What if you were in this situation?

United States
May 20, 2007 7:44am CST
You got married. In the first three months of your marriage you hava a lot of misunderstandings, then you tried to talk about it with your partner, then for some reasons your partner avoid confrontations. Unknowingly he was talking behind your back, sharing your problems with a girl that your partner thought he liked and tearing you. Then later you suspected and tried to ask your partner about it. But your partner denied. Until you found it out yourself. But the moment you found it you even askeed him first a lot of times but he still denied, thinking you still dont know about it. Until you told him the proofs and your partner end up speechless, later apologize and said it was nothing for he didnt court the girl. But for the fact they talked almost everday even during unholy hours... Then you let him choose and he had choosen you. He realized he didnt really like the girl. So you give your marriage another chance, eventhough the trust was already shattered. After that incident your partner really didnt win your trust again because of some incidents, this time the issue is not about another girl anymore. You just discovered he really lied a lot... and still keeps on talking behind your back, not only with one person but more than 2 persons. Another problem you have with your marriage is your partner's family and his atittude towards it... (HE just follow what his mom told him to do so... ) What would you do if you were in this shoe? Do you think it would still end up into a healthy relationship? This turmoil happened for a span of 11 months of your marriage.
2 responses
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
20 May 07
I doubt so... Unless he can really get himself out of all this mess and wins my trust once again... Which is like so hard... Once bitten twice shy... Besides... It takes a year to build the trust and just one day to break it... U broke my trust once and again and u expect me to trust u again? Definately not... I saw a show on channel 8... The evil mum dun like the daughter and law and keeps trying to break the couple up... In the end, the couple really broke up... N like what u said... The guy listens everything to the mum... N when he realises his mistake... Its all too late...
• United States
20 May 07
yeah I agree with you. Thanks. Trust is something really to be earned. Take care
@onerygirl (549)
• United States
29 May 07
It sounds like the two of you are having communication problems. Sometimes, talking is the hardest thing to do in a relationship....next to listening. Do you think you could get him to go to a counselor with you? It would be very hard to develop trust again but if you seriously want this relationship to work, there has to be trust. I think you have to seriously look at where you are and where you want to be. You probably already know the answer to your question but just don't want to accept it. Good luck.