How to kill a mood in 5 seconds or less!

United States
May 20, 2007 9:00am CST
My morning has consisted of trying to chat with my deployed husband online which ended so fast it made my head spin. I didn't even get to say goodbye, which made me break down and cry. I had a kitchen full of ants when I got up so I was already in a less than perfect mood, but when I saw his name come online (we were supposed to chat 3 hours before it actually came up) I was ecstatic. Then it happened like that. What a downer! So then I scoot over to myLot and read about the 6 US troops killed in the bombing in Baghdad. Well, that of course didn't help either. As much as I love myLot, I may have to leave because I tend to stay away from the news just because it makes me worry more and gives me more reasons to be depressed. But on here, I have to read it. Once I see it, I read it and then begins the downward spiral. I should just be grateful that I got to hear from him at all. I know some wives don't, depending on where their husbands are or what they are doing. But I really don't know what is worse for me...not hearing from him at all, or having him there for just a moment and then him having to go before I can even say, "I love you. Goodbye." Do you guys get to hear from your husbands or chat with them? Do you rely on letters or is that even a possibility with you all? I would love to hear how other people deal with the communication issue while their families are deployed.
4 responses
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
20 May 07
My husbands last deployment he was able to call me everyday except when he went on missions and then sometimes I didn't hear from him for up to a week, but would receive emails. I have had those phone calls when I could hear rockets and gunfire in the background and he had to let me go and we weren't able to say I love you. I hated those calls, and not knowing until the next time he called if he was ok. I try to pay attention to the news, it is a morbid curiosity I think. Part of me doesn't want to know, then the other part of me is making sure it isn't him. He is going back in 2 weeks and I am dreading it. This is his third deployment 1 in Bosnia, 1 in Afghanistan and now Iraq. I am sure it won't be the last. I wish you much luck and I know how you feel. It is hard and the waiting is the worst. Just keep your chin up! Take care!
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@cherhost (1073)
• United States
21 May 07
Last deployment was nuts. I would not hear from him for weeks on end and then when I did hear from him it was sometimes everyday for a week. It drove me nuts. I only got 2 letters and a box of stuff for him that he got over there. I only got a few emails with pics in it. It just plain out sucked. But I have heard from him about 3 times now not bad for being gone for 2 weeks! Sorry to hear that it was so bad this morning. But be grateful taht you talked to him even tho it was real quick... as for the ants get you some spray. Hope it is getting better:)
• United States
21 May 07
When my husband was deployed, I was lucky if I receive a call once every 2 weeks and if he emails me once a week. His job has long hours and very tedious. He would only get 3 or 4 hours sleep. Also, the internet where he was located is always down. It was hard for him to get in contact with me. He's leaving again end of this year. It will be his 2nd deployment. At least, this time I know what to expect and hopefully, communication will be better this time round.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
20 May 07
My husbands last deployment he was able to call me everyday except when he went on missions and then sometimes I didn't hear from him for up to a week, but would receive emails. I have had those phone calls when I could hear rockets and gunfire in the background and he had to let me go and we weren't able to say I love you. I hated those calls, and not knowing until the next time he called if he was ok. I try to pay attention to the news, it is a morbid curiosity I think. Part of me doesn't want to know, then the other part of me is making sure it isn't him. He is going back in 2 weeks and I am dreading it. This is his third deployment 1 in Bosnia, 1 in Afghanistan and now Iraq. I am sure it won't be the last. I wish you much luck and I know how you feel. It is hard and the waiting is the worst. Just keep your chin up! Take care!