can you accept a baby before marriage ?

China
May 25, 2007 2:15am CST
nowadays , some people may have a baby before marriage and they think it is not important to have a baby wether married or not . but for some other one, they this it is not acceptable to have a baby before marriage. In east of China, more people can accept it,but in west of China, most of people could not accept . what about the status in your country ? if this is acceptable ?
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@muscare (3069)
• Australia
25 May 07
Well, it's a fairly common thing here, there are a lot of single mothers around. My wife and I actually went through a stage before we were married where we thought a kid would be nice, whether we were married or not. I think it was more because we knew that would really irritate my wife's mother,lol! In the end, we waited until after we were married, but not because of anything the mother in law said!!!
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
4 Jun 07
Thanks for the best response!
@mememama (3077)
• United States
26 May 07
It's mostly accepted here in the United States. Some of the older people frown upon it. I'm the only one in my generation of family that got married, then had a baby. Everyone else had a baby, then split up or married. But I don't see anything wrong with having a baby out of wedlock, as long as you can love and care for their child there is no problem. Messed up people that are married have children all the time!
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• Canada
26 May 07
I think that you have to love your partner and know that you will be together for the rest of you life before you have children. But yes it is perfectly alright to have children before marriage.
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• United States
25 May 07
I don't know about the country as a whole and I'm in the US but my husband accepted my kids with open arms and they call him dad even. There was never no pressure on him or the kids neither. We were married already for about 5 months and lived together for about a year and a half before they called him dad. I think it depends on the person. He don't have any kids and has never been married and so I consider myself very lucky that I found someone so accepting and caring as him.
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