Which method do you feel is more effective - written or verbal?

@dpk262006 (56736)
Delhi, India
May 21, 2007 11:52pm CST
Dear Friends, which method of communication do you feel is more effective..is it written or verbal? Here on mylot we are supposed to interact through written communication ..so we judge a person...by his/her words. I feel that written words prove more effective and create more impact than the spoken words. In a verbal communication...you do not find time to react...and even if you speak kind words..there effect may not be as lasting as of written words, because written words can be read again and again. So what are your views on this...Please do share with me. Thanks.
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@whyaskq (7529)
• Singapore
22 May 07
It all depends on the context of communication and the recipent of the message conveyed. It is true that one can take time to think and give an appropriate response in a written communication. However, in my opinion, this does not make it more effective. It is allright if it is in a discussion forum where there is no liability or responsibility. It does not matter if people mis-interpret what you have written and make their own assumptions. Besides, a prepared script might not indicate the persons' real intention. Personally, I do prefer written communication but it does not mean that I find it more effective. I only find it more convenient. I would apply verbal communication to get information and confirmation in cases where written communication proves more of a hindrance than help. Verbal communications gives you more clues as to how sincere the other party is especially when a decision has to be made.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Yes, you are right that verbal communciation gives you more cluses about a person. This is possible, when you have choice of both types of communication...you can communicate with a person in writing also and verbally also. Then in that case verbal communication is prefered or will be prefered. But effectiveness of written words cannot be denined or igonored. Thanks for your thoughts. + rated. deepak
@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I much prefer writing coz you can wrote what you want to say wihout any interaction you can revise,or change the letter if you feel it is not appropiate for the person from whom you will give to. Sometimes you can be more specific of something and remember all you want to say in a letter rather than telling it verbally. But for me after giving I just follow it verbally to show it that I'm sincere what I wrote about.
• Pakistan
22 May 07
I very much agree with lynboobsy abt the writing part. when speaking one can always give away somethning that shouldnt have said, and once you have said it there is no way you can take it back but in written one can have all the time to revise and correct thanx
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Lynboobsy, thanks very much for your thoughts. I hold the same view, as you have narrated. In writing...you can gather your thoughts, if need be revise them and I am sure written words create more impact. So you love letter writing????? + rated.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Linta, thanks for your inputs and views also.
@UDDERONES (888)
• United States
22 May 07
Well I like to have something told to me and then given to me in writting so I can go back and refer to it. But I have found that when I type e-mail, etc. people seem to take me not like I am meaning. I consider myself a very polite person and I have been told others view my e-mails as sharp and negative. Not like I mean them at all. Personally I would rather be talked to, than a written communication. Just my opinion but sometimes all one has is the means of written communication.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Udderones, you caught the point, which I wanted to make. Written words has more powers. I cannot make out why you are not understood by others in the right manner..May be you need to write your words more carefully. Thanks for sharing your views and for wonderful answer. + rated.
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• United States
23 May 07
Thank you for your comments. I really appreciate it. I try to watch what I type and I always say thank you, etc. But sometimes I think people just don't get it. Thanks again for your response and post. I rated you also. + rated
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
UDDERONES, thanks very much for your counter comments. I love to read counter comments on my comments...this opens up a channel of communication...Is not it? and I feel makes the discussion lively. I am still not able to make out...when you write polite language...you can be misunderstood...I think if it is one out of ten people...who misunderstands you...then I think, you can igonore..him/her. Donot take it seriously. It is said that - "If you are good to others ...then you are best to yourself." If you have firm belief that you have written and conveyed the right thing...do not bother about others...because you know yourself that you are or say were right, while writing your thoughts. Thanks for rating me +. deepak
@ssh123 (31086)
• India
11 Jul 07
There are people whom we see everyday and for them oral communication is the best and least expensive. Those who have internet, email communication is better. Those who cannot be reached by email, I use the mobile phone. If they do not have mobile, I send a written letter by post.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
12 Jul 07
Dear, thanks very much for logical analysis of the discussion. You know very well, how to get in touch with your near and dear ones.
