A wifes love
May 22, 2007 3:09pm CST
This is the story of my Nanny, my moms mom. The story starts 80 years ago with the birth of a beautiful girl, 1 of 5 children raised in a mining town in New Brunswick. When she was 18 she married the love of her life and became a devoted wife, mother of 3 and traveler of the great country of Canada. 30 years ago when her husband nearly died from heart failure and diabetes she became his health care provider and the rock that held her family together. Now enter Grandkids, I was born because my mother wanted her Dad to have Grand babies before he died. 29 years, 4 Grandkids, 4 open heart surgeries, and many trips to the hospital my Nanny nursed her husband through life giving him a great world to live in. Then one day he got the flu, the doctors gave him some antibiotics to battle it with but they caused a little know side effect. He went into kidney failure. Mom and Nanny fought a hard battle for over a year giving the family time to say the things we had to say and love the man we would all have to let go. Then he was gone, and we cried. Shortly after he left our World for a better place we where all hit with a blow that knocked the wind out of us all. Nanny had cancer of the bladder and had been sick for over a year with it. Her devote love for her husband kept her from telling us because she didn't want him to worry over her. The doctors did surgery and removed the effected areas. Her uterus, bladder, and most of her intestines. She started radiation treatment. Then the second blow, She also has small cell bone cancer, now there is nothing we can do. Her age, the lack of strength due to the surgery and treatment of recent months she has 1-2 years to live. Ready... blow number three, and the KO punch... She has an infection from the surgery it has filled her entire mid-section, she has 2-3 months to live. A wifes loving devotion to her ailing husband has sucked the life from her and broken her families hearts.
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22 May 07
I know it wont help,but she did what she wanted to do. She gave her life for the man she loved and promised before God in sickness and in health. There is one good way to look at this. Soon your grandmother will no longer be in any pain and she will be reunited with the love of her life. I hope that if I am ever in that situation I can be that giving and loving. Huggzzzz.
22 May 07
Thank you. Losing Papa and now her will be a loss like no other that this side of my family has felt. My Dads family lost our rock and light 25 years ago to lung cancer, my grandfather was the glue that bound them together and without him we have all drifted apart. My dad holds his mother up and gets her by, so I guess he has become the rock in her life. My mothers side has yet to know the pain of the head of the family being removed and I hope we can all get through it and still be close but I don't think we will. When my time comes may I be half the person both of them where.
22 May 07
This is an extremely sad story and I do feel your pain. I lost my mother to cancer when I was ten, an aunt that I was living with, three years later, in 2005, I lost another aunt, and just last year, another aunt had a kidney removed because of cancer. The first thing we want to ask when things like this happen (especially to good people) is why. Everything in this life happens for a reason and it is up to us to find a way to not only find peace in spite of the pain, but still find a way to thrive. I hope you know Jesus and if not, this is a good time to get to know him. After all of this, you will need to grieve and find answers, but most of all, you will need comfort and no one is better at helping with this than Jesus Christ. There is no better answer to this kind of pain. I wont even try to come up with anything else, because it will not help you to work all of this out. Turn to him and allow him to heal your heart. Whenever something like this happens to me and I am in the middle of the agony, I use my faith to proclaim that something good will come out of this. Turn to Jesus, he specializes.