love

@anku888 (136)
India
May 22, 2007 6:07pm CST
My sister is in love with a boy who belongs to another language and state. I afraid that it's not going to work and I want her to understand this but instead of listening she avoids me nowadays and she is not even speaking to me.I afraid that if she gets hurt,she would suffer a lot. I would like to hear from you how I can make her understand the truth or how can I help her if the relationship ends?
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@thai11 (239)
• United States
22 May 07
I have learned that everyone must follow their own paths in life no matter how wrong we think it is for them! Sometimes, the more we push the person away from what they want, the stronger they pull towards it! Are you a 100% sure that the relationship won't work??? no..you can't be 100% sure....love is a strong thing...I would suggest being supportive of her decision even though you feel it is wrong, that way should this be the wrong path for her take, she will know that you will be there to help her get back on her feet!!! Sisters are forever so enjoy the time:) Good luck, hope it works out!!
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@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
22 May 07
Im curious as to why you think their relationship isnt going to work out? Is it just because he is from another state and speaks another language? If thats what it is then I think your reasoning isnt very good. The best advice I can give is for you to let her live her life, shes an adult (I HOPE) and can make her own choices, if it doesnt work out for them then shes gonna learn a lesson about relationships. If the relationship ends between them, all you can do is be there for her, dont tell her she was wrong and you were right cuz thats not gonna help her. Listen to what she has to say and be there for her emotionally.
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• India
23 May 07
ankur may try to make the use of the person whom his sister understands more than ankur. so that instead of avoiding she will listen to him/her but it will work more if she will be a girl.
@toe_ster (771)
• United States
23 May 07
I am one of those wierd ones that believe love knows no boundaries. Like, race, age, gender... the list goes on. And as tough as it is, it is her life. The best thing to do is to be as supportive as you can. Maybe if or when the relationship ends as least she will know you are there to love and support her and not tell her 'I told you so'.And who knows. Maybe she or he can move closer or learn each others languages. Love is a mysterious thing.
• United States
23 May 07
I understand that you care about your sister but she is her own person and capable of making her own decisions. If you stop and put yourself in her position then you might understand how she feels. You already told her how you feel. You have to back off and let her learn from her own mistakes (or not). Part of growing up and meeting the "right" one is meeting the "wrong" one to help you appreciate what you've got. Dating is part of growing up. Let her have fun and learn from her mistakes. Heartache is inevitable and happens to the best of us.