Do It Properly Or Don't Bother

@wolfie34 (26789)
United Kingdom
May 28, 2007 8:42am CST
Do you get annoyed when you ask someone to do something for you and when they do eventually do it, they haven't done it properly? You've wasted your time nagging them or asking them repeatedly to do it, eventually when they have done it, the job is only half done, or is left for you to do properly? For example, the washing up, I hate seeing piles of washing up hanging around, and when I returned last night from a weekend away I found the washing up half done, the stuff that had been done hadn't been washed up properly or was still dirty? So I had to do it all again, properly, I wasn't happy!
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@hezoid (2147)
28 May 07
Yes, it's very annoying! I think the saying 'if you're going to do something, do it properly' exists for a very good reason. I don't know why somone would bother wasting even the small amount of effort to either start something but not finish it or just do a job half-heartedly and not properly, so that really the only thing that can be done is to do it again.
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@amydawn11 (906)
• Canada
28 May 07
I hate it when people do a half as*ed job. I had moved into an apartment a few years ago and the people who lived there before had painted but they got paint on the light fixtures, on the floors and it just looked horrible, oh and they only painted half of one wall!. It really annoyed me because I think to myself, why go through all the bother and work of painting if your not going to do a good job. Not only do you waste your money but your time. When I do my dishes I make sure I wash them well, I don't want to have to do them over again.I had just finished cleaning all the walls in my place, when I was in the kitchen I had asked my bf to help me more the hutch out so I could wipe the walls and get all the dust off and he said oh just leave it. yah right, so I ended up moving it myself. I can't start something and not do all of it and do it right. It really would of bothered me if I had not done behind there, so now it is done and I feel much better ...lol
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@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
28 May 07
I know what you mean, wolfie. Like you, I also like my house to be clean and orderly. Anyone who wish to stay at my house are welcome as long as they follow my rules. I don't have any maid and household chores is not chicken work. My sibling were always like that. They will leave everything on the table without bothering to place it on the sink or offered to wash the dishes. I will see newspaper lying on the sofa. They will leave the house without turning off the TV. Its really annoying and I literally told them not to bother visit my house anymore, LOL!
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
28 May 07
That is why there are certain things that I will not ask someone else to do. You have explained it clearly. SOMETIMES ITS JUST BETTER TO WAIT SO AT LEAST YOU WILL KNOW ITS RIGHT.
@patootie (3593)
28 May 07
I am not quite so fastitidiously houseproud as you are (far from it these days sadly) ... but I'm with you about asking someone to do a job for me .. Invariably it is easy and quicker to just get on with it and do it yourself .. and the ONLY way to get a job done properly is to complete it yourself .. I've always hated housework, I'm not very good at it .. but when I set my mind to it I can always do it better than anyone else .. if it only didn't make me feel so bad tempered I might enjoy doing it hahahaha And I do wonder how many times folks have 'half' done a job because they know I won't ask them again ... there is method in their slovenliness hehehe
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• Singapore
28 May 07
Naturally. That's why I chose the other way. I don't ask people to do things for me any more. If I want something done, I do it myself.
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• United States
28 May 07
My Mother used to say if you wanted it done the way you wanted, you should do it yourself, if you just wanted it done than you are going to have to deal with imperfections and you should not complain about how it got done. So, if I was ever real picky about my laundry, or my dishes or how I wanted my bed made I do it myself so as not to complain to the person that tried to live up to our standards. Take care, my friend.
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• Canada
28 May 07
I totally agree with that cause if you dont do it right the first time then its only going to take you twice as long to redo it again right so take your time and do it right the first time or dont do it at all
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@deebomb (15315)
• United States
28 May 07
I find it to be a great agravation to have to keep asking some one to do something and they say yeh and then keep putting it off. It turns me into a nagger which I hate to be. But when I just can't do it my self and have to ask someone else to do it I sometimes have to nag them. Then when they don't do it right I wish I had just done it myself even if I do have to really struggle to do it right. I can be right there telling them how I want it done but no they know what they are doing,but it comes out all wrong. Why is it so hard to do things right and not haphazardly or unfinished? It makes me want to scream.
