Your parents` s dreams about your perferct job

@magica (3710)
Bulgaria
May 18, 2007 8:01am CST
Are your parents supporters of your own plans and ambition for a good job? Or they have their own ideas and force you to satisfy them? How aggressive are they when you are looking for job? Do they encourage you to o on your own way or they use your situation to treat you like looser? My parents are people who never understand what i really need. And i am sick and tired of their manipulations on this topic. Are the money or their lack the only criteria for everything? For my mother for a small amount of money i must accept EVERY work without to be pretentious. And of course, i must feel guilty that i just want something different, something what will bring to me money, but more-personal satisfaction. I am tired. I am really tired of her complete misunderstanding and scandals about this.
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16 responses
• Canada
18 May 07
They don't force me, because I don't allow them to force me. They have big problems because my career as a writer doesn't bring in the money they'd like to see me bring in, and the other day my paternal grandfather told me I need to get "a real job" because he "always had one." Now I just ignore them.
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
19 May 07
Great! You are a writer like me:-) And yes, i guess what do you want to say: the people who are art natures never win enough to satisfy the expectation for "normal" full-time job with regular income.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
18 May 07
My situation was totally different than yours. My parents did not care about my future at all. I had to live on my own since my age 16. They did not supported me in any way. So the parents are so different, as you can see. (My son is only seven years old, but I try to give every chance for him to try out. Now he wants to be a bus-constructor, so I try to help him in this way :) I let him do sport-activities regularly, I take him everywhere I can.) I do not want him to be a looser, but I am afraid I say this too often to him :) I think the parents have much more experience, than the children. And your parents want the best for you, or at least they want you to avoid those difficulties, that they had. What is the less bad if they care with you too much, or if they do not care with you at all? YOu know it is not easy to find the middle way. Anyway if you do not have any workexperience, you should accept every work. All kinds of workexperiences make you a wild spectrum person, that can help you in the better jobs.
@Dolcerina (3379)
• Hungary
18 May 07
I see you are 38 :) well, in this case they only are worried. But as I know the numbers of unemployments are very high in your country. So they worrying is not baseless.
@marababe (2511)
• Philippines
19 May 07
When I was young and I go to my dad's office he always tell his colleagues: "Hey, this is my daughter. She's going to be a doctor when she grows up." and "Hey, this is my son. he's going to be a lawyer and politician when he grows up." Well, I never dream of becoming a doctor, ever. I'm scared of needles and I cry when I see severely sick people especially those who are already old and sick. My mom doesn't really have any specific perfect job for me. She just wants me to finish college and find a decent and high paying job. What I wanted ever since is to become a flight attendant or something that includes touring and traveling and other fancy things. My dad supports me. He's not like pressuring me to do something he knows I don't like. He wants me to become a doctor but he knows even if I took the course, I wouldn't be happy and I wouldn't do good. My parents support whatever I want to be in life. I respect that and I'm happy that's why I'm doing my best to really finsih my college this year and find a really good job that would make them proud in the end.
• China
19 May 07
I'm so sorry to know your condition.It's lucky for me to have the different kind of parents. My parents never forced me to do something, though I think they also didn't understand me. My advice is that you can talk with them, tell them what you want and need. Maybe it will be better.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
19 May 07
I have to say that my mom has always encourage us kids to do whatever we wanted to do. As long as we were happy she was fine with the choices we made. There were a few times that when I would have to get some job just to make ends meet but my mom would tell me to do what I need to till I could find something I like better. I am appreciative to have the mother I have.
• India
19 May 07
ya my parents supports me a lot but i dont study well but i have a aim to be a software engineer and i will be in future !
