Do you have any true friends that you can share anything with?

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United States
May 22, 2007 6:35pm CST
Life is so hard that sometimes you need someone that you can talk to without the sugar coating. Someone who will be supportive and not judge but will let you know when you are wrong and stand by you while you make it right. Someone who will give you their last? Someone who is happy when you are happy? How do you treat them? Would you consider youself as good a friend the them as they are to you? When was the last time you told them that? Or did you lose that good friend because your friendship was one sided?
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@Norstar (695)
• India
23 May 07
No relationship, including friendship, can be successful if it is one sided or if lacvks honesty. One should consider oneself very lucky if he/ she gets a friend who is really honest in his/ her relationship with you. Generally people like to get a better return from the other people than what they offer themselves. It is pity that most of the people do not understand the simple principles. In physics we learn that an output is always less than its input. So is the case in a relationship. But people want that the output to them be more than the input they contributed to. And that is where disappointment comes. It is very common that someone asks you to be frank and tell if under so and so situation what they did was right or wrong. And if you say that it was wrong, they would say that you are worse than an enemy.
• United States
24 May 07
Well I don't doubt you've had that experience but sometimes there is a diamond in the ruff and finding it is worth the trouble some folks just sincerely give from the heart and I hope you run into one. Life will be so much better with a real friend you can trust.
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@Norstar (695)
• India
24 May 07
Yes, you are right. What I said was what we come across generally. As you say, there are some exceptions. And if you come acoss any one of them, then it is for keeps sake.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
23 May 07
i sure lost lots of so called friends already. i trusted them with all my heart and they stubbed me at my back. those people aren't worthy of the word friends. as of now, i have like 3 people i trust most of all. friends who are there for me and with me through thick and thin. people i can be who i am. i can cry and i can laugh with them. i can be myself and that they never leave me alone even in my darkest days. happy myLotting!
• United States
24 May 07
Oh I'm sorry sometimes the ones we think are friends are really wolves in sheeps clothing.But I'm glad you seemed to have found the real thing afterall.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
24 May 07
yup. not all people who we think we can rely to forever will remain nice to us. but it's life. people change after all. glad that there are still good peole around.
@jillhill (37377)
• United States
23 May 07
I have a best friend that you discribed to a tee. She is always supportive, not jealous, does special things for me, and we can talk about anything in our lives. I had a friend once that I thought was like this but for some reason I got the feeling that she was always competing with me. For what I don't know but we sort of just went our seperate ways. My best friend has been that for almost 20 years and though we live far apart we're just as close today as when we lived next to each other.
• United States
23 May 07
That is a wonderful thing true friends last a lifetime. I personally feel when someone is not genuine it shows through after while.
@jillhill (37377)
• United States
23 May 07
I think you are right. It sometimes doesn't take long to figure it out.
• United States
22 May 07
I would have to say that this one person is my husband. I can share anything with him and even if he is uneasy about the topic, he will listen. He always stands by me and is honest almost to a fault. I find that most women I am friends with are good friends in one way or another, but not necessarily in every way. Great topic !
• United States
23 May 07
I'm so glad to hear that and I hope the younger women hear you loud and clear. Husbands make great friends.
@maryannemax (12168)
• Sweden
23 May 07
aside from those three good friends of mine, i also have my boyfriend with me. he knows most stuffs about me and never judged me through it all. he's there to listen to me and laugh with me. he's there for me all the time. and i am so thankful for having him in my life.
@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
26 May 07
Yes - one is my boyfriend, two other male friends, a girlfriend her in Sydney, another in London and teo cousins in Greece. I feel I can share anything with them and that they know who I truly am. I also have quite a few other friends I can share "certain" things with and many aquaintances but I don't think they truly know who I am - they've seen only certan aspects of myself.
@urbangirl (1461)
• Australia
26 May 07
Sorry about the spelling in the above post....my spelling is actually quite good - it's my dyslexic typing fingers that let me down LOL.
