Grrr!!! My Temper Rises...
By add_im
@add_im (2712)
Philippines
May 25, 2007 4:24am CST
It really makes my temper rise up when I see messy things around the house everywhere. This always happens when everytime my younger brother next to me every after he do thing like taking his shower, getting his things for work, brushing his teeth, and etc...that he needs to be doing. It always mess up, he always mess up things around the house like he can't never learn how to put back things in order or put them in a proper place where it should be placing right. This really makes me upset about him and makes my temper rise just because of this things he's doing, though I keep on reminding him always or just about everytime I see him around the house...not my intention that I'm too bossy or too demanding when it comes to cleaning our surroundings, but what im doing is only to make him learn something when it comes to those kind of things and make him responsible enough to everything he is about to be doing in life, even to his future whenever he had his own family in his future life. That's all I wanted to be done, but my brother is just so much stubborn that I could almost give up on him and just let him be the way he is.
What about you guys, do you also have this kind of situation towards your family members or even to other people around you? That it makes your temper rise up when you are about to encounter such a situation like what i've mentioned above?
Please do share your opinions and thoughts. Thanks!
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5 responses
@derek_a (10873)
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25 May 07
I'm afraid, when I was young, I was the "young brother" who made the mess around our house. Nagging just made me worse. My mother or older sisters would often say,"why can't you pick things up after you?" and I would reply, "leave me alone! Stop nagging me!". That, I'm afraid is a typical young boy.. Sorreeee!
Your brother may be different to what I was, but somehow I don't think so. You need to look after yourself and keep a calm mind. In the part of the house that you share with him, you may have to clean up to make it look nice for yourself. You could just pick it up, open his bedroom door and throw it all in a pile in there and leave him with it. He'll soon get fed up. That is what my mom did with me, often. Then, when any of my friends came around, I would have to clean it up because I was embarrassed at the mess.
Another thing you can do is to pick up his stuff whilst he is in the house and dump into his arms, telling him you need it moved, or you'll put it in the trash. If you say that though, always keep your word. It won't be easy though, he may let it go in the trash! :-)
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
25 May 07
LOL, :-), well I think it's much better so I don't have to picked myself all those messy things from his stuffs. :-)
I may be being rude at him at times, but I have my reason why I am acting those kind of ways. If ever he will just cooperate some work in the house, I guess there would never be any complaining that's going on in my part.
Thanks for sharing derek.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
26 May 07
Oh yeah, thanks for reminding me about that derek, :-)...you have given me that idea, and I like it somehow, hmmm!!! I'm now thinking my first move to do some messy things around somewhere his room or even just his whole room if possible I can...LOL :-)
What do you think? :-)
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
26 May 07
For me, this is what being a female is all about. Cleaning up after others. When your brother has his own life and family, everything you have told him and taught him will come back to him and he will put it into practice. He doesn't bother now because firstly, he is your brother and a male and secondly, he knows you will do it anyway. There is only one person here getting upset and that's you. And that's probably how it will always be. I lived with a guy who was more than happy for me to do the majority of the work around the house. I used to be unhappy and resentful all the time. Then I thought...hang on, who's the one who is relaxed and comfortable here...him or me? So I eased off. He picked up some of the slack and helped out a little bit more...or he would have had no meals or clean laundry, and I was less tense. I left him not long after and he was able to wallow in his muck and his misery then.
@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
27 May 07
Thanks for sharing. Yeah, because of my desire to help him change some of his ways regarding the rules in the house and it's cleanliness, I admit that i'm only making it hard with my ownself...but I never regreted it and will never be because I believe that through my teachings about this small things in his life, I know that someday I would gain back all those things for myself and that would be my reward then from being what I am from his life.
@gberlin (3836)
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25 May 07
Well my wife and I both like a clean house so this has not really been a problem especially now that my son is gone and my daughter was gone but has now returned home to live for a couple more years until she finishes her degree. However she is neater than she was when she was younger. I do know that once your brother gets on his own and gets older, he will remember how nice it is to have a neat and clean place and he will start keeping his own place neat and clean.
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@add_im (2712)
• Philippines
26 May 07
Thanks for sharing gberlin, that is great when people around your house likes to have a clean and neat house. But I just don't truly know about this brother of mine and I guess he is old enough in his 23 yrs, to know messy things from clean ones. Oh well, maybe being a messy guy in the house is probably really his nature :-)
@CinderInMySoul (4717)
• United States
25 May 07
oh i hate that!! it drives nuts when ppl in my household cant hang up their towel, or wipe off the water they leave on the counter..or even just put the stupid cap back on the toothpaste!
and heaven forbid anybody actually puts on a roll of toilet paper when they just used the last of the roll!
i know i nag my family about those little things all the time, but really..it is NOT that hard to do!
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@besthope44 (12123)
• India
24 Oct 10
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