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@ssh123 (31086)
• India
12 Jul 07
You are most welcome. What of India you come from? I am from Bangalore.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
24 May 07
I think each of us decides what best fits him or her according to his personality and experiences in life. I can not answer this issue with a general answer, because each of us has a different choice. i know that i do write alote, but when it comes to studying the verbal method works the best for me. I just remember better things that i hear, and it is easier for me.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
Yes, I fully agree with you Lira, that choice also depends upon one's personality and experience in life. So your vote goes to verbal communciation.. But when you do not have choice to communicate verbally, like here (on mylot)...then ...you have to convey yourself and understand others through written words only...then what will be your reply? dpk
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
24 May 07
then there is no choice given, it will be the written method, because this is how we communicate here ofcourse, my friend;)
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@Zerzis (557)
• India
23 May 07
i think it solely depends upon what we have to communicate. Also it depends upon the way you write i mean if its a poem then it conveys a lot of things which plain written text cant convey. Personally i think oral communication is more effective because alongwith words we have our face expressions, other body language features to tell the other person what you wanna convey, even if words fell short then other things can convey your feelings. This doesnt happens in written communication. No accent in voice is attached. In written owrds all you have is the words, whether you have conveyed correctly waht you wanted to convey depends upon your writing ability, while it hardly matters what is our speaking ability to convey things..again im talking about general talk and not serious speech like oral interviews and all, for those kind of serious talks you need good oral communication. One advantage is that when we write things the other person is bound to read it unstopping us till the end. But in oral communications, especially with women, they tend not to listen us, not even allow to complete our sentence and abrupty break in between! For such talkative and dominating women its better to write than talk!
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
Zerzis, Wonderful and wonderful and analytical response. I appreciate your thoughts and I also liked your logical sense. You supported you views...with appropriate logic..which is really intelligent of you. Yes, you are right- a written poem will have more impact than a spoken one. Oral communciation gives you a wider choice...you can add expressions, gestures to make it more effective. It is when you have both choices - you can communicate verbally as well as through writing. But If you have only medium left with you is written words...and if you frame your words logically (eg as you have done in your reply)..it will surely create a powerful impact on the reader. Another point of yours which I liked very much...that if I have written something...another fellow is likely to read it ...if not at first instance, he will read it and understand better in the second round...but if you are speaking and the listener is not listening attentively...then it becomes difficult for you to make your thoughts understand to the listener. All in all a very good reply...thanks very much...I enjoyed thoroughly reading it. You appear to me a very logical and intelligent person. deepak
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@Zerzis (557)
• India
5 Jul 07
Thanks a lot deepak.
@sherinek (3321)
• United States
11 Jul 07
In my opinion, both has its negatives and positives. When you say something to a person, face to face, the tone, the facial expression etc, are plus points. In written communication, once you write something, it sticks. That is it is its own proof, you cant deny or if you dont phrase it properly, the reader might get a totally different opinion which sometimes would not be your idea at all. So, what ever way we use, i think we have to be careful and think twice or may be more before putting to action.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
12 Jul 07
Dear Sherinek, thanks very much for your logical analysis of the discussion and telling us negative and positive points of the issue. I firmly believe, that you know very well, how to get in touch with your near and dear ones.
@zamm13 (363)
• Philippines
24 May 07
I think we can use both methods. But you can say a lot more than verbal because you will have the time to think of words to say. You can restudy and reread your composition. You can add some statements and thoughts you have forgotten. Especially when you are going to express youre love to your lover, i think a letter is more effective than by just saying it because you tend to forget a lot of important things to say when ur using the verbal method. But in the written method u can always add more thoughts and beautify ur statement.
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@zamm13 (363)
• Philippines
24 May 07
I prefer the written one but in some cases like negotiations and confrontations verbal and in person (not just on phone but face to face) is a lot more better because you will be able to see the gestures or the body languages that the one you're talking to is doing. You can tell if he's sincere or not.
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• Philippines
24 May 07
In my opinion, it depends on different situation. In communication through writing, you can express your feelings, the only advantage is that you are leaving an evidence.through verbal communication, you can express your feelings abruptly and directly to the ones your talking to, but without a recording instrument you can deny what you say. I think in expressing our idea it is good when verbal, but then, if in revealing the truth it is good when written. it is good in different aspect.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
grecy, thanks very much for sharing your thoughts on the issue.
@mimpi1911 (25473)
• India
23 May 07
expressions talk more effectively - expressions talk more effectively.
dear deepak, there are so many pros and cons to this. let me explain, if i may do so. any communication when done in person or over phone gets easier to comprehend. we know exactly what we intend to mean. while speaking we articulate with proper gaps and periods (punctuations) and also the gestures and the touches that makes it so easy!! its rightly said, expressions talk more effectively than words. on the other hand written stuff could very well get misunderstood and misinterpreted, if not expressed properly. just the way you did a few days back. hope you remember it. LOL.. however, i feel, in official matters, we should stand by expressing in black and white. This has far more implications and effect and gravity. here i want to cite an instance, a few days back, i was reading one report reporting a news regarding a moviestar, ofcourse stuffed with all spice and gossips. i was very sure that it wasn’t authentic atall. After a couple of days i heard the same star interviewed and he was telling the same thing. And then i got confirmed. have a nice day.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
Mimpi, I agree with you what you have written. However, I would like to add..when we have a choice...that we can communicte either verbally and in writing also..than verbal communication will be better...it gives you a kind of depth in expressing yourself. But the point which I wanted to emphasis was...written words create more impact on the reader than the spoken words on the listener. (eg if you write to me that say "I am caring" and if you convey the same thing verbally...than written words will have more impact on me than the verbally spoken words) While, speaking...there is no 'action replay' if you missed some part of the conversation...not heard properly...it becomes difficult..but written words can be read again and again. I agree, lot will depend upon the circumstances in which the communicationis is being made..is it personal, official etc. etc. Yes, I agree with you that while conveying anything through writing...chances of misinterpretation also stand there. Thanks very much for your logical inputs. dpk
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
23 May 07
I like to see people...and be able to see little more than just what they are saying...body language..and the way they look at you...sometimes I am able to see person aura and I don't have to ask much more... Written form can show people good intention, but it is also easier to camouflage the personality...