• United States
23 May 07
I do have 2 friends (girls) that I feel like I can share anything with. I also feel that way about my husband. I can tell him anything. I have found out that you really have to learn who your true friends are. Since I had my son I have lost some friends just because they didn't want to hang around with someone with a baby. But if they are like that then I didn't need them as friends to begin with. I feel like I am a good friend to all my friends.
• United States
24 May 07
You're right about your loss it's their loss. But I'm glad you have two good one anyway
• United States
23 May 07
My cat, Goldie is my best-friend. I tell her everything, she is also like a daughter to me.
• United States
24 May 07
oh that's sweet but a bit onesided I meant someone you could share with and could share with you.
@fingerx (38)
• India
23 May 07
Hi if you say about true friend my true friend is my wife with whome i share my feelings.
• United States
24 May 07
Of all the responses you are the first husband to say that thank you I believe wives make great friends too.
• United States
23 May 07
I guess I must be the only person in the world that doesn't have not even 1 friend. I know a lot of people, but when I am lonely and want to pick up the phone and call somebody, there's no one to call. I don't have a boyfriend and haven't had one in 2 years. My female acquaintances are not trustworthy. I have come to the conclusion that friends (men and women) and hard if not impossible to find. The only real friends a person might have aside from your spouse is probably someone you've known since childhood. I have moved from the town I grew up in, so I've lost touch with a lot of people. I get really upset sometimes when I think about how alone I am and wonder if it may be something I have done to cause this. What is it about me that makes people not want to be around me. Then again, sometimes I like being alone. So it's a bittersweet thing.
• United States
24 May 07
Well I can understand that but everyone deserves the opportunity to pick up the phone to call someone when they need to talk. I'm sorry for your loney days and happy for your peaceful ones but I hope you find a true blue friend in the near future.
@limcyjain (3519)
• India
23 May 07
Yes there is only one my life partner and to a large extent my mother too. I talk my heat out with my husband and he too lets me know each and every thing of his life. He advises me and stands by me when in trouble and surely has been a good friend. I do not concede my secrets expecially financial to anyother person. I really dont think one can trust anybody else in this materialistic world to such an extent.
• United States
24 May 07
Sounds like a great relationship and I wish more people had someone like that. I'm very happy for you and I wish you well may things stay like that for the rest of your life.
@addysmum (1225)
• Canada
23 May 07
I have my best friend ever. Our mothers met when I was 2 months and she was 2 months away from being born. We lived just 3 doors apart on a mountain road and grew up with each other like we where sisters. In the summer our parents never saw us because we where off exploring the mountain together, and we where so inseparable that the school we attended put us in separate classes to ensure that our work got done. In high school the guys we dated said it was like having to girl friends because if they wanted to hang out with their girl friend they had to take the other with them. The only time we have ever been apart is when my husband and I moved to Alberta for 5 years for work. But I am home now and we are back together as if we have never been apart. The best part is she has 3 boys and I have 1 boy with baby on the way and our kids are growing up just as close as we did. My husband runs a very close second, I tell him everything just like I tell her. They are the only two people that know everything about me.
• United States
24 May 07
Oh my that sounds very fortunate and makes my heart smile. I am so very happy to hear that. God bless you that sounds great.
• India
23 May 07
I have a coolest frnd with whom i share everything of my life.
• United States
24 May 07
That is the best kind to have and I hope they share with you likewise
@sigma77 (5385)
• United States
23 May 07
I would like to find someone like that. I feel I could be accepting of someone without judging and comparing. I don't know if I have ever had a friend like you describe. And if I did, would I be wise enough to see it? I think I could stand besides someone right or wrong. Do you see yourself as this kind of person?
• United States
24 May 07
I have always been that type of person to a fault my problem is I have always been that way to everyone and unfortunately I found two people who really deserved the treatment. One is my husband of 27 years and my sisters ex boyfriends mother. She is my best friend. They are so important in my life it makes it worth while to have been through what I have.
• Indonesia
23 May 07
I have some, not only one, who I can share about everything. I share to them and they share to me. That is so beautiful.
