Could cheating on your partner be considered mental abuse?

United States
May 18, 2007 8:58pm CST
My personal opinion on this is yes, I would consider it mental abuse. I can not speak from a man's point of view but as I woman (and yes, this has happened to me in the past) I feel like I am not woman enough for my partner causing me to lose confidence in myself which in turns causes low self-esteem. What do you think?
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@Swtrose (3385)
• Canada
19 May 07
Cheating is most definitely a form of emotional abuse. Even if a physical affair has never occurred, an emotional affair(online) can be just as devastating and just as damaging.
• United States
19 May 07
I am in total agreement with you. I think an online affair might even be one step worse then an actually physical affair.
@rhinoboy (2129)
1 Jun 07
I agree with this too. Lots of men would find it hard to resist nookie on a plate such as a drunken one-nighter, but an emotional betrayal must be much more hurtful. I've always said that there's no excuse for cheating. If you care little enough about your partner that it would be conceivable to you, then the relationship should end anyway.
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@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
19 May 07
Most definately it could be considered a form of mental abuse....I've been cheated on and I was the one cheating (both of these were many yrs ago) and I know that the man I hurt definately was damaged mentally by my actions and I know I was too when I was cheated on....Its a serious slap to the face, it certainly lowers one self esteem and for some ppl it can do that to the extreme...you do lose confidence in yourself and so on....
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• United States
19 May 07
Definitely mental abuse. I've been cheated on before and it a killer especially for women. Don't get me wrong its bad for men too but women wear their heart on their sleeves.
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
19 May 07
Yes definatly! To me cheating is very abusive. It happened to me before too, but thankfully I wasn't thrilled with the person so it didn't hurt as bad as it could have. If my hubby did it now, a million (probably irrational) thoughts would run thru my head, like he must think i'm fat, the other person must be better looking, i must be doing something wrong ect ect. I for sure think it's mental abuse though.
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@easyzheng (666)
• China
19 May 07
Sure. Any kind of cheating on one's partner is kind of mental abuse, especially things about their feeling. I don't see any meaning of cheating each other if they do want to live happily together.
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@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
19 May 07
Actually i think so too... I mean its such a mental torture because i dun even know if hes cheating anot? I will keep thinking is he cheating on me? Who is he with? What is he even doing now? N slowly, i think that will cause a impact of mental torture as well... I guess afterall, if he loves me... He wouldnt do such a thing to me... If he even loves me, he wouldnt cheat on me right? I hope such a thingy wouldnt happened to me...
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@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
4 Jun 07
If it causes you to lose confidence and causes low self esteem it sounds like mental abuse to me. And how would it not cause those things? I have never caught my husband at it, and I have never done it to him, either, but if I were to do it I would consider it to be reprehensible on so many levels, and one of those levels would definately be emotional and mental abuse.
@shak143 (1279)
• India
19 May 07
In some cases it's right and in some is not.No man want's heart his partner if he really loved him but due to tensions and due to some other problems he behave's like that. Iam not saying this as iam a guy.But iam saying this as i observing in my familly mine is a very huge family and every one is very close to me so i can freely talk to them on this issue and most of them answered that thay are in tensions and when i ask them why don't you tell tehm about your problems they claimed that thye won't understand and if they they get tense.so i don't want to. Some had done this on my saying but after i feel as they are correct they won't understand and instead supporting they create him more problems unknowingly. That's why most of persons instead of telling just keep it in there hearts which makes they rude.