Will you forgive your uncles and aunts for this?

Will you forgive your uncles and aunts for this? - If after making it in life, will you forgive you uncles and aunts inspite of negleting you when you need them the most.
@thefuture (1749)
Nigeria
May 27, 2007 12:50pm CST
Hi friends you guys have been so wonderful. I will like you all to share your opinion on this; If after making it in life, will I forgive my uncles and aunts inspite of negleting me when I needed them the most. What actually happened is this: His dad died in a fatal accident and his uncles and aunts negleted him and his younger ones without even caring to know what they are facing and going through in life. It was really hard times going through the 1st three years in high school and his mum continued with the strugles, until last year, 2006 when she died from stroke. She died as a cop and life have been really tough for him and his younger ones. He and his younger ones are really facing hard times. He asked me that if after making it in life, will I forgive my uncles and aunts for negleting me. My answer to him was; having grudge with people will not make us go forward in life, but the best thing is forgive them and go on with life, cos the more we look back, the less we get ahead. What is your answer about this? What will you say about this? Thanks for your response in advance.
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@deebomb (15315)
• United States
27 May 07
Your young friend has had a very hard road to follow. It is too bad that the antand uncles could not have been of more help. It could be that they were struggling too. We don't always know what is going on with our ralitives. But I do agree with you about forgiving forgetting and looking foreward. Having a grudge will only make him ill and hateful. It will also eat away at him. For his own happyness he should forgive them and get on with his life.
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@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
28 May 07
Thanks so much for your response. Best wishes.
@abroji (3247)
• India
28 May 07
Dear future, My answer to the question is exactly the same as yours. I have noticed earlier that when coming to relations and life we think in the same line. He may not be able to forget the bitter experiences he had encountered from his uncles and aunts but he should definitely forgive them for their nglect shown to him at his time of turbulence. Not forgiving means he keeps a desire to revenge. But revenge is not for man, it is for God. He must forgive them and move forward with his life. Thank you future.
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
28 May 07
Thanks so much for your response. Best wishes from thefuture.
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@abroji (3247)
• India
29 May 07
Thank you thefuture for your comment.
@Marie2473 (8517)
• Sweden
28 May 07
I guess forgiving is a good thing coz hatred will only lead you ina bad direction. however I am not sure that this means that he has to spend time with them or even like them for waht they did. but atleast - if he forgives them he has done the best he can and then it is again up to them to show that they were worthy of his forgivness!
@anup12 (4178)
• India
28 May 07
I think you should help him out and see to it that they enjoy a comfortable life and they are happy at all costs.They are happy forever.
@jogie_bien (1103)
• Philippines
28 May 07
sometimes its not easy to say forgive them when they did some unforgettable for your life.Its take time before you forgive someone that you make you feel pain.Honestly its very easy to say yes i forgive you, but deep inside you still remember what is the past in your life.But forgiving is better to go on with your life, and to make you happy and face the future.And when you remember the past you can just smile and say you that you are strong enough to face all the trials in your life.