Mothers Extra Marital Affair

May 19, 2007 8:50am CST
My childhood friend who lead a good life( he was a tetotaller) is at present addicted to drugs and chronic alchoholism, because his mother had a physical relation with another man twice. I tried to console him in many best ways, but he his still un happy and loosing interest in his life. Anybody faced such an complicated issues? How? I am expecting a broad answer to resolve my friends agony and grief.
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19 May 07
I am unsure how to respond to this question. If your friend is an adult then his mothers actions are not his responsibility. He needs a good hard shake to wake up to himself. He is using his mothers actions as an excuse to act out and that is not right. A cruel to be kind attitude is what I would adopt. However if your friend is a young teenager then I would seek more professional advice. There are helplines you can ring and they will be able to point you in the right direction as they definately need some kind of help. I'm not sure if this is what you wanted to hear and I don't mean to offend. Good luck.
• India
21 May 07
Thank you so much. I will keep in mind your enouraging words ( He needs a good hard shake to wake up to himself) while resolving further.
@maruti800 (353)
• India
19 May 07
This is a common one.. if she has some affairs with some person, it is really good for her because she has enjoyed, nothing wromg with her.. your friend can now get better tips from his mother, if he wants have some affair with someone..
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19 May 07
I think you misunderstood the discussion. The woman is married and having an affair!
• United States
23 May 07
I'm not exactly sure that his mothers actions can be the blame for his poor choices. I for one get tired of people blaming others on their poor decisions. If he was an adult when these affairs happened or even when he found out about them then he needs to take responsibility for his own actions. His mothers actions may have caused him to become upset but definitely NOT the entire reason for his actions and poor choices.
• India
24 May 07
Well said, one should not blame others, for his/hers own bad activity.