• United States
24 May 07
Yes it is and I'm to hear it I hope you stay that way for a life time. Very nice
@marababe (2510)
• Philippines
23 May 07
Luckily, I have a few true friends whom I can share anything with and vice versa. They tell me I'm wrong if I'm really wrong. They don't really always take my side in arguments. But they are always there when I'm in trouble or when I have a problem. I consider myself as a good friend to them also. I try to "pay" their loyalty and honesty with me by doing the same to them. Friendship, like any other relationships, should always be two-sided for it to work out.
• United States
24 May 07
I agree whole heartedly and I'm glad you have friend they are very important to have a healthy life.
@coldmoon (1092)
• France
23 May 07
I think that a normal person must have friends and so do I. But I don't try to search true friends. Why? Because a true friend is sometime even more dangerous than an enemy. He can cheat us, and betray us more easily as we don't have any preventive sense to him. When you share your secret with your friend, it's time you dig a hole for yourself. So, what is the meaning of friendship? It's not only the fidelity but also accepting being cheated without regret.
• United States
23 May 07
Oh I'm sorry you feel that way the whole point is to have someone that you both share your inner feelings with so they can comfort you and you them. Or so they can give you an honest opinion about something you see onesided with your best interest at heart so you don't have to feel you are all alone in this big old world. Family does things that hurt you so bad but if you tell one they will confide in another that will get back around you need a source outside of the net that you can vent to and not worry about the backlash
@cook1974 (16)
• United States
23 May 07
hello i am normally a good friend but i have been in a difficult relationship and it has really done damage to alot of my friend ships , most of my firends i have pushed out of my life because of tring to make the relationship work, and i lost one of my best friends trying to break out of this mold, i have let someone make me into. i want to renew the friendship but i won't let my self until i can be there for my friend as much as she was for me, because i believe she deserves that , she is one of the kindest people i know, but to many times i let her down and could not be there for her, so now i just stay away from her, until i get myself back, and i miss her dearly i have never been as open to anyone like i am with her, i could not have asked for a better friend , and am mad at myself for not being that in return, but rahter than keep dissappointing her, i chose to stay out of her life, until i can get my life on the right road, but i still love her and think she is awsome, and wish i could still be around her, but i care to much about her to upset her because of something i can't give her in return, i do have friends that are more understanding and have known me longer and know that once i break out of this mold i can be myself again, but she is a little stubborn one of the things i like about her. most of my other friends know i am in a rut, and can't find my way out, but they know i am working on it, it juat takes time to overcome some obstacles, i only wish she understood that, so for those of you who do have friedns hold onto them because there are two things that normally will always be there family and friends , and two things that may not, men and jobs.
• United States
23 May 07
That was very well put sometimes we get excited or overwhelmed or so involved in romatic relationships that we excommunicate our selves from our friends. When we don't bring things to the forefront in a relationship things tend to get strenuous just trying to be who we are. It is impossible to be who you are without the people you love in your life. I hope you get things straigh with your friend.
@Riptide (2761)
• United States
23 May 07
Yes I do have true friends and I want to thank them for being my friends. Yes you know who you are :)
• United States
23 May 07
Oh I'm glad that you have them we all need them believe you me and sometimes things are not as they seem. People would like to be better friends but have too many issues of their own but I believe they take you into consideration more than you know.
@popbig (4)
• China
23 May 07
I have only one!But not my wife.he is my classmate in the college. A true friend can help you pass the hard times!
• United States
23 May 07
It's nice to have a friend to lean on although you feel that your wife is not your best friend I'm sure she'll be with you as long as you need her to be and I hope your friend will be there too.
@disvachic (10120)
• United States
23 May 07
I have a friend that will be supportive and not judge me for anything.We have been friends 12 years and i can tell him just about anything.He is there for me and there when i need him.I do appreciate his friendship and i let him know that as a matter of fact i told him a few days ago.I feel i am good friend to him as well.
• United States
23 May 07
That is beautiful truly beautiful so many of us are out here on our own not knowing the benefit of having someone to turn to. May God bless you to be friends throughout this lifetime and in the next as well if possible.