Love hurts

Love DOES hurt but we would never know love without pain. I went through (and am still going through) a similar situation with an ex of mine. I'm assuming that you haven't been able to talk to him about his reasons yet and thats the worst part, not knowing what someone is thinking. Give him space but let him know that you are there. Maybe he is just confused and needs to try and figure things out. If it has happened before than the issue may be ongoing and you need to try and work together to get the root of the problem. If it's meant to be it's meant to be. I had to tell myself that over and over again and i still have faith. The teeter totter effect in a relationship can be heartbreaking. Maybe he does not know where his priorities are right now. If you are sure that you want to be with him for good than try and make contact with him like i said to let him know that you are there for him. When you get a chance to discuss things let him know also that it is not fair for you to have him leave with no explanation and that next time maybe he could try and clue you into what is going on in his life, so that maybe you can help him deal with whatever is going on. Every successful relationship needs a solid foundation of trust, respect and communication. Sorry if i rambled here but i hope this helped in some way.

Any updates?? I'm concerned and I hope things work out.

I would suggest it's age. Leave another message, letting him know that you are waiting and let him make the next move. I know you remember 21. But love is certain and it does show in the end. You should just give him time. And be prepared to do this every once in a while until he is as secure in his skin as you are.

If it had happened before you should either be used to it or sick of it. He must be afraid of committment. So now you have to decide how much time you want to spend waiting for someone to come back if he will at all. Good luck and hope it works out the best way possible. Personally, I think leaving when you asked him to marry you and moving back in with grandma is pretty much a sign that he is not ready. Will he ever be?

I would go on and try not to look back..in fact..if I were you..I would change my number..so you won't be looking for him to call you back...I bet you will hear from him again..but I wouldn't have any more to do with him..maybe he feels confused or guilty because of his family..you think about "you"..don't worry about him..my guess is you'll hear from him after you move on..

You know, let him go.. sometimes people didnt appreciate what we are doing..

Hi. Just wanted to comment on this. Maybe your partner is going through some struggles you don't know anything about.....maybe something he can't disscuss right now. I would agree on what your friends are saying......give him some time. However, don't 'stop' your life, waiting for him. Do you follow?? Just remember.....I believe there is ALWAYS a purpose why things happen ( good or bad ). Good luck.

Dont even give him a second thought. If someone does that now in your relationship wow can you imagine what he might do later on down the road? Let this little baby go. It sounds like he still attached to his moms strings. Ditch him.

Forget about him and lead your own life without him. Obviously, he doesn't appreciate you. He is being rude and has no consideration for your feelings. If he hasn't answered your messages nor phone calls then he is not interested in having a relationship with you.

Well I almost got married once. It was so close, but just not meant to be. There is no telling what would make a guy turn like that and do that right at the "last mintue" so to speak. So it's hard to say what could be doing through his head, but from another guys point of view it can't possibly be good at all. I think maybe he's reconsidering a lot of things, could be other things as well. Yes, you are right about love hurting. When you love someone you pretty much "expose" all of yourself and take a high risk of getting hurt in the process. All I can say is I hope for the very best for you, but if he continues to not talk to you and everything like that, then I'd start to definitely reconsider things yourself. You might have to consider moving on no matter how much you love someone.

personally i think that you know the truth deep down inside, if it was me and he kept walking away i dont think i would bother. its hard letting the person go but lik eothers have said if he loves you he will come back (providing u still want him back) i know though that i couldnt live everyday wondering if he was coming home or not

leave him,He is not care about you.You should live your own life.Not reliant to him.

all i can say to you is just dont find for love let love finds you...if he really love's you and you are to each other he will back only the time will tell that's it...thank you!

let go of him. he doesn't deserve you. go out and explore your world. make lots of friend and have fun. life is so short, don't waste your youth on unworthy person.

sure it hurts, but I think you both need to space up each other, I guess he was making his way to be alone thats why he just left you. Hopefully things will be alright for you both ;)

may be, just may be he jusy want to go to spain. did you buy him all ticket and accomondation?

I think your partner has a plan that never say to you. Or he will say to you but not this time. I think it is good for you to know what his plan. For now i agree with you thatjust let him be for a while. But it is importent to you to know what his plan for his future.

i was glad to read your response to one of the responses here, that we can not control who we fall in love with, and i am not being cynical here. It means that you do believe in love and going for it, and that is nice to hear. Now about about cody, there is a big age difference between you two, and it seems that you are probably the first one that he feels that he is safe with, he does feel protected with you. ( i read what you wrote about his life story). But there is a big difference between what you need and what he does. The fact that he feels good with you and secure and does love you as a person, does not mean that he is ready to commit himself, and i guess that the proposal act did confuse him. Maybe he thinks that you are the one that proved him that people can be beautiful, but he does not want to be obligated to one person. Maybe he wants to try in the future another serious relationship with a person that is more near to his age, and his stage in life. Yes, love does hurt, but people that are hurt, are people that also had and will have love in their life, and that is beautiful. Now about choosing our love, yes. We can not control who we fall in love with, but we can control what we will do with this love and if it is really right for us. It is painful, but somtimes we have to stop the relationship and go on and find another love that can give us what we want in life. We can not love and suffer all of our life, because that person is not really the right one. I think that you should take time off, and then go and start dating again. i know that it is not that easy in this age, i do not mean to hurt, but this is reality. But it is possible, and was done. And there is no reason that you won't find a men that suits you, and build a family with him. By that i mean a marriage and children. Good luck in whatever step you choose to take my friend.

Did he walked out on you just because you proposed to him? Whatever the reason, you have a right to know. But it seems that he does not you to know judging from the long silence by not responding to your messages. Has he gone out of your life completely? You better find out by just waiting for him to call you. Discipline yourself by not contacting him as long as you can. If he does contact you, then that's it. But if he does not, then it's time for you to think seriously about this relationship--if it is still really worth the pain and hurt. Be ready to accept any possibilities...the sooner you can, the better it is for you.

no man is worth your tears,and the one who is ,won't make you cry!