Have you ever "cheated" on someone?

United States
May 18, 2007 8:18am CST
I had a woman comment to me that "everyone cheats" at some time in their life. I had to think long and hard and came up with the conclusion that she is obviously wrong as I've never cheated on anyone, boyfriend or spouse. She says I'm one in a million, but I think she might be off on this. Hopefully there are many out there that think if you're not happy in the situation you're in you either leave it or talk it out and fix it... not simply cheat with someone else! Have you ever cheated on a lover (married or unmarried)?
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@gewcew23 (8007)
• United States
18 May 07
Well, I guess that makes 3 of us. I have never cheated on my boyfriends when I was younger or my hunsband now that I am married. I don't even think about any other guys. I guess that makes us the minorities. I would rather be this than in the majority then. My grandparents have been married like 52 years and neither of them have cheated on the other and my husbands grandparents have been married like 62 years and neither of them have cheated on the other so I think it is more common than she thinks it is.
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• United States
18 May 07
i think cheating is juvenile. it sure doesn't solve a problem. i think all it does is further complicate an already complicated relationship.if you are not happy with your partner and feel the need to go somewhere else then you need to leave them before you do it. at one point in time you loved that person and you should still have enough respect for them to not totally crush their heart.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
18 May 07
No, I have never. I had it done to me and it was such a real blow. I will break up with someone before I would cheat on them.
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@samson1967 (7414)
• India
18 May 07
You are right! all are not cheaters. Getting cheated is bigger sin.
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@castleghost (1304)
• United States
18 May 07
I have never, nor would I ever cheat on the one that I love. I have been on the other end of having someone cheat on me. I didn't care to much for the feelings that I had. I would try to make the best of the relationship that I was currently in or I would end it before I began another with someone else. It isn't fair to anyone of us to begin an affair until the orginal relationship is over. She is wrong about everyone cheating sooner or later.
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• United States
18 May 07
I've never cheated, but I've been cheated on. Being on that side of the table has ensured that I will never do that to anyone. The pain was so intense, which of course fueled a great deal of anger toward the both of them. It was so difficult to forgive and so difficult for me to trust in future relationships. It was a long time ago and it still fires me up.
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@sweetdesign (5142)
• United States
19 May 07
Count that as more than one in a million. I am however a victim of a cheater as my ex cheated to often to count. But I do not feel that everyone is a cheater. I do however feel that the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater" is closer to the truth. And it amazes me when somebody gets offended and is totally shocked when their boyfriend/spouse cheats on them when they were the one they cheated with with thier previous spouse/bf/gf.
• United States
18 May 07
That is CRAZY, I have never cheated on anyone. When I was married and my marriage was not going well I separated and filed for divorce before even attempting to be with someone else.
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• India
19 May 07
never cheated someone upto now i have cheated my enemies as they cheated me so i cheated thts it not cheated any honest persons upto now
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
19 May 07
I can honestly say that I've never cheated on anyone. I've broken up with someone to be with someone else...and I've known ppl who were cheating on their g/f or spouse. I've been hurt by that before and would never do it to someone else. LIVE IN PEACE
• Canada
19 May 07
Honestly Hockeygal I have never cheated either. I am married now and I have never done it to any boyfriend I was with before my hubby and I sure as hell haven't cheated on my hubby. I think it all goes back to the very first boyfriend I ever had, he cheated on me because I wasn't ready to be in that mature of a relationship (I was only 16) and he couldn't respect me or the fact I wanted to wait. Knowing how it made me feel when I found out he cheated I never wanted to make anyone else feel that way! So yes, obviously not everyone cheats!
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
27 May 07
I have never cheated with anyone as I hate telling lies. I am sincere, loving and to the point kind of man.
@golfproo (1839)
• Canada
19 May 07
I have never cheated on my wife...but she has on me. In truth I do not think there are too many people who have not cheated on their significant others. I think that is just how life is, people have short attention spans and memories.
@icedtee (31)
• Canada
18 May 07
I disagree that everyone cheats. Rather, I think that everyone has a natural tendency to glance at a hot guy/girl as they walk by and perhaps wonder what it'd be like. The ones that do cheat are obviously not completely satisfied with the relationship they're in or they're not willing to commit.
@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
18 May 07
I see, I belong to the vast minority of your responders. Yes, I have cheated, and not only one person and not only once. It was in my wild wild youth, though. It seems, now I've "grown up" long ago.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
18 May 07
No, and i can promise that i am also one in a million in that case coz i also never will. I have been cheated on and that feeling is not something I would wish upon anyone,
@sigma77 (5383)
• United States
18 May 07
I have never cheated on my wife or girlfriends and never would or will. I might be the exception to the rule, but I could care less about what others do. Yes, I agree, this woman is very wrong. I wouldn't be surprised if she has chaeted before and to make it right she assumes that everyone does it. I would leave an unhappy situation if I could not find a way to fix it. I am betting that there are still many more who haven't cheated than have.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
18 May 07
Nope- I’ve never cheated on anyone either- I have always ended a relationship before I started a new one- I think that is the respectful thing to do- Even when I was younger that is what I believed in- Now these days I think young kids are having relations with more people and not really in relationships- like we were when we were younger. Still I’m sure there are lots of us out there that have never cheated on anyone!
@rx4life (1930)
• United States
18 May 07
NEVER! I have also had people tell me that I am one in a million if I am telling the truth...well I am telling the truth and I believe that many others in this world have the same basic morals that I do...I don't believe that everyone cheats..and furthermore I believe that the only people that spout this nonsense are those that try to justify their own actions. I am not judging anyone who has cheated...I am only saying I haven't and wouldn't.. I am a firm believer in leaving my spouse/partner/husband/lover before I would embark on another relationship ...I believe it is the right thing for me...I couldn't live with myself any other way..I have friends that have cheated and they are fine with it on the exterior...but seem to struggle with it internally...
@ututen (139)
• Philippines
18 May 07
eventhough men has always been tagged as natural polygamous me for myself have never tried to cheat on my partner..