@deebomb (15315)
• United States
28 May 07
I forgot that I wanted to say " If you want things done right, you have to do it your self."
@uath13 (8204)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I deal with it daily both at teh office & with my kids. ( Beats head on desk ) shouting Why ( thump ) Can't They ( thump ) Do their ( thump ) Stinking ( thump ) Jobs!!!!!!!
@yanjiaren (9050)
14 Nov 07
I can understand where you are coming from, especially when the gits can be very lazy and always expect you to do it. Now that is really MEGA ANNOYING lol and I have found myself in that situation too many times. That is one reason I left my first marriage because of others never pulling their weight.
@suspenseful (40312)
• Canada
13 Nov 07
I usually wind up doing it myself. I cannot stand someone not doing something right or even partly right. If they are an absolute slob, it is easier for me to do it and consequently if someone asks me to do something I am unqualified to do, I will tell them that they had better do it, because if I did it, they will regret for the rest of their lives. I know what you mean about the washing, and the clothes on the floor, (yes my younger son did that, he would throw his clothes on the floor and I had no idea what was clean or dirty, so everything went in the wash.)
11 Jun 07
It's always the thought or fact of sharing a moment with someone with me. I used to be like this but I didn't like being that person because it's better to accept someone or at least understanding that someone might not be able to do something properly. ~Joey (Nothing against those who are like that though)
• Switzerland
29 May 07
Yes. I do get annoyed if they do not do it properly. But, the problem is that we realize that it would have been better if we had done it ourselves, only after they have completely messed it up.
@weemam (13377)
29 May 07
I know just what you mean pal . my pet hate though is , I do the living room really thorough , hoover polish , do windows mirrors , sit back and look at my work and admire how lovely it looks . I go out for half an hour to mum and Dads , leave Ross alone and when I come back you would think a bomb had dropped . He doesn't make it dirty but everything seems to be upset or moved , I don't get on to him because it is his home too and I want him to be comfortable but I just wonder when he gets his own place will he be any tidier lol As far as the dishes go I would be like you , it would really annoy me if they weren't clean yuck , in saying that my hubby is my inexpensive dishwasher and he is even more particular then me lol , don't let anyone make you lower your standards pal xx
@Lvdeckape (320)
• United States
29 May 07
LOL, I know that is like when I ask my kids or even my fiance to clean the house or whatever and yes sometimes it is the way it should be and I do know they try (sometimes) but half the time it takes days for them to do it and it is still a huge mess! -Lora
@miamilady (4916)
• United States
29 May 07
Here's the problem with that statement... "Properly" is a relative term. Everyone has different standards. The person who did the washing up, (perhaps your child) may have much lower standards than you. I know this is also a problem with many husbands and wives. I think, in the case of children, being very specific MIGHT help. Of course it depends on the child. In the case of the work place, being specific should be more effective. In the case of a spouse, well, I think in that case one should probably just appreciate the effort and realize that each of us does things in our own way. I've heard many cases where the wife complains about the husband that doesn't help out, then when he does finally help, she complains about how he did the job, only to discourage him from helping out again. She ends up doing it all herself in the end. It's better in this case to appreciate the help when you get it, in order to encourage more cooperation in the future.
• Philippines
29 May 07
i agree! thats very annoying! it happened to me a lot of times,, uhmm, one day when me and my brother are planning to bake a very good cake, i ask my brother to prepare some of the ingredients and beat the egg to make icing(this takes for several minutes) and i will baked the cake(all the hard work). when im ready to put the ingredients, i was sooo pissed when my brother just sit infront of the computer and didn't do his part. that incident make my day bad! not happy!!!!
@gabs8513 (48708)
• United Kingdom
29 May 07
Hi there Sweetie That is why I do things myself I never rely on anyone anymore When I do it I know it is done properly even when I was working Full time and had 2 little ones to look after I did it all myself as my Ex Husband would either not do it or he would do half the job I used to decorate myself and a lot of other things as he would never be asked to
@wasim989 (2301)
• India
29 May 07
I think it is quite natural to get annoyed at someone when someone don't do things your way but you have to be patience sometimes even if someone is getting on your nerves because this is what is called co-operation.