Hurted? So what?

@magica (3707)
Bulgaria
May 20, 2007 6:53am CST
How you overcome your negative feelings? Well...all of us know the pain of the separation, all of us have been hurted...Some people closed in themselves and try to keep their private world safe. Others try to prove themselves that they are ready right now to find better variant as relation, friendship, job or just new adventures? Third people are victims of the unfair fate and they can spend many, many years just complaining and blaming... Fourth kind of people are aggressive and treat the oposite gender as enemy and start a war... How about you? And how much of us in fact understand that every end is a new beggining and every sorrow is a door to the wisdom?
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Aatifff
@Aatifff (4)
• Pakistan
21 May 07
what is more ,the punk think is gone forever..to play more live...,earn money by the way and so being able to afford studiotime......
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iced1992
@iced1992 (11)
• Netherlands
21 May 07
I won't try to convince you of this standard but please to not think of this lightly: Both pain and happiness are nothing more than a temporarily response of your brain to whatever situation, based on the images YOU have about them (them corresponding to the situation). So, try not to get fed up reaching goals or wanting to hurt yourself for having such a sucking life, because in the end, only money counts... ~[W.I.C.]
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subha12
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 May 07
i can't clearly categorize myself in any ine group. may be i am mixture of two types. i am agglomaration of 2 and 3. i know i must not cry over the split milk. but sometimes can't help it.
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KissThis
@KissThis (3003)
• United States
21 May 07
Personally, I try to look back at the relationship so that I am able to figure out what went wrong so that I don't make the same mistakes. Up until my current relationship I have always kept myself closed off for the most part. I have always been afraid of getting hurt so when I thought that I was getting to involved with someone I would break it off. Now I realize that if I had opened up more I could have had been happier sooner.
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afternoontea
@afternoontea (1005)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
I am the one who is always getting down when I got hurt. I know that I have to overcome the negative feeling but it is just so hard.. I usually make myself busy like cleaning the house or make up my room until I feel a litle better and I can think that I did not hurt that bad. Life goes on and I stil have many things to do, many people who love me and everything will be better If I can forgive... I will say every night after pray "I will forgive ... (the name) that hurt me today" I'll do that until I I really forgive the one that hurt me..
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fengbo
@fengbo (731)
• China
21 May 07
Today people have many manner to live.but which manners do you choose it will hard.Though my family is not very well and i don't unfair fate any more.you don't choose your family but your can make your career in the future.
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Lydia1901
@Lydia1901 (16351)
• United States
23 May 07
I try to grief so that I can move on with my life and get it all out of my chest. After that, I will find something that will distract me from thinking about the hurt.
winterose
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
20 May 07
yes many people have been hurt, we don't say hurted, in english. we can be a better or a worse person because of those hurts. I have a friend that used to say what won't make you bitter will make you better.
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aidonia
@aidonia (4209)
• Greece
20 May 07
I know how much a separation can make you fell pain but also know that each one of us are free,and I prefer stay away from someone that I have him without is with me %100 .Give yourself little time ,don't avoid feel the pain and at the end a new better tomorrow will come.Just keep your mind and heart open.
a_robinnep
@a_robinnep (529)
• Nepal
20 May 07
When i am thinking negative my mind is going in negative way and slowly i am going to change my thinking in positive way when i am thinking positively than its going on positive track.
mamasan34
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
20 May 07
I handle different relationships differently. I most often just try to take the information I learned from that past hurt and use it in my present relationship to better myself. I have made the mistake of being bitter and holding grudges. It gets you nowhere. I am not perfect by any means and this keeps me grounded and humbled.
collstarx
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
21 May 07
Well, I bought the thing right away. It’s done a lot for me, showing me how to convince myself of what I’m capable of doing. Best regards
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Sherry12
@Sherry12 (2472)
• United States
20 May 07
When I'm in the middle of a situation it is very had to realize it is a new beginning and a door to wisdom. Though after I am over it, I can see that as being true. I pray when something happens, and spend time with friends talking.
RockShanghai
@RockShanghai (86)
• China
20 May 07
My advice is... go running, take a shower and then sleep. This is the most effective method for me:)
donsky14
@donsky14 (5947)
• Philippines
20 May 07
Personally I haven't experience getting hurt because of seperation. I have been hurt in the past but, its a different situation. How I overcome my negative feelings? Uhm,by my friends. They gave me comfort during those times...they kept me entertained for me to forget the hurting. And I also turned to music during those times...it helped me a lot.