When is the right time to have your little kid potty trained?

@piropos (312)
Philippines
May 18, 2007 9:11am CST
Is it okay to force a little child to use the potty even if he is not ready or doesn't want to use it? Or is it better to just wait for him to ask to use it?
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@kgs_mommy (260)
• United States
18 May 07
I personally have just looked for the signs in my daughter. She's only a year old, so she can't actually say that she's ready, but I can tell that she is. She'll take her diaper off, and run to the bathroom. She doesn't use it, but that DOES show me that she's ready. BTW, I got her potty when she was only 9 months old. Believe it or not, it helped. Over that time, she recognizes it as her potty and has used it three times. She knows that that's where you go, and she's not scared of it! Hope that helps!
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
18 May 07
I bought one for my first child even before she could use it but she never did. My friend who is a pre-school teacher told me that it was because of my choice of the potty. She said that my kid refused to use it because she was kind of afraid of it because for her, it looked like a monster of sorts. I am not sure if she was right, but my kid really did not use it at all but learned to use the one in the bathroom all by herself when she was about 2 years old.
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• United States
18 May 07
I think it's better to wait till the kid is ready. Mine just turned 2 last month and he's starting to show SOME interest but not a lot. I try to encourage him but I will not force him. I try to make it fun and interesting for him. I've started putting him in training diapers and taking him after every meal or after he's had a drink. We would spend some time there reading or just talking about going potty. I explain things to him, use the right terms and get him used to the whole experience. Right now, the incentive I have is that he likes to flush so I tell him if he uses the potty, he can flush but if he doesn't, he doesn't get to flush. So far, he's used it everyday just so he can flush! He's only about 20% potty trained now but I'm sure he will be by the end of this year.
@rsa101 (21165)
• Philippines
18 May 07
I did not force my son to use it but I rather convince him thru play therapy. First I introduce the potty as somewhat "toy" where he could sit thru it and be comfortable using it. Then when I saw him that he was quite comfortable using it I slowly introduced to him what the purpose of it and told him he could dump his poops in there. First there was some resistance but then once he was about to make his dump he was asking for his diapers we told him that were out of it and he should dump it there. He relunctanty sat there and made the push and success he was able to make it! After that it took another week or two before he could really accept that he can really dump it there. But we said that he was already big and diapers are small so he should learn to dump it there. All of that happened in his late two's but he was completely weaned out of diapers by age 3. By wage 4 we introduced him to true toilet seat and it was quite easy for him to oblige coz he likes to look at his poops being flushed out.
• Canada
18 May 07
It is ok to show your child the potty and let them get aquainted with it so they are not as scared later on but it is never a good idea to push a child to do something when they are not ready as it will not only be harder on them but also harder on yourself in the long run . If you show that you are upset and disappointed you are putting to much stress on your little to try and please you . All children will do this in time when they are ready and although it doesn't hurt to try every so often , but if your child shows you any indication of being afraid , then you need to stop as it will really only take longer in the end . Just as with anything else in life , a child will not do this just because we want them to but when they are ready and you will be able to recognize the signs yourself when your child is ready .
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@piropos (312)
• Philippines
18 May 07
She did show that she was afraid, for the reason that my friend explained (see comment above) although as I said, I am not sure if the explanation was right. But then, eventually she learned all by herself. Thanks for responding samtaylorskykierajen....
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
18 May 07
As soon as a child feels uncomfortable and can walk, talk the child to the potty, sit him or her on it, and make a big fuss as what as big kid he is if he does his business. I think children catch on. Our sons were trained before they were two. Of course, cloth diapers help as they feel the wetness.