Do all men feel afraid of responsibilities?

@jencai (3415)
Philippines
May 17, 2007 11:14am CST
I mean, do you feel afraid of getting married to someone you love? This is with regards to one of my discussions I have posted here in MyLot. I feel frustrated with my boyfriend. After 8 years of boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, he don't even proposed to me yet. I guess I know the answer why he did not ask me to marry him until now. He's afraid of responsibilities. I'm sure. Do all men feel this way? Please share your comments.
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8 responses
• United States
2 Jun 07
I have a friend who wants to propose to his gf, but doesnt because he doesnt feel he is good enough to marry her bc he can't afford the ring he wants....much less a wedding...so maybe it is not you or cowardice thats stopping him, but something else.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
I hope I know what makes him feel like that. If I could only see what's inside his heart.. sigh. Anyway, thank's for sharing!
@adidas7878 (2013)
• United States
21 May 07
not me i am not afarid of respondsibilties, i take them seriously and i proposed to my ex before even though it didnt work out. but hey it will work out with different one eventurally and i am not afarid of commitments.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
I'm glad you're not. Thank's for that!
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
18 May 07
I guess not all men are afraid to face responsibilities when it comes to any situation in life, but sad to say there are just really some who are afraid when it comes to this, the reason we don't really know exactly what it is; only themselves know for sure.
@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
I don't think they're some but instead most are somewhat like that. I'm not sure about it. Who knows? Anyway, thank's for the comment you have given.
@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
18 May 07
I don't think anyone is afraid of getting married. It is the consequences after marriage that people are afraid of, man and woman likewise. It is not only man, I would think. In your case, if your boyfriend does not propose, why not you do the proposal? In today's world, it does not really matter who should be the one making the first move. Can you be sure he is afraid of responsibilities or he is not ready to shoulder the responsibilities? A man's pride surely does not allow his wife to provide for the family if he is not able to do so now. lol.
@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
You got some points with you. I appreciate it but I don't think I could do that. Not now. Thank's for the advise!
• Philippines
17 May 07
yah men are really affraid of responsibilities and commetment. I am really affraid of it. maybe im not ready yet to commit.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
You are? I feel sad about it. But I have to move on. Thank's for the response!
@jarves (814)
• Philippines
17 May 07
Not all men are afraid of responsibilities. I'm not.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
True, but I guess most of them are like that. Thank's for the response!
• United States
17 May 07
I do think it does frighten some men to think to spend their rest of their lives with one person. Some men may have had an experience to where they don't want that married life. My husband didn't want to be married he said until he was ready. I think it is better to marry when you know you are ready because there may be still some things he wants to get done before you tie the knot.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Probably you're right. I just can't convince myself that easy. Anyway, thank's for the thoughts you have shared!
@bindishah (2062)
• India
17 May 07
All men dont feel that way - only cowards do. Im sorry if I sound harsh but if he has nto asked you to marry him yet, he probably never will. My boyfriend and I just broke up over the same issue. So Im a little harsh and bitter about the whole thing.
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@jencai (3415)
• Philippines
2 Jun 07
Yeah, I just forget all about it. I never wanted to open that matter with him anymore. Thank's for sharing!