Do you think having a rough life entitles you to get away with things?

@breepeace (3014)
Canada
May 23, 2007 9:59pm CST
Let's just go to an extreme and say you were abandoned as a child, beaten up, sodomized several times, in and out of bad foster homes, were eventually thrown out when you came of age, forced to live on the streets due to lack of work and appropriate accomodations, met someone, fell in love and had them taken away due to a gruesome murder.. would you be justified in becoming a criminal? I'm just curious to see what everyone would say to this.. we can't deny that what I've said above is definitely a hard life, so would they be justified in doing something wrong when the world seems to have turned against them like this?
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17 responses
• United States
24 May 07
I dont believe having a hard life justifies wrong doing. I think it can make a person bitter to an extent but I feel that going through rough times in life would make you a stronger person and want you to change things around! For example, my dad drank a lot while I was young, I always told myself that when I get older I am not going to do that because I seen what it did to him and our family. I couldve used his drinking as an excuse and said, well I had a bad childhood so thats why im doing it, no..I wanted better for myself and my family.
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@slaveeva (213)
• United States
24 May 07
No, we all have had bad things happen to us at one point or the other in our life. If you haven't don't worry it will come. Personally I am tired of hearing that excuse. I had such a hard life therefore the world owes me. It is time to grow up and understand that life is not designed to be fair, it is designed to give us opportunities to grow mentally.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
24 May 07
true. life had always been unfair and yet, we should react to it positively. there are still good things in this world and we just need to search for it.
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@mjgarcia (725)
• United States
24 May 07
I could see how someone could use these circumstances to justify bad actions, but I don't think that it would be right. I'd like to believe that someone that went through a bad life would make the decision to be stronger than that - not allow themselves to be tossed to and fro without making the decision to take control of their life and attitudes. Bad circumstances will either break you or make you stronger. The decision is with the individual.
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@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
24 May 07
I think everything would only be considered as reasons why the person came out to be a criminal, but to be justified by all of it I would say no. It is very unfortunate really to live an extremely difficult life but it should never be a justification for committing a crime. Yes it is easier said, specially if you're just an observer and not the person directly involved, but that's how life is. No amount of hardships in life gives any man the right to commit a crime.
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• United States
24 May 07
It is very true that the way life treats one has a huge impact and influance on the way one thinks and acts. However, I strongly also believe in individual character irrelevant of the circumstances. I have known and read about many, many poeple who have become just the opposite of what they have been subjected to or simply lead a 'good' life despite any adverse happenings in their lives. I truly believe that each one of us is subjected to our own conscience and that builds our character. I personally don't think that one is justified to become a criminal just because but, at the same time I cannot pass judgement as my life did not take me on those paths...
• United States
24 May 07
I firmly believe that your life is what you make it. I have known several people who have gone through hell and back and have grown-up to become productive members of society who are trying to make the world a better place. In my opinion, no one is justified in engaging in activity that hurts themselves or others.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
24 May 07
although it sometimes seem impossible, for others, such drastic events could have happen to them. and i don't think that if they do something really wrong, it won't justify anything at all... for as long as one does something wrong, it will always be wrong. it's not really easy to say what's right or wrong since we aren't in their shoes. but i hope that no matter how hard life had been to some, there will still be this little paint of hope embedded in their hearts. life has it's turnaround and good things happen, too. just that sometimes, it does not happen in an instant. one should not lose hope... there is always hope.
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
24 May 07
This is a pet peeve of mine. I can’t understand how any one can do something that they know is wrong use the excuse I was abused to get away with it. There are many that have gone though this very thing and they don’t turn to crime. There are people that were raped and sexually abused as children and they don’t become pedophiles. There people that are beaten as children but they don’t all grow up to abuse their children. We are all responsible for our actions and can’t blame our childhood experiences. If more criminals were made to face this fact there might be less crimes.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
24 May 07
This drives me nuts, I see it more and more in news stories today. There is always an excuse for someone's actions, and it's always somebodys else's fault. They just had a shooting in a school here yesterday, and already, we're hearing that it was because he watched too many video games, too many violent movies, he was ridiculed, blah, blah, blah. It's time people took responsiblity for their own actions for a change.
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@JcHitomi (100)
• Nepal
24 May 07
At first, I couldnt deny the fact that I will be much affected and somehow my daily life and ventures in life will be so down. Sometimes when hard trials and pain comes I couldnt hold myself to just give up and just quit. Sometimes it helps but the problems goes back all over again. Good thing that I have few people who understand me and advice me not to just quit but rather face it and closed the issues. They are some aspects in life that we really have to face and know how to stand alone. LIfe is about survival and making out the best of it. Trials is just a part of this friggin cycle whether we like it or i like or not it goes all over again. Just hoping that Im not a weak person like I usually does (before) and have a better much will to deal with it! hehehe
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• United States
24 May 07
No I don't think so. I mean, everyone has a rough life to some degree. Because you've had a rough life does not entitle you to anything special, nor does it mean you can get away with anything. There are a lot of people that have rough lives, but they don't go out and commit crimes. They live just like everyone else, so why should a few people go out and do that?
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• Canada
24 May 07
Nope casue just cause you had it rough there is always soeone who had it rougher and tougher than you. So should there be more forgivness for them or shoudl they be treat the same as soemone who had it easier and they all do the same thing wrong. It is time peopel were held accountable for there actions and suffer the consequensise
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@toe_ster (770)
• United States
24 May 07
I think not. Nothing is good enough excuse to justify becoming a criminal. You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control how you react to it. Choosing to be a criminal falls solely onthe shoulders of the criminal. It is sad to have those things happen. But not all people who have had those things happen, choose to continue it. Some get out, which leads me to believe that there is hope for others.
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• United States
25 May 07
There is no justification for being criminal, it is a choice made.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
24 May 07
I don't think anything really entitles people to get away with things, but I do think having a particularly rough life explains things like criminal behaviour.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
24 May 07
I don't believe that this would justify a person to turn to a life of crime. I think if someone goes through things like that it should make them want to try to make a better life for themselves as soon as they get a chance. This is not easy for me to say, but when I was five years old I was almost raped by my father, but that doesn't give me the right to molest my children or any other children. Because of what happened to me it makes me love and cherish my children even more and I am thankful that they have a father who loves them.
• United States
24 May 07
There are plenty of people out their that had rough growing but it's never an excuse to do wrong stuff.