Have you ever cheated on your partner?

@joice86 (1078)
Philippines
May 18, 2007 3:16am CST
Hmmm, don't get me wrong here! I just want to know if how many of you here ever tried to cheat on their partners? I have asked this question because yesterday, as I have been chatting with someone, I asked him if he has a girlfriend, and he answered no. Ok, I believed him for a moment but when I checked his friendster without him knowing, I found out that he has a wife and two kids. So I tell him about it and then he just say sorry and admitted that he has a wife. I have also known several people who really cheated on their partners. I guess cheating is very rampant nowadays. Don't you think so?Why is it that when people get the chance to cheat on their partners, they grab that opportunity. What do you think? Have you ever cheated? In what way and why?
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38 responses
@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
19 May 07
I have never cheated on my partner because no one in thier right mind would have anything to do with me.
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• United States
22 May 07
Im his wife and I don't care if he cheated on me, it would get him out of the house and I could have some peace and quiet. I bet he would hide the remote before he left.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
:-) Yes, you are right and good to know that you have never cheated your partner.
@firumon (501)
• India
19 May 07
Cheated by the partner is a very painfull thing that we ever got. I am not cheated by anyone, i am not married. But one of my friend has the same situation. Their marriage was a arranged marriage. But his partner had a lover. Its not known by us before marriage. Now what happened, my needy friend become very dull. We are trying to make him smart and compulsing him to marry another. The one great thing they have no childrens till divorce. What ever may be we want to enquire too much before marriage about the one who become our partner. It is happened both in the case of man and woman. After marriage divorce is a cheap thing. So enquire the backgrounds each other very well......
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Yes, i agree with you. You should really know your partner first before getting married... Marriage is a lifetime commitment which you should know.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 May 07
I have never and I will never cheat on a partner. However I have ´been cheated on and the pain that u feel after that I am not even able to describe. I would never wanna hurt someone else like that, besides if you do feel the need to cheat u are probably in a bad relationship..
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, you don't have to revenge for something that happened to you. If you were hurt, then end it there. Don't try hurting someone also because you were hurt already. You already know how it feels and don't let anyone feel the same way too.
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• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on any of my ex boyfriends and I have never cheated on my current boyfriend, nor will I ever. I believe in Karma. If I feel the need to stray, then I just leave the relationship because that means I am no longer in love. And what's the point of staying in a relationship in which there is no love?
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Am just like you and I believe in karma too. I will just end my relationship if I no longer in love with that person instead of committing a sin.
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• United States
18 May 07
I have cheated on my spouse 2 years ago. I was leaving and my spouse knew I was ready to leave. My spouse didn't care, until I said I was pregnant with my third child. I had to tell him that I was having an affair with his uncle (which was 7 years apart). I din't know how the father was. So on my part it was best if all parties knew that it could be theirs. After he found out about the affair he wanted me back in his life, and opened up to me for the first time in his life. I also learned 7 months later that if you cheat God will get you back for it end the end. I was 7 months pregnant, they had to take my baby and I had to hav open Heart surgery. Everyone in the family said that is what I get for cheating.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Are you still with your spouse now? Yes, that happens that when you committed a mistake, it sometimes get back on you in any way.
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@Eve_888 (23)
• United States
19 May 07
I believe in "karma" as well. A lot of people dint know how fast karma can hit you back. I've been cheated more than once by my ex-partner and common reason for doing so is that they were not contented. While most men (Im not generalizing, bcoz i know women do it too & some men are loyal) are born polygamous, there are some men when they don't get what they want...they look for that missing piece. If you don't caught them, they will not confess their sins. I am just lucky that after all those years of failed relationships, i finally found someone who's honest to me. from a man's point fo view I asked him, why dint you cheat on me? He said: "he couldn't ask for anything more". I believe when you really love a person and you're happy in a relationship, there'll be no reason for you to look around when you had it all. I hope this answer your question Joice. :)
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, it does and thanks for your thoughts. Contentment is really a reason for a person not to look for another else and hope that everyone is like your partner. You are lucky to have him in your life.
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@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on any of my partners. This is something I would not do. I don't care if others are doing it, I will not. Years ago, I hade several chances to cheat, not so much of my choosing, as someone else want my attention. I stayed loyal to my wife and I would always be with only one person at a time. In the end, cheating serves no purpose. If you choose to cheat because your current relationship is not what you want it to be, then it is your responsibility to fix it and make it work or end it before you go off and find another relationship.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, I agree with you. You gain nothing from cheating and that you should know how to handle things when they are falling out of place. Cheating is not a way of solving your problem, it's just adding to it.
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• Philippines
19 May 07
I have. I think every guy would cheat on their partner if they can get away with it.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Yes, men are like that.
@cassidy22 (2974)
• United States
19 May 07
Cheating isn't any more rampant these days, people are just less discreet about it, because they think they can be anonymous on the internet. As for me, I would never cheat, I would never consider cheating, and I don't even give it a second thought. I have a happy marriage, and there isn't anything out there another man can give me than my husband already does. There ARE still people in this world that take their marriage vows seriously, and my husband and I are 2 of those people.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Nice to know that one... Hope and pray that your relationship will be forever.
