heart is breaking for you and I will continue to pray for yourself and your boyfriend! i hope you don't mind me saying this but you have to stay strong, try to stay positive and EAT! Let us know how you get on with the dr, please! I understand why you are angry - have you thought of trying to release some of your anger and frustration through physical exercise, running , gymwork or a punch bag etc? It may help your stress levels and it may also help you manage to eat something! I am not going to preach - just remember I am here if you need me sweet! xxx
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@petspets (476)
• Antarctica
17 May 07
Hugs, lols. You are going through a lot and so is your boyfriend. Please stop doing any thing negative for your boyfriend's sake. He needs you to be strong and to visit him. At the next court case, try , please try not to show any emotion. It'll make the judge meaner. I know what it is like to wait for someone to come out of prison. It was a four year term. More hugs to you.
I 'll be praying for you and your boyfriend.
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 May 07
Lols Darling I am so sorry you are going through all of this and I wish that they would let him out on Bail
But listen Sweetie you need your Strength for him and the only way to keep your Strength is by eating and try to keep calm
You are not helping him Sweetie if you end up Ill and then you can't help him the way you want to
So please try and eat even if it is just a little bit
You know where I am
Love and a big Hug to you Babe xx
@recycledgoth (9894)
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17 May 07
Sorry to hear this hun. I know this will be a difficult time for you but you must try and keep your cool, stay off the booze and keep positive. It will not help your boyfriend's case if you get mad and shout at people, and if you want to help him then you will have to be very strong and steady. I hope this helps hun and I hope things will be sorted out
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
17 May 07
Ohhh my, that was really sad. But you have to be strong for your boyfriend. I know that it would not be as easy as it can be. If you wanted to help your boyfriend, you should start it from your self. You have to be much strong, I'm sure he will need you and your support all the time. He would not feel better when he see you sad. Just make him feel that you're always there and that you care for him alot.
I'll pray for you and your boyfriend.
