How do you access reliability of your friends here on mylot?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58679)
Delhi, India
May 24, 2007 12:51am CST
Dear friends I would like to know how do you access the reliability and trustworthiness of your dear friends here on mylot. Do you analyse and ponder over their discussions, replies, comments, counter-comments to access their trustworthiness? Do you also send them Private Messages to judge them and after doing all this....do you use your instincts and experience to judge a friend's trustworthiness? Because I feel if we have to judge a friend's reliablity here..we have to mainly rely on the replies he/she submits, discussions he/she starts and comments offered by him/her on your replies.
Shall be thankful for your views on this.
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4 responses
@sallyxu126 (1184)
• China
24 May 07
I think I don't have to access reliability of my friends here on mylot, as we are only friends to talk here via mylot message or via msn, no profit or any other problems.
so I get happiness from them and they get happiness from me , why I have to accesse the reliability ?
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
24 May 07
hi DEEPAK,
i have only a few friends here with whom i have a rapport and exchange of personal words through PMs, emails...
when i started off i had never thought that, let alone friendship,i would ever get hooked to this site. the interactions with friends started off only after i could get an earnest vibe from them. they had been there in my bad times with all motivating words to increase my self esteem. the 'reliability' as you have mentioned is something that you cannot try and figure out, you cannot know for the sake of knowing it. it kind of happens, and before realising we start to share out intimate moments with them.
i haven't judged my friends, both online and offline, whatsoever. we should not be judgemental, we can only feel the reliance and trustworthiness by the love, care, arguments, by talking and NO talking, by fights and ups and downs....its an constant ongoing process of knowing each other and this never kind of stops but you know for sure who are your real friends and who are not.
tha's the beauty of friendship both here and in real life.
happy true friends making...
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@dpk262006 (58679)
• Delhi, India
24 May 07
Nicely written. Logically and step by step assembled/ built up. This time the reply is on the dot. What I wanted to convey....you caught it right. You definitely read between the lines. Every sentences of yours speaks for itself. Yes, me too, like you when started off, never ever thought that I would come across and make some exceptional friends here..I did not imagine this possibility at all.
Yes, I have also realised that some of the dear friends here come out with their full support, in case they find me in any trouble or in my ups and down, rather more than I expect from them. I agree with you building up mutual trust in an ongoing process and it takes time...but meanwhile...you never realised that with whom you have become intimate or say started sharing your intimate details with him/her.
I also agree that when you develop a healthy relationship (friendship)....we should not be judgemental ....because I think there is no need for this.....
(Bahut hi badiyaa likhaa aur dil se likha hai...sahi main! Believe me!)
Thanks for sharing your logical and beautiful ideas like a genius.
deepak
@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
24 May 07
I connect to everyone who asks. I like a big network and lots to read. Sometimes a person's content and comments will jump out at me and that person will become a friend of mine off of MyLot, but usually people are just people on screen until something happens that makes me want to get to know the individual better.
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@msBetty (83)
• Philippines
24 May 07
its true that we can actually rate all the responses, but judging by the response that you get doesnt makes it up all.
just like answering the question, can you judge based on one incident or event the person has gone with.
in a particular situation, their responses goes on a day to day basis of what they have in mind or feel, some may feel bad and doesnt come up with the response you are expecting. or having some other thing in mind that doesnt meet what you are looking for?!
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