“Some day” Society. Do you postpone anything?

Yes .. of course .. there are many things I would quite like to do .. but know I'd find it all too hard .. so it's on my wish list .. but unlikely to ever get done .. One of those things is 'find a boyfriend' .. hehehe ... I know I won't .. it's all too difficult .. I don't want to get hurt again .. and quite frankly I rather enjoy life as it is right now .. But if a nice man did 'drop into my lap' .. I dare say I wouldn't turn him away ...

I always want to have today or the present moment to be living in. Sure, there are some things I put off until the next day, but in some ways they may be things I think I want or need but I am not really sure. And I look forward to some things in the future because I simply cannot create them in one day. Yes, I want to have a great relationship, but that takes finding someone to have it with. I might say today I will start my new relationship, but unless I find someone, it will have to wait for another day. All I can do is see myself being in a great relationship and then take steps to make it happen. But you don't meet this kind of person everyday. No, I don't collect things or need tons of possessions. Sure, I want to have some nice things, but even if I could afford to buy 10 vehicles, I only want one. And I don't need a TV and computer in every room. One of each is sufficient. If I could afford to buy new ones every few months, I wouldn't. The only security is that which comes from inside. So in a sense, if you don't have it right now, you will never have it. Because you can never have enough of outside things to be totally secure.

My life time motto is " don't postphone things for tommorrow and if you decide to start anything, start it today as who know's the chance which you have today maynot be there tommorrow or even the chance might be grabbed by some one else tommoorrow don't you also think so?

yes housework! Oh i do it alot on different things . mostly when hubby ywas out of work we had to wait for a job to open then we would try to do all we could att hat time but we lived oh boy did we live!

I used to be an OMG, get that crumb off the floor kind of person. Now, after many friend's advice, I leave the crumb and go find something fun to do! I was obsessed with a very clean house, at all times. In the past year, though, I have changed my ways, and while I certainly don't live in filth, my housework is the major thing procrastinated. As for losing weight or taking a trip, there is no procrastinating! I just go for it! I went in debt to take a very nice Bahamas trip. If I waited for the money, I would have never gotten to go. I used "some day" for college, and the someday came along, I am there now, at 40. Lack of knowledge of student financial aid kept me in the "some day" mode. I am now just going after what I want, or I know I will never get it!

Being impatient, I don't like waiting. Everything has to be now or else something will happen tomorrow I will never be able to get it done. But this attitude made me lose focus sometimes and so I was taken advantage of and it cost me a lot of money also. Now I take my time and be more cautious. If I'm in doubt, I'll make my decision tomorrow or whatever. Some things I can't afford to lose, I need time to decide. If only I did this before I wouldn't lose so much, but then again, if I never fall I wouldn't know how to rise again.

that's one good learning i get from members of myLot today - " my time is here and now, regardless of my location and financial situation, because today will never happen again." thank you so much for sharing us this line. i am the kind of person who postpones schedules. and i admit, i hate the idea of it. i get to days when i regret postponing since i believe i could have done so much. there are times when i don't postpone anymore and i can say, my life had been better.

Sometimes I do postpone things, but not that often. I will usually postpone appointments...usually because I am tired or not feeling well..or just don't feel like going.....

I used to belong to the "someday" society, but over the past 10years I have lost so many people from my life, some so young that have passed away suddenly, I try now to make the most of my time and try and not put things off as I I am now well aware, ....tomorrow may never come.....

I understand what you mean, but I also know plenty of people who've gotten into big trouble with the 'live for today' approach, especially the 'regardless of financial situation'aspect. They use their credit cards or borrow money to get things (homes, vacations, TV, etc) that they don't have the money for, then they end up paying tons of money in interest fees or even going bankrupt. This has happened to a number of people I know.

I must be honest- I do! Not all things- I try to live mostly in the here and now- but there are things I put off until “tomorrow”… like a new pool- the kind you keep up and don’t take down at the end of the season- I was all set on this year- then my company sold out and who knows about our future- so I put it off- My daughter was so bummed—we still have a big pool- 18 ft- but it’s not a permanent one- I said next year—when I know my job is more secure- Disneyworld—my sig. other won’t fly- I keep saying that my family will go to Disney- we were going to go this summer- my family, my parents, and my brothers family- He is in Iraq now- and will be for the next year- so again I put it off- I always have a reason to live in the “tomorrow” financial, or family- but one day I’ll surprise everyone and just say- the heck with it- let’s do it!

Pola, I firmly believe in the dictum - 'Tomorrow never comes'. I have kept this saying on my table..and keep glancing that..I do not wish to postpone anything for tomorrow, which I can do today...procarstination...I believe is a bad habit....we must do the things as quickly as possible, tomorrow we may not be alive to do that.

..OK..you got me here..what else should I say? I keep promising myself and it is all promised and never delivered.:(

I've been in both the someday society and the get it done now financial group. It depends on what i'm doing. If it's fixing a leaky faucet or something then 'get it done now' If it's something that takes time to achieve I do so, just let it happen one step at a time. I like being proactive, but do enjoy taking my time. :) IF any of that makes sense.

sometime i put things off till tomorrow, it depend on what the things are , like bills i would do that more offten lol but like doing something i like, i wanna do it now, if i want something, i want it now. i try to follow this, yesterday is the past, tomorrow is the future, but today is the present, open it up and enjoy what is inside today.

YES I do. I am sad to say I live for the tomorrow. I try to do new stuff mind you so I dont just do it with ALL things. But at the same time, its easier to say "tomorrow" even if it might never come. Weird huh? I wish I wasnt this way and I do want to change. I just dont kow how or why.

i do believe just like you that i should live the present and not the future or the past. But from time to time i do find myself postponing things to the next day or the next week, i know that when it happens it usually happens because of laziness or practical reasons. Sometimes i am in an enjoyable state and i do not feel like doing the thing that i am supposed to. And somtimes i just set my priority for the day, and there are one or two things that i do not have time to do, so i postpone it for the next day or week. But i do think just like you that we should live the present.