Do you take your kids to church?

United States
May 20, 2007 5:57am CST
Let me preface this by saying that I am not a religious fanatic by any means. But I have noticed that almost all of my oldest son's friends are either atheist or agnostic. And in my neighborhood of young families, hardly anyone takes their kids to church or Sunday school. A few have said they will let their kids grow up and choose a religion for themselves. I think that's a copout! I think kids need some religious guidance or foundation when they are young. Of course they can still choose when they get older. What do you think?
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• Philippines
21 May 07
Actually as I see it, RELIGION is just putting us guidelines on how we can live our lives, to see what's right from wrong. Let's say we dont have ANY religion at all, then killing your fellowmen wouldnt be a wrong thing to do right? Coz there is not even a thought in our heads that it is wrong.. it is just a deed! Do you get me? So for your youngones, I think it would be good to take them to churches and hear mass on Saturdays or Sundays, it will help opening their minds on what they want and do not want to believe in. In this case, when they get older, they'll have a solid basis on what they want and do not want in their beliefs. They will have an idea what they want for their lives. Take for an example the most common accident that is happening to children here in the Philippines... they were told not to stick their fingers in the fan coz they'll get hurt. And still, there are numerous children who gets their fingers hurt, I think it is not because they didnt listen to what they were told to do, but it is in their curious minds to find out why parents keep on nagging them not to do it! So when they got hurt, they now fully understand why! That is the same thing with instilling things in your children's heads! You tell them not to blve in this and that, or rather you dont tell them anything at all.. but what would they have to suffice their curiosity? At least, let them see, what is there with your choice of religion then let them be the judge for their own when they are old enough! :-) I hope you guys get my point! :D
• United States
23 May 07
Kyomboii, Welcome to myLot....I hope that you enjoy the time that you spend in our little community... I think that you expressed your views very fluently!!!
@ParaTed2k (22971)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
21 May 07
The thing is, no matter what beliefs you raise your kids with, there comes a time they have to make their own decisions anyway. They have to decide what they believe and go with it. Raising them with no beliefs only teaches them that one's beliefs aren't important enough to you to pass along to their kids. Of course, if the parents have no beliefs, that's what they'll teach their kids.
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@takkea (394)
• United States
20 May 07
MY mother made it a practice to take me to church with the same mentality that when we grow up we have a choice and I am doing the same thing with mine.
@sunshine4 (8706)
• United States
20 May 07
My husband works every Sunday, so I take my kids to church by myself. I feel it is very important to learn about God and the bible by people who have much more knowledge than I do. Once my kids are confirmed ~ end of 8th grade, they are considered an adult in the eyes of the church, so I let them decide at that time if they will continue to go to church. My oldest son is 18 and he hasn't returned to church only for Easter and Christmas since he has been confirmed. My 16 yr old does still go to church with me and he was confirmed last year. I want my children to feel comfortable going to church and with their religious beliefs.
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• India
21 May 07
still bachelor
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@aekman (100)
• Nigeria
22 May 07
yes
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@sunshinecup (7873)
20 May 07
I tried tried churches, and I tried really, really hard to get into the whole church scene, but in the end I can't stand them. During the time I was trying, my girls tagged along with me. I finally gave up on taking them, when my then 7-year-old child was lead out into the hallway and was asked if she wanted to be baptized by three adults. To me that just didn't feel right at all. These people already knew both of my children were anointed as infants in tradition with my Husbands faith. They also knew I didn't like the idea of baptizing my children because I don't think children are wise enough to make that choice to do so and this is a very important choice to make and not one to take lightly. So we do not attend church. We do read the Bible, we talk about Jesus/God everyday. I also help them look up information about other religions as they have questions. Yes, they will decide what path to follow as adults, I rather they come to God on their own than dragged there. I learned that method doesn’t work very well. My husband cousin’s were forced into their believe as children. They weren’t given any other choice. Now as they are all in their late 30’s early 40’s, out of four, three are atheists.
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• United States
20 May 07
Well, sunshinecup, I totally respect your opinion on this. It sounds like you are doing what is right for your family!
@rubygrace (649)
• Philippines
1 Aug 07
My kids go to church every sunday with me and they memorized 3 verses in a week,i want them to be religious person and i want them to be active in church activity.
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@bowtieguy (5917)
• United States
1 Aug 07
Both of my sons attend church with me every sunday.
