I like to married now, but he don't, what I can do?
By Marcellinha
@Marcellinha (58)
Brazil
May 18, 2007 5:46pm CST
I like to marrie now, I like to live with him, sleep and wake up with him in my side, but he say that he is not preparied and we don't have money to sustent our two.
becouse I just don't have finish the university and don't have a job, I know that is not the hour but I don''t suport more live with my parents but I don't like to live alone, I like to marrie!!!!
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7 responses
@steve9737 (918)
• Colombia
19 May 07
if he dont want to get married so I think you would go to live with him without get married mabye he change him mind after
@Marcellinha (58)
• Brazil
19 May 07
He dom't like this becouse he ay that end all the shine of tge marrie, think, if we going to live togethet and before marrie, we going to live of our home, go to the marrie and go back home, that don'1t have any romantism in this, he likes the idea of I go out oh my home and he of there home, marrie and go for the first time to our home, to have the imotion of fineliy we going to live together u.u
he is very romantic in this way and he is rebuttal of live together after the marrie. But I just introduce him to think abour this XD
@hollowheart (1572)
• India
19 May 07
Hi Mercellinha, i can understand ur desires are too high however i must help u as a friend and tell u that till the age of 18 it is not legal to get married, atleast in India. However your age is also too less to get bound into the binds of marriage. The grass always looks greener on the other side. Wait some more time. Understand the difficulties u and ur would be could face, try to analize why he is not ready for marriage yet and then step into it. I do want to see u happy, but not a happiness that would drown u in your own tears. So all the best and give it a thought and some time please.
@Marcellinha (58)
• Brazil
19 May 07
Yes.. I think I have to think more with my head and before my heart ___
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
18 May 07
Yeah, you are still pretty young. I don't know what the age of adulthood is in your country, but scientifically speaking, you're not fully mentally developed until about age 18-20. And concidering the fact that you are really trying to rush into this, you are certainly not ready. Wanting it is not enough, you have to fully understand and think about it. The trials, the hardships, the finances, everything.
You really, really need to wait.
@PsychoDude (2013)
• Netherlands
18 May 07
You're 17, you've still got an entire life to marry ;). Asides from that, you can also just start by living together if you still live at home with your parents. One step done without marriage being a requirement for that, then once financially more stable marry.
@Marcellinha (58)
• Brazil
18 May 07
I kenow that, but I have 2 years and 6 months of daintg, I know that we don't have money to live together but we made a mark that me + him have to earn R$2,000 reais (I live in Brazil) for get married but he don't know when we win this money every month he is alredy ready, he is afraid of my parents that if he ask my to marrie today my mather don't going to stop me but don't going to aprovve and she alredy say if I marrie before ficish the university, him that have to pay the rest.
@silverf0x (125)
• Indonesia
19 May 07
I think it's to fast to married in 17.
I ever in that age and that emotion. I want spend all my time with my partners and I think I ready to be a husband. But, time is the answer. Problems come and we realized that we don't ready to married.
@ahrens12904 (33)
• United States
9 Jun 07
I can't be much help in this department because I am in the same boat as you are I have been with my boyfriend for 5 1/2 years we have live together for 4 years, and we are still not married. I am ready to get married but he isn't yet. So I wait. He wants to be more fianaccly stable which I can understand.
@Lindalinda (4111)
• Canada
18 May 07
No, no no Marcellinha, please don't get married at this stage. Learn a trade, or go to university. Your whole life is ahead of you. Prepare yourself for an independent life because one day you may have to support yourself and a couple of children too. Women need to stand on their own feet to escape poverty and heartache. Your boyfriend sounds like a sensible person. He sees the reality of your situation. If there is friction with your parents and you don't like to live alone move in as a roommate with some other girls and see how it works out. When you turn 18 you can still move in with your boyfriend, get a job or finish your education pick some profession that will support you all your life no matter what comes your way. Good luck to you.
