Smacking children - abuse or a parents right?

Smacking children is it right or wrong? - smacking children, it it fair or child abuse?
May 24, 2007 6:59am CST
Where do you stand on the issue of smacking your children for something they have done wrong? Have you ever smacked your children? Are you against any kind of smacking on children because you think its unfair or even classed as child abuse? Do you think that smacking your children is your right as a parent? This is an real life issue and i would like to here your thougts on the subject.
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7 responses
@castleghost (1304)
• United States
24 May 07
I personally don't see anything with giving a child a light smack on their bottom. I use a light smack to the bottom after I have tried other ways to discipline the children and they haven't worked. I am teaching the children that there are consequenses for their actions.
24 May 07
Teaching the child that their wrong actions have a consequence is the right way to look at it in my opinion, thank you for your response.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
24 May 07
My child will be 2 and she is that age where she is testing her limits and I will tell her no then count to 3 if she hasn't stopped then I smack her on her butt. Most of the time once I get to 3 she usually runs from me and being 9 months pregnant she can run faster then I can lol. So yes I think it does some good and should not be considered abuse unless the parent takes it too far. I was spanked and I turned out just fine.
24 May 07
I agree with you that its not abuse unless taken to a level where its completely unneccesary, thank you.
@bobbyjoe143 (1287)
24 May 07
smacking a child in my view is not wrong, but can go too far in too many cases. if a child is doing someting wrong that nothing but a smack will stop, then yes, that child needs a smack to assert that you are in charge, and you will not tolerate that behavior. children do not have the reasoning skills of an adult, so asking them politely will not deter them from doing what ever they want to. as a child gets older, smacks become much less necissary as the reasoning ability starts to kick in. my son is nearly 9 and i can't remember the last time he got a smack, i am now able to discuss things with him, let him know why he can't do certain things or why he must do other things. we can have conversations and he has the ability to understand what i am saying to him without having to resort to the shock of a smack.
24 May 07
I agree with you about a child and their reasoning ability that lacks in their early years and how smacking for you has become less of an issue as your son has grown older, thank you for your insight.
@PsychoDude (2018)
• Netherlands
24 May 07
I'm against it by far and I definitely won't be doing it to my kids with one exception, being when they'd be standing in shock in a life threatening situation or in utter panic in which a slap in the face is one of the fastest ways to get someone to focus again. But I definitely won't slap my children as a way to teach them what's good and wrong, like do you punch your colleagues when they turned in work late? Does your teacher slam you with a belt if you were talking during class? No, in all those cases you'd go report them for physical abuse, so why would physical abuse be ok on a kid which doesn't even get anything of it?
24 May 07
The first two responses on this discussion show why this topic is one of such debate. Two responses and two completely different opinions. You do raise an extremely valid point about why it would be any different with a child as it would be with a work colleague or teacher etc and i respect your views and opinions on such a matter. Thank you for your response Psychodude.
@magikrose (5431)
• United States
24 May 07
I believe in using a spanking on the bottom as a last resort when timeout and taking favorite things away fails. I believe that there are times that a firm but gentle spank on the bottom is the only way to go bcause the child is way out of controll and NO amount of talking or reasoning is going to work. I dont consider it child abuse at all. I was spanked as a child when I was out of controll and I turned out fine, and I know my kids will turn out fine.
24 May 07
So you are for it and you are in the mindset that it does no harm to the child, you also have commented on it being a last resort of only neccessary if talking to the child does not solve the problem. Thankyou for your response Magikrose.
@TinaP40 (329)
• Spain
12 Apr 08
Definatly a parents right, I dont think there is anything wrong with a smack now and again as long as it doesnt lead to more.
• New Zealand
30 May 07
at the moment my goverment is trying to bring in a no smacking bill which i think is totally silly for the simple points i am a parent yes i smack but not alot of the time and for another reason which is very easy really abuse happens behind closed doors not in front of other people so how is this going to stop abuse? lets face it. its going to keep happening and my goverment is nuts for thinking this is going to help.