• Philippines
19 May 07
Most parents believe that they know what's best for their children. However, this premise is quite arguable, considering that teenage children themselves already have insights on what they would want of their future to be. In an ideal world, parents could only offer pieces of advice, but not the imposition or manipulation of their children's decision and future. After all, the abilities and interests of the young are the prime determinants of how and where a person would be in the future. Secondly, there is a need to look at the personality and behavioral factors concerning the adolescents, since these also pose a great impact on the course their planning or willing to take. Half-decided, they can be overpowered by the challenges ahead. Compelled without free will, they may end up quitting the plan or rebelling against authority. At the end of the day, communication is the best means to arrive at a consensus and a decision thereafter.
@MGjhaud (22841)
• Philippines
19 May 07
are parents are supported ever since to everything that i wanted to do with my life. well of course, ev\xcept for those, that i know myself, unacceptable like acquiring a huge tattoo on my back. hehe.. seriously. my dreams are my parents dreams for me. fortune, popularity, power aren't what exactly they dream of me to have in the future. as long as it is for the good and respectful -- it's ok with them.
• Philippines
19 May 07
my parent's dream about my perfect job is being an administrative manager for a company. A simple one but will help me bring bread for my family. I was hoping to get a job like that but i'll try if there are some offers around. try and try until i die.. until i get what i want i will never lose.
@meljessxena (2317)
• Australia
19 May 07
suprisingly my parents are real supportive of my own plans and my choices on things, they do try and help to guide me and if i dont agree i just say so and they just dont worry about it. im there youngest of 6 so they have learnt to just try and reason and understand me.
@nill_07 (1104)
• Bangladesh
18 May 07
Of course, I also think every parent dream about their child's perfect job. Think cooly.. Whatever your parents says is good for you. You want to think different & you want to do different that is good. But let it recognize your parent. I think they will appreciate it..
@winterose (39897)
• Canada
18 May 07
I know how frustrating that is, but if you are of age, you must do the jobs that suit you. You must live your own life. Don't ignore everything your parents say just because they are you parents though, they are not stupid and have lived life much longer than you have. They are just trying to make you learn from their mistakes or the mistakes of the people they know. In my case I am older the parent, I explained to my son the reasons I wanted him to do whatever, after that he made his own decision. Right now I am a writer, my family do not understand anything about writing or why I do it. They don't consider it a real job, but I don't care, it is very real for me and it makes me happy. My son and my fiance do understand and that is all th at counts.
• Philippines
18 May 07
im very lucky to have parents who think they know what's best for me..cause if i did id be long gone by now..my parents try to support in everything i do..that's why we're very close..i pity those persons who have parents that are ambitiious cause theyre not free..their lives are constraint in the hands of their parents..
@maehan (1445)
• United States
18 May 07
All parent dreams big about their child career. Same goes to my parent. But, they support whatever I do and my job. They are sweet and nice. They kept reminding me that not everybody can be a manager, director or CEO. Be what you are and the most important thing that you must be happy with your job and life.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
18 May 07
My mother and father were not very supportive of my dreams. I wanted to be a fashion designer. From the time I was a little girl, I was hand sewing or fashioning clothing for my dolls. I knew how to hand sew when I was 8. I taught myself. I taught myself how to draw and became very good at designing gowns and wedding gowns. That was my passion! I had a notebook full of designs I had kept hidden and I took them to my mother one day and told her this is what I wanted to be when I grew up. She told me to forget it and to try to get a normal job like a secretary or a nurse so I could have regular paychecks because jobs like this I would never make money because I wasn't that good at it and I didn't have the patience. I was heartbroken and my dreams were dashed. I did become a secretary and I have been ok with it. I am very good at organizing and I am very good at my job, but I regret not standing up for myself and following my dreams at any cost.
• Philippines
18 May 07
This is a tricky question for me. Most of the time, I really value my parents' advice. They are very supportive, but they can be a little overbearing when they think that they're right. I've learned though, that in the end, it is really your decision to make, and nothing they can really force you to do what you don't want to do. It just gets tiring to have to listen to them talk about it again and again even when you've made your decision. Now I try to think about it this way: that I'd rather have my parents disagree with me as to my choice of profession rather than choosing something that I know will make me miserable, and blaming them about it later.