Do you think music is crucial for a relationship?
By arsena
@arsena (293)
Germany
May 22, 2007 5:32am CST
I know a lot of rockers and they are choosing their partners in a way that they listen to the same kind of music. I also listen rock music but my boyfrined is not so crazy about it. But we still have a great time together. So, do you think the partners should listen to the same kind of music or this is not so important?
5 responses
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
22 May 07
No, I don't believe music is crucial for a relationship. When my wife and I first go together, I like a variety of music, but heavy metal was my favourite. I couldn't actually stand the music that my wife listened to, and most times refused to, but we have been together for 9yrs now, and have never been happier.
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
23 May 07
Well, with a little hesitation, in case you like the music,too, She used to like women with weird voices, think she still does, like alanis morisette, wendy matthews, that sort of music. Just a wee bit different to what I like. I'm sure that one day you'll be able to brag about how long you've been with a loved one, just don't rely on the music,lol!
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@wolves69 (755)
• United States
22 May 07
I think it depends on how important music is in your relationship. A good friend of mine (8 years older) was really a rocker and music was his passion. He wouldn't consider dating someone if they couldn't tolerate his music. He knew his personality and knew he wouldn't change, so he rarely dated. A few years ago, he met someone as passionate about music as he, and they are doing great.
As for me, I've been told by several people that there better be some common ground concerning music. Music never played a big part in my life but I had my favorites and have plenty of CDs. I married someone who liked the softer side of rock and despised hard rock. I was always on the fringe, liking a lot of music, but my favorites were "harder". So, the compromise was soft, and alternative 80s. So, there are no arguments...She won't play country around me, and I won't play heavy metal around her..
Even if we didn't share the same music...that wouldn't get between us. We have plenty of other things in common.
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@wolves69 (755)
• United States
22 May 07
Everyone can't like all types of music. Unless its really annoying, I try to find something about the song...maybe the lyrics, maybe the beat, or maybe the melody of the voice. I can't say I don't like a particular genre of music, just ones that I prefer. Sounds like he should have kept an open mind...
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
23 May 07
no no no its not important at all so long as the couple accepts the fact that its one of their differences.....My husband and i both like disco, Blues and classic rock BUT I'm MORE INTO Punk, triphop and Goth which he doesnt care for at all...so if I'm having a moment where I want to crank MY tunes, he just goes in his room and listens to his music while he works....and when we are in the truck I am more than happy to compromise with him ya knwo which is the key IMO
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@edbee888 (34)
• Philippines
22 May 07
First off... I wanted you to know that I'm a music lover but it is my opinion that thinking music would be crucial to a relationship is not always a good thing. No music in the world can substitute good common sense and a gut feeling. Dont second guess your relationship based only upon music. And of course, if you love a person you should accept who and what he is and vice versa. There are still many things in life and in relationship that you should focus and not only on music.
Remember, "life is a book - you are the author"
& also "good heart is better than all the heads in the world"...^^,)
well, this is only my opinion. I respect whatever you think and decide.. Good luck!!!
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