Do you and your spouse/partner agree on how to discipline?

United States
May 21, 2007 2:04pm CST
Do you and your spouse agree on how to discipline your child(ren)? I tend to go easier on the kids because I'm with them all day and I have to pick my battles with them. I also have different degrees of punishment for different offenses while he tends to punish in the same way for every offense. Over the years of parenting we have gotten much better in communicating with each other and are agreeing more on how to discipline them, but it was rough for awhile. I learned early on never to question his punishment in front of the kids, that just causes conflict between us. Do you both discipline your children or are you a "wait until your father gets home" household?
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@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
21 May 07
My hubby and I are pretty consistent. We talk about discipline techniques and what's working and not working very often. We keep in pretty much the same so the kids know what to expect, but sometimes we make revisions if it's not working well. (My oldest just told me that he LOVES time-outs, so we'll see about that...) But we always make sure we are on the same page, and that noone challenges the other's authority in front of the kids, Even if he's too hard on them, I try to bite my tougue and hold the discussion for after bed time, which is difficult, but I'm getting better at it! (:
• United States
21 May 07
I'm with you on the last part. It is all a learning process and it constantly changes as they get older. My kids don't mind time-outs either. If they are both in a time-out, they sit there and laugh at each other or make faces at each other. I now have to put them in time-out in different rooms.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
21 May 07
We're now on equal ground, we've had to have a few discussions after the fact (when our son is asleep). I think it's very important to be consistent.
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
21 May 07
yes, both must be agree on how to disciple their child so that the chilc will not be confused of what they do.Because if always have contrary of both couple, some children thinks that he prefer his dad or mom because of not thesame discipline they gave.