@twils2 (1812)
• United States
18 May 07
I cheated on my ex wife way back when. I would never cheat on my current wife because I love her so much more. when thinking back, I was just looking for a way out because I really wasnt happy in that marraige. I really cant understand why someone that claims to love his wife would cheat. Society as a whole dosent seem to have very many morals anymore and thats whats really sad. People just seem to want what they want and dont care who's toes they have to step on to get it. Take care, Terry
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
18 May 07
That is very true Terry. People will do anything to get what they want and their thinking is who cares who gets hurt along the way.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
18 May 07
Yes, you are right. People nowadays are different compared to before... And good that you are not cheating your current wife now. LOL.. Thanks for the response!
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@Zelmarq (12585)
• Cebu City, Philippines
18 May 07
I dont call it cheating when you tell your boyfriend about a crush you have way bakc in college and he is still a crush even if already have a boyfriend. I treat my boyfriend as my best friend, we talk a lot about things and I open up with him about my crush and the way I feel. I also chatted with someone from Australia, I thought he was cute and was nice to talk with and he was honest that he has 3 children and a wife. He even told me that If I would make things serious with him he would leave his wife and would choose me for according to him he was not happy with his marriage. Of course I didnt let him ruin his family and ruin my life, I told him we were better off as friends and he was working out his relationship with his wife. There was no point that I ever fell out of love with my boyfriend during those times that I had that chatmate, coz I know where he stand and it s right there at the center of my heart. I think I just enjoyed the idea of being able to talk to this far away guy and was happy with his company and it was a great friendship that we have shared. Although it was not so easy on his part for he sent me an email about how he just felt for me. Well, at least I have seen how he just felt that way because he was having marital problems and he thought I was the answer to his problems. Sorry for a very long response its just that those words just came flowing.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
No, your response is beautiful. Don't felt sorry when you have longer response because people may just appreciate you for that for taking the time to put such a long response. I appreciate it. Yes, it's good that you have open communication with your boyfriend and he knows what you feels and thinks. And for you r chatmate, good that he is honest enough to tell you the truth.
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@jbelle (912)
• Philippines
18 May 07
is it usual that sometimes there are temptations in our relationship since we are just human being but for me temptations are test on how faithfula nd loyal to our partners. i had been disloyal to my previous relationship but it made me a better person for i=ve learned from those mistakes and i now avoid and as much as i can avoid temptations we must be afraid of what we so called "karma"
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
18 May 07
Thanks for being honest... Thanks for the response...
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@mr_ilham (1608)
• Indonesia
19 May 07
i never cheat my friend that not good but if i do i have difficult situation http://mrezanailham.blogspot.com
• Indonesia
18 May 07
ooh soorryy, iforgot.. i'll never cheated my partner cause they are cheated me
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, that's should be. Don't cheat just because someone cheated on you.
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• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on anyone. Its just something I could never do. There are many reasons why I don't cheat in additon to not wanting to hurt someone I supposedly care about, the trust issues it brings up the main reason I don't cheat is because of me. I am better than that and I have more respect for myself than that. I don't need the ego boost, I am very secure in knowing I am an extrodinary person and I have more respect for myself than that.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, I agree with you that if you really have respect for yourself then you don't do anything to make yourself bad.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 May 07
no hon, I have never cheated on my partner, and I just don't think that I could do it.
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Good to know that one. Your husband is lucky for having you as his wife.
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• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on my husband and don't really see me doing so in the near future or beyond. It just is not something that I do. I cheated on a couple of boyfriends when I was younger, but it has been quite a few years ago now. :) I do agree that cheating has become almost a sport of kinds with couples now a days. It seems that everywhere I turn, even in my little town, people are running around on their loved ones. All it is, is hurtful. JMO
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, that's the trend nowadays and it is so hard to trust already when you been cheated. It is good to know that you are not going to cheat on your husband. That cheating for you is gone already.
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@psycho74 (124)
• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on my husband, even when we were dating. But I have cheated on people before. Cheating was my way of getting revenge for something. I regret doing it now, but at the time I really didn't care.
@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
Yes, cheating is really one way of getting revenge. But it is not good to revenge all the time.
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@goosal (158)
• Indonesia
19 May 07
everyone have ever cheated certainly. But sometimes "cheating" need to do and sometimes don't to do. many reason people have cheated to other people or to her/his partner. But i was think that cheated to good reason can be do. like : cheat to other people with reason if he/she tell the truth can make other people very-very angry / vengeance and make the trouble that can hurt other peoples. And answer for your question is : Yes, I have ever cheated to my partner Hope you can unterstand my purpose. (sorry for my "tarzan" English, cause i am learning thats) cheers.... GoosaLeoEdo
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
I don't have a good english too...LOL...Well, good that you are honest enough to admit that you have cheated on your partner...Hope you will not do it again...lol
• India
19 May 07
i said to my partner that i dont have a girlfriend but in reality i have three i do that because i am not in mood to tell him he is flirt type i dont like him thats why i do this
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Huh, why are you doing that? I think even if that girl is flirt, then it would be better if you will tell her the truth...But then it's up to you what you really want to do..
@zeqi1985 (20)
• Turkey
18 May 07
i have not but always thouht as you why people ever cheat if wanna be with someboby else then just break up..and be a honest person..i think that occurs because people want more and more they are gready and want always more...
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@joice86 (1078)
• Philippines
19 May 07
They cheat maybe because they are just wanting something else and they still want to keep the relationship with his partner. It's just that he wants to play around maybe.
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