Why cant they just stop it!!!!!!!!!!

@kitkat1 (1227)
May 24, 2007 1:49pm CST
How come it is when you ask a child to stop doing something it goes from repeating to stop and then hollering and leading to and upset and sometimes punishment. Is it that hard to just stop what they were told to stop doing in the beginning? Is this just a kid thing or do i have some serious problems here? Why do they push it that far? Is it me or do alot of people go through this one?
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@sunshine4 (8706)
• United States
24 May 07
This is nothing against you, because my kids do the same thing. I think that it is the parenting style. I have seen kids who are told no or to stop doing something and they actually listen to their parents. We have taught our children that if they continue, sometime we give in. They are confused on when no means no, or means well maybe. I have started to reteach my 6 yr old that when I say no, it is no! I don't go threw all the steps now, I just go directly to the punishment. If you don't respect what I tell you to do or don't do, you will be punished. It is slowly working.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
24 May 07
this is not a criticism honestly, but kids very quickly learn how far they can push parents until they get in real trouble. And the reason is because most parents are not willing to follow through with a punishment, for example if you do not pick up your toys we will not go to the park. The child ignores you, you repeat your self, the child still ignores you, You yell that if they do not pick up the darn toys there will be no time at the park, still nothing, so you make an agreement if you help them pick up their toys we will visit the park, one toy picked up by you. Finally you get so upset you take child to park so you can get some peace and quiet, Parent 0 kids 1. Now this can be fixed in one fell swoop, tell them only once."If you do not pick up your toys we will not be going to the park today" and stick to that rule, when child's says I want to go to the park explain that they are not going and the reason is you did not pick up your toys when I asked you to. Children need to understand that there are consequences for their actions or not doing some thing. Do not reward in any way bad behavior, and do reward good behavior, when you are going to the park remind child that the only reason they are going is because they did listen and did as mommy asked. This is a bit of retraining your self, but it does work if you are persistent,and consistent, This method works in almost any situation, This way a child learns that when mommy says something she means it, and they do learn it very quickly
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
24 May 07
i am no parent but from what i know in psychology that children responds to a calm and soothing voice.if they feel they are threatened because of a tone in your voice,human instinct prevails they become defensive and cry.
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
24 May 07
A lot depends on the age of the child. When they are two they are asserting their independence. Depending on how you handle that, they may learn that they can get away with not stopping what you tell them to stop. The key is to make sure that you are firm, fair, and consistant in giving them appropriate consequences for their disobedience, which isn't as easy as it sounds. Like I keep saying, parenting is one heck of a challenging job.
@KrisNY (7591)
• United States
30 May 07
I think most kids will push you to see how far they can go- What they can get away with- just how much us parents can take before we lose our tempers- I know mine does. She doesn't do it as much anymore- losing privledges and being grounded is not fun- she understands that now- I usually only have to ask once and sometimes twice- and she stops- try grounding them