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@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
28 May 07
I dont take my children myself. There is a woman that comes and gets them to take them to church if they want to go and i let them if they want to go or they go to church with their grandmother. I wasnt ever made to go to church when i was growing up and i believe there is a God and everything i just dont know anything about religion and the different ones that there are and i dont know much about the bible and i have nothing against anything. I just never had the oppertunity as a child to go and learn and i know it is never too late to start i just find myself uncomfortable going. But i want my children to be able to experience and learn about all of it while they are young and as long as they want to go i will find a way for them to go, then when they get older and then they can chose to do with what they have learned and decide for themselves what they want to do.
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@squaretile (3831)
• Singapore
21 May 07
I would definitely take my kids to church. the challenge is to bring them to a sensible church. there are too many strange churches these days. not all teach the bible faithfully. it's a matter of slowly searching for the right church. it's good that you believe that kids need some guidance and foundation. as parents, it's important to guide a child when he is young. not to force them into belief, since that is better at turning them away forever. if you can't find a church where you are comfortable in, perhaps reading the bible to them at night and guiding them yourself would be good enough for the time being. church provides a community of believers that can help each other grow closer to God. and church is meant to be a community where those who acknowledge that they need help gather. not a place for 'holier than thou' folk! all the best dear!
@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
21 May 07
We're trying to find a church right now. We go most weeks, but sometimes my husband has to work, and then I don't go. I don't really see the point in going to church, while we are still loooking, without my husband. One of us stays in the nursery with our son, so if I were to go without my husband, I wouldn't really know much about the services. I would just basically be able to tell him how big the church was, how many kids there were, etc. Once we find a church that we like, we will be there every Sunday. Even on Sundays my husband works, the baby and I will go. Once we get to know the nursery workers, we might even leave our son back there by himself, but right now, he just isn't ready. And we aren't ready to leave him with total strangers anyway.
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@ellanick (191)
• Philippines
21 May 07
since my kids are still young, i always took them to church whenever i will hear a mass. in that way they already have a gist of what is my religion so that when they grow up i wish that they will follow my religion but i will allow them to practice other religion if they already tried my religion
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@Giabelle (59)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Yes we do bring our kids to church. We want to start early in introducing God in their lives. I totally agree with you, children needs guidance in all aspects of life including religion, that's the main purpose why we are here. We are their first teachers. Molding them with the right moral values and practices will give them a strong foundation and headstart in facing life's struggles. When they're old enough to decide on their own they can freely choose the religion they want.+
@latsmom (824)
20 May 07
I was never brought up having a religion however did celebrate the christian holidays and know the meaning and learn to respect all beliefs even if they were not my own. i have never harmed anyone and always try to treat people as I would myself like to be treated. My daughter has no religion either but if she chose to join one then I would support her all the way. I think that if you have strong beliefs then it is nice to include your children. my daughter has asked to go to church with freinds and I have let her go to Sunday school and although she even at 4 knows the story of Jesus, we are not a religious family. her dad is a catholic and has took her to church with him each year for Christmas mass and if he wanted to have her baptised that woudl be ok but ot being religious myself I feel I am not in any position to preach to my daughter, as long as I teach her respect and right from wrong I hope she follows the right path as I have done and if she woudl like to have a religion in the future I would be more than happy to support her and even go with her to church.I see no problem in giving your child your religion if that is your wisb but I also feel that everyone should be entitled to there own opinion and as long as there children are brought up properly Idon't see that it would make a big difference in the way their child turns out.
• United States
20 May 07
I don't take my son to church, because we don't go to church. I've always been a firm believer in you are who you want to be, and believe in what you wan to believe in. You can worship wherever you want, it doesn't have to be in a church building.
@chileman (968)
• Australia
21 May 07
Yes I think it is good for children to be taken to Sunday School/kids church where ever that may be. Mind you the church isn't a building as such, it's a group of people gathered together in God's name. I want my kids to get as much information and spiritual guidance as possible in the day and age of materialism and looking out for #1 and no one else.
@tinamwhite (3255)
• United States
23 May 07
While I am not a overly religious person either...I do not attend church currently...I think that when a child begins asking qestions abot things that are bigger than themselves...God....then it is time to discuss with them the beliefs that your family shares...I also think that they need to understand that there are many religions out there....but a solid beginning aids the child in making the choices later in life about how they feel about religion.... Myself, I have studied several different demoninations of religions; I do not agree with the belief that one is better than the other...I am sure many will disagree with me....Every religion empowers some greater power than US....what happens next is where it gets tricky....my children attended church when they were younger...until they were teenagers...I strongly encouraged them to attend services...then the choice has to be theirs...
@aekman (100)
• Nigeria
22 May 07
Yes,i do take my kids to church not only on sundays but weekdays aswell.