Mother and daughter relationship

@Neriz69 (1042)
Philippines
May 25, 2007 1:18am CST
Are you close with your mom? I remember when I was a kid I would always call my mom for almost anything, but it doesn't really mean that we are close. Especially when I was a teenager, we always fight. I envy my friends who are really close to their moms. How I wish I have the same relationship with her. Funny when I became a mom myself things began to change. We stopped fighting just like that. All our attention was shifted to my first born. My first born became our link to each other bringing us closer together. How I wish that it did not take 22 years before we got closer. Now that I'm a mother myself, I try to be as close to my kids. Though sometimes I really can't reach them no matter how I tried. How about you, how is your mother daughter relationship?
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@kjc1981 (45)
• United States
31 May 07
my mother means the world to me we are very close she was my mother and father she did everything to take care of us including trying to better herself with no help from my father altough there are some things that i'll do different with my kids my mom did a wonderful job and i'll always love her she's one of my best friends!!!
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@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
26 May 07
Hello Neriz69, My mother and I were like oil and vinegar. Thankfully, a few months before she passed away, she and I had the opportunity to really hash out some of our differences. She was surprisingly open to hearing my perspective, for which I am very appreciative. I love to hear stories of Mom's and daughter's who eperience a true bond of closeness, because I never experienced it. If I could go back and change it all, I wouldn't. Because the lack of a mother/daughter bond helped me to develop other relationships with siblings and friends that I wouldn't have otherwise, and wouldn't trade them for all the world.
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@tina12679 (1126)
• United States
26 May 07
I really cant remember a time when we werent close. Sure going through my teens we had our outs but it didnt ever diminish any of the bond that we had. I am the baby of the family and my next sister up is 7 years older so i was pretty much the center of attention and the only on with my mom for a very long time so that may have played a role in how close we were. Even today though she lives an hour away we talk on the phone at the very least once a week and we try to get together at least once a month. She is my rock a beautiful example to me that anything is possible she is the strongest woman i know, she is almost 60 and works anywhere from 40-60 hours a week in a plant that bags the top soil that we buy to plant our flowers. she is always on her feet. and just recently she became single and idependant for the first time in my life, and she is taking it with stride. My mother truely is my hero!
@carolscash (9500)
• United States
25 May 07
My mom and I used to be very close, but a few years ago we let her move in with us and now she about drives me crazy. She does some really stupid stuff and she always sits in her room and does nothing to help with anything in the house. I wish that we would have a closer relationship, but since I am very opinionated and I am very straight forward, we seem to fight quite a bit.
• United States
25 May 07
Growing up my mother was my worst enemy, and it took a while before we got close. Actually, we got close when I moved into my own place. I was 18 when this happened and I am 25 now. My son is a little over a year, and I cannot tell you what a relief it has been to have my mother around for advice, someone to laugh with, a shoulder to cry on, and an ear to listen. I will never say that we don't fight, but we are very close. It took me becoming a mother to understand that she wasn't trying to ruin my life, but that she was just trying to give me guidance. Now that I am on the other side of the fence, I can see her perspective better. I am gradually turning into her, and I am proud to say that that is a great thing. I just hope me and my son can have a relationship like me and my moms someday. Aren't mothers great?
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@maehan (1445)
• United States
25 May 07
When I am a kid, I don't live with my parent until I was 16. Thus, as a kid, I am not close to my mom. I am getting closer and closer to her after 16. We simply share or talk anything. We are more like a friend rather than a mother and daughter.
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