Are you a possesive girlfriend/boyfriend??

@kharen (1488)
Philippines
May 22, 2007 12:01pm CST
Do you get easily jealous about your g/f or b/f whenever yoiu see him/her talking to another of his/her opposite gender? Do you start an argument about this things many times? And do you act as if you wanna shout out to the whole world "She/He is mine!!!"??? hmmmm...
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
22 May 07
When I frist met my boyfriend I was 18 yrs old so I didnt really know what it took to be in a relationship so YES I have to admit I was so jealous of him talking to any other woman and I didnt want him to go out without me because I didnt kow if any women would talk to him and we were always arguing and fighting over it SO I had to stop being like that. I had to learn to trust him and learn if hes with me its because he chose me over those other women. In order to have a good relationship you have to have trust otherwise you have nothing. Dont get me wrong we still have our problems but its not about jealousy anymore.
• United States
25 May 07
If a guy is going to cheat YOU CANNOT STOP HIM! hes gonna do it whether hes with you or not! If you dont trust him and are always questioning where he goes then it is gonna push him away and into the arms of another woman. Being in love with them is about trusting the them with your heart and trusting they wont break it...it doesnt always happen like that but love is a gamble, you either win or you lose.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
it's not that easy to trust...ahm controlling your feelings isn't easy too and besides, what if your trusting him and he knows it that's why he's lying to you knowing that you would believe,right? (ahm, no offense to you and your bf..^^,)
• Philippines
22 May 07
Before, I was like that. Then, I realized that it was a mistake making a fool out of myself. I was making my life complicated, problems arises when we tend to keep our partners to ourselves. =)
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
22 May 07
so what do you do then if he gets close to someone? And you have that feeling and strong vibrations that there's something wrong going on???
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• Philippines
22 May 07
We've been together for almost 13 years,and by now he knows if he's doing something wrong. Or if he's getting physically too close to someone. =)
@marhean (10)
• Philippines
24 May 07
Nope!Im not that type..coz for me it's a sign of insecurity - in every sense of the word! You get jealous for what reason? is he/she looks better than you? aren't you secured of your bf/gf's feelings (love) for you? You shouldn't feel that way if you knew that you can do better than anyone else. Love, trust & respect for me are the important things that every relationship should have.
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
isn't it the fear that you feel? security is not always present,right? Everything happens, he can also fall in love without him knowing it then he'll just realize it then leave you with all those memories...hurts a lot.. ''.
@huilee (1005)
• Singapore
5 Jun 07
I admit i will... I am one jealous gf... If he talks to others more, or even seeing the girl one more glance, i will get jealous... I mean, why should u? Right? Keke... Damn possessive... =P I dun wanna start an arguemen, but it just doesnt feels good... I mean u r my bf, u should try to understand me, isnt it? I dun... But i guess my bf should be more automatic himself... =) He should be the one shouting: Im hers... Keke...
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
6 Jun 07
dam jealousy..juz can't stop the feeling, it doesn't mean you don't trust yer luv one but ur juz afraid of the possibilities that u might lose him..
• United States
22 May 07
I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 23, we have been together now for over 3 years, he is my very best friend as i am his, we tell each other everything and do everything together, we have a 3 month old daughter together, we are our own family, everything is great, we dont keep secrets, hes never cheated on me and he never will, i am sure of that, he is my soulmate, i am such a lucky woman to have found true love, i wish everyone finds what i have...its the best feeling in the world! im sorry to you to have to have gone through that, but if he could cheat on you after 7 years, he will do it again, thats my view on it!
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
24 May 07
good for you... hope i'd find my soulmate too.. i'll just wait.. now,i'm afraid to fall in love..
• Philippines
9 Jun 07
Jealousy is one of the many factors that can break a relationship...or any relationship for that matter. in order to love, you need to trust. Trust, i think is one of the foundation in a relationship..I'm in a Long Distance Relationship so I guess trust is very important to both my partner and I.. i can't say that i'm not jealous sometimes..i know how u feel. But you know what, guys need to know that we trust them..and if they feel that they tend to be more faithful..
@kharen (1488)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
but there's still a possibility that your loved one can fall for another even if there is trust from you. However, when i'll be having another realationship, i'd be more trustful, i won't be so jealous anymore and be possessive..because i want to think that i've given all of my love through trust,care etc for him..
@ranjiths (313)
• India
1 Jun 07
Sorry i dont have a gf.... Even if i have i will watch their for sometime. Only after that only i will respond. If i feel that they are not at all looking at me i can assure that there is some issue with them so that i can shout. if they they are talking calmly i can assure that they are good friends and i will also join..
• United States
1 Jun 07
I get jealous very easily, and I am very possessive of my boyfriend. I do have reasons for that though, I was neverlike this before, We have 3 children together(i was literally pregnant for the first 2 1/2) years of our relationship), and he has cheated on me numerous times, hes never been in another "relationship" with another woman during the time we have been together, but he has had many "one nighters" or the chat lines, tele-personals, things like that. I do feel very insecure, for that reason, its like i was never good enough for him, but i stuck it out because every time i tried to leave he begged me to stay...why do they do that?...and because of our kids, they are very young, and he is a great father, i just wish he could be as good of a man to me. He has been doing really good, and really tryibg to make our relationship work for the past 2 years, but after all of the things he has done in the past, it seems impossible to let it all go, actually i think i am just scared to let it go, scared that if i put my barrier down he will run at the chance of being "free" of my jealousy, and possessiveness. i dont like this person i am, but i do not know how to let go!!!!