Do you believe in second chances?

second chances - love
@aneekuh (133)
Philippines
May 27, 2007 8:40am CST
If your guy fooled you or cheated on you, would you still give him a second chance? How would I know if he's worth it for that chance? and how would I know if its already time to give up and let go? ♥
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7 responses
@Darkwing (21588)
27 May 07
Oh, I think your heart tells you if he's worth a second chance. It would all depend on the actual cheat, and the ability to sit down and talk about both your feelings. There may be something lacking in your relationship which needs to be addressed; if you can sort it out between you and put things behind you.. then great, but if you're going to fling it up in his face every time you have a disagreement, then a second chance won't work. I would consider whether this was a fling, whether it was he who approached the other woman, or she who gave him the come-on at a time of weakness on his part, whether he had any feelings for the other woman, whether he could front me up and tell me the truth. If he lies and hides the event, then he doesn't get a second chance. But, if I really loved him and thought we "belonged" together, then I would certainly like to have the facts to consider for a while, before deciding my best option. You're the one in control when you've been cheated on, so you need to make totally sure that your decision is going to benefit you, and not make you unhappy. I hope that helps... it's just my opinion, and I wish you all the best of luck if this has happened to you. Brightest Blessings for a great day.
@ESKARENA1 (18299)
27 May 07
but if I him and thought we "belonged" together, then I would certainly like to have the facts to consider for a while, before deciding my best option. Exactly right, its a good idea to sit back and think it through. Its just me who would walk
@Darkwing (21588)
27 May 07
I always like time to consider things. :-)
@BrainTeaser (1430)
• Pakistan
27 May 07
It depends upon the mistake thats comitted in the first place that whether i can take it or not if its severe than it will be really hard to forget and forgive if not than it will be kinda easy to turn the things back to normal.As far the topic i'll take it if the girl has cheated well the more i love her the more difficult it will be to forgive as when you love someone from the bottom of your heart and being loyal all the time ,caring all the time and one does such a thing it will become really hard to forgive as the person not only have broke your trust but also cheated your love aswell.
@aneekuh (133)
• Philippines
31 May 07
Yeah it really depends on what the person did..
@sandwedge (1341)
• Malaysia
27 May 07
relationship wise, just walk away. most of the time the person will repeat what they did. "how would i know if its already time to give up and let go"? you don't. take a leap of faith that what you are goping to do is the best decision.
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@aneekuh (133)
• Philippines
28 May 07
Leap of faith? Where can I buy that? Haha just kidding=) Thanks!=)
@huilee (1010)
• Singapore
28 May 07
I won't... Heard of the saying, once beaten, twice shy? For me, i believe in tt... Im biten by u once, why should i give u another chance to hurt me? I dun believe in ppl changing unless something terrible happened to them to make tt big change in them... A leopard nv changes its spot... This i agree too...
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@xmichx (109)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
I don't think he deserves a second chance if he fooled you or cheated you. Most likely he will do it again.
@yamskee (830)
• Philippines
5 Aug 07
i believe that love is sweeter the second time around. but give up in hoping for chances, if the person youre waiting for has somebody else.
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
I'm a guy, and I can vouch for all the guys out there when I said, that, we do deserve a second chance... Love is something that no man can ever comprehend... we all fall in love, we all get hurt... its a process we could never change... but what matters most is our ability to forgive and forget... as for moving on, if this guy hurt you as much as he did before, then that would be the time for you to let him go...no questions asks.. Guys don't think the same... some guys tend to over-react on things, others are passive, some guys tends to abuse their partners...etc... you will know if your guy is one of the above by circumstancial evidence... if your guy is egotistical in nature, like he thinks he is so "Guapo" then there is a chance you could get hurt again... only you could really tell if it't time for you to move on... -The King of Reason and The Leader of None-