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
Pola, thanks for your fair and logical analysis of the discussion.
@maddysmommy (16232)
• United States
23 May 07
I find written communication to be more effective for me as I find it hard to express myself verbally most of the time. At least with written words I can take my time in what I want to write and try to express it in a way hopefully the other will be able to understand. SOmetimes however with written words it can be taken out of context and therefore a small polite email or note can be misconstrued to mean something else. At least with verbal communication you can see the person in front of you and see how they express themselves, their emotions and feelings that go with what they are trying to say.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
So you are more or less like me and endorse my views. Written words are more effectivness...as for as it being misconstrued is concerned....I think...if you frame the words with care and cautious...the possibility of misinterpretation can be lessened.
@wachit14 (3599)
• United States
22 May 07
In one sense, written words are more effective and if you have something in writing, it serves as proof that something was said. However, the written word can be misinterpreted depending on the tone of the writing. Unfortunately, the written word is very one dimensional in that way and the spoken word is easier to interpret.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Thanks ...you agree that written words are more effective (no doubt written communication cannot be without some drawbacks or disadvantages). + rated.
• Philippines
22 May 07
I think both are effective but it depends on what kind of personaliy a person has...For those who are impulsive written would be more effective because it would lessen the chance of saying unappropriate words and ending up eating your own words but it could also lead to some misunderstanding because you don't have a chance to clear some points and lead to misunderstanding.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and for mentioning that for 'impuslive persons' writing would be better option. + rated.
@icequeen (2841)
• Canada
22 May 07
I would have to agree with you. I think that written words are more powerful. Being a writer...I know the power of words. I also think you can express yourself and your emotions sometimes better on paper.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
It is my pleasure to receive and read a reply from a writer. Thanks for reply and for introducing yourself. Your thoughts are like me...that written words have more powers and you can express most of your emotions through writing also. + rated. Can I be your friend? deepak
@sabwinner (499)
• China
22 May 07
Actually, both written and verbal are effective. Which is more effective? It deppend. When it family or friends spend time together or telephone call or in a meeting, veral are important and more effecitve. If it's at work, I believe the emails are much effective, and you check later. So, for me, I like them both, and both of them are quite effective.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Sabwinner, thanks for your balanced views. You appear to be a very balanced person. will you be my friend? deepak
@subathra (3519)
• India
22 May 07
I think written is more effective than verbal.For e.g when there is heated arguments between two persons they abuse each other verbally which leaves a impact and most of the time leads to face tough future times stating this verbal abusement. But in case of written communication i think its drastically very much less.People always take away the minds of other people like impressing speacilly with written words.
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Yes, you are like me..who believes that written words has more power. Here we are communicating through written words also and we frame our opinion on the written words here. Thanks very much for your response.+ rated.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
22 May 07
The problem with written is that one can't see people's facial reactions, or set a certain tone of voice. This can lead to misunderstandings when using only the written word. I can see your point though. There is an advantage to written in people relying only on your written word, & not discriminating based on appearance.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Jenny, thanks for wonderful response (as always) and for catching my point.
@oasis_9 (832)
• Philippines
22 May 07
I'd prefer written words also especially in arguments... because writting how you feel gives you time to think compare to verbally saying what you feel you might end up saying things that you don't want to say...
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@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
Well said, written words has more power.
22 May 07
I do think it depends on what it is that you are doing, such as breaking up with someone, that should be done face to face but maybe explaining your feelings to somebody can be put better down on paper than ever said. People can get too confused or say things wrong or things they do not mean. I do like receiving a good letter though, it makes the day seem better.
@dpk262006 (56736)
• Delhi, India
23 May 07
aboutpaula, I have received, your response perhaps for the first time, but you caught the point, which I wanted to convey. A good letter has no comparison with verbal compliments. Yes, while communicating verbally people speak unnesaary things...and do not find opportunity to change it.