do u think to stronger the relationship u need to act or pretend that u love

May 18, 2007 10:28am CST
i think we need to because they will never understand otherwiae
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@shak143 (1280)
• India
18 May 07
No it's completly wrong and most propably it's difficult to pretend that youlove some one.To maintain a stronger and healthy relationship you need to understand each other and for that you must a have a good communication.You have to discuss you problems and your tensions and your opinions on a thing and most of all is you should care each other. Instead of all is just to pretend that you love them more is not sufficient and it's not good at all to think like that.
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@derek_a (10895)
18 May 07
Yes, I fully agree and I think we all prefer to truth, even if it is not what we want to hear at first.
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@derek_a (10895)
18 May 07
Personally, I wouldn't want a relationship in which I would have to pretend love because sooner or later I might meet somebody I really did love and then I would either have to go on pretending or leave that person and really hurt them. I don't like to hurt people by being untruthful. No matter what reasons I would have, it would end up hurting the other person. At the same time, I would not like someone else to pretend with me either. It happened to me when I was still in my teens - the girl pretended to love me because she just didn't want to be without a boyfriend. Then she met somebody she really had feelings for and just went with him. It took me weeks to get over it, but if she had not lied in the first place I wouldn't have let my feeling go. It also knocked my confidence to get into another relationship.
@limcyjain (3519)
• India
18 May 07
I dont think so that one need to pretend that one loves somebody as love cant be kept aside it would show automatically. Just pretending to be in love wont help as these things do not last long. Every false story would have a sorry ending. So if you are not in love be bold enough to say that and if you are surely in love be rest assured you dont need to act as your actions would show up themselves that you are in love.
19 May 07
if situation takes control of u n if it is inevitable that u have to pretend still u wont pretend
19 May 07
my pretend the things that make u to fight and open with all other things
@Smile25 (43)
18 May 07
Hmmmmmmmmm not at all!!!!! A relationship can be made stronger by emotional bonding, understanding and " LIVE AND LET LIVE"........
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
18 May 07
I wouldn't want to be in a relationship where I couldn't be myself. I shouldn't have to act a certain way to be with the women I love. She should be able to accept me for who I am. I wouldn't want the women I love to be anything that she isn't already. While I admit to have a strong relationship you must learn to compromise that doesn't mean that you should lie to one another to make the other person feel better.
@taurean83 (505)
• United States
18 May 07
NO.I strongly disagree with this idea.Sorry to say.I feels that in every relationship whether you want to make it even more strong,none of your feelings should be fake or false,You cannot lie the person you love.Specially you are sort of misguiding him,If you are just pretending that "OH Honey!!!!I love you a lot this and that" and you do not even mean it.It is simply awful.I think if you are pretending or acting that you love them a lot ,mean you are lying to them.And on the base of lie or acting no relation ship stays longer.You need to be more accurate specially with feelings, if you want your relation ship to work and become strong.
• Canada
18 May 07
True love means never having to lie. True love means you and your partner can be 100% honest, because you will be accepted, regardless of your fault, and you will be respected. It's not love if you can not be totally honest.