This Could Prove To Be A Horrible Disaster!!!

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What can I do? What would you do? I have a sister who lives in a nice gated community in Los Angeles. She has six children ranging in age from 12 to 18. Yes, they are only a year apart, accept for the two oldest girls who are two years apart. My sister is married to a man whom I believe to be the biggest loser in the world. A few years ago, I was living with them for the second time and things were so bad, that I had to call social services for him to do better by his family. Things were so bad that my sister told me that most of the time she did not want to come home at night. Now that the house is fixed up nice and the children are better behaved, there is an even bigger problem. They are spoiled and allowed to do just about whatever they want to do. The perfect example is the issue that I want you guys to help me with. I have an account on Myspace and most of my nieces and nephews are my friends. It is a fun way for me to keep up with them and talk to them from time to time. Last night it gave me a heads up on something that is about to take place that literally scares me to death. My twelve year old niece posted an ad for a party at my sisters house for teenagers. They have done this before to make money, but the last time, they did not put an ad on Myspace with their address posted. I don't even know if my sister is aware of this and if she is, I know that she is not happy about it, however, she has very little say so in her house. The children have very little respect for her. The last time that they had this party, the police were called and all of the teenagers had to come from the back yard and cram into my sisters house. Now they are inviting complete strangers and I know that all the kids are thinking about is all the money that they will make, but anything can happen. Even if the whole police force were there, this is still not a good idea. I don't even feel comfortable praying for them, because the last time I did, I ended up living there again. While I love my family with all of my heart, I never ever want to live there again. There is still a strain between my brother-in-law and I because I reported him to social services. This guy has one more strike and he will get 25 years to life. Not only that, he is in very poor health. He has Heart Failure, Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, he drinks, he smokes and has depression and I can't forget his horrible temper. When I was living there, there were times when he would go off for petty things and everyone in the house would be crying. When he gets angry and yells at you, it is so awful and intimidating that it leaves you in tears. He has caused me to cry, so many times. We are a Christian family, but my sister married the wrong person and we are all paying for her mistake. Sometimes, he makes me so angry that I wish he would just go ahead and die or go to jail or something. Usually when he and I fight, it is because I have done something that he did not like or want me to do to protect my family. One day, when I was still living there I had come home and found the front door open and all the kids were gone. I knew that no family or friends had picked them up, because they would had made sure the door was locked. I panicked and my sister was at work, so I needed to call her to see if she knew what had happened. At the time, my brother in law had just moved back in from a two year affair, so he was living in the living room of the top upper floor of the duplex where they live. I was living in one of the bedrooms of the house and my sister and the kids were living in the house down stairs. He had made it very clear to me that he never wanted me to go in the living room where he slept. My guess is because it was dirty and nasty, with trash everywhere, so everyone could go in there except, the sister-in-law. But at this time, he had the only working phone in the house and I needed to call my sister to tell her that the kids were missing. So I disobeyed his orders and went in there and called my sister. Later on we found the kids. They had just left and went to the park and figured no one was going to come into their house while they were gone. When he checked his phone and found out that I had called my sister at work, he yelled at me so bad that I was screaming in tears by the time he was done. Then he came to me later on and apologized, realizing that my fear for the kids saftey had been most important to me, but by then, the damage was done. What would you do in this situation? I have to add that usually my family accuses me of over-reacting and that is why I am seeking advice.