Go Away .......

that really happened to me when i was in college. i think that was like in 1998. everything was okey. we were on our 2nd year of the relationship. i wasn't even given any clue that it will happen. he just said it to me straight to my face that he does not want me anymore in his life. i was speechless and i felt like the world just dropped on my shoulders. i felt so heavy that day that i could not even move. after a few minutes, i asked him for reasons while i was in tears. but he never gave me enough reasons about why he's breaking up with me. days later, i learned that he was meeting our common friend's ex girlfriend. i was totally shocked about it. but i did not bother to push myself to him anymore. it just hurt so much to hear those words from the very person i trusted most.

That doesn't sound too good! On the other hand, refusing to talk (or listen) means 2 things to me. 1 is that she/he is too angry or hurt to even look at you/me (this can go away with some time), and 2 is that this person is afraid to hear what you/I might say about what's bothering them (they're afraid you might be able to prove your innocence). Oh, the third possibility is that the parents don't approve and have convinced or forced her to break things off. In any event, she's afraid of a face-to-face meeting because she's afraid of being talked out of breaking it off. She still has strong feelings! I would start by typing her a letter, and I wouldn't put any return address on the envelope. That way she wouldn't recognize the handwriting or where or who it came from and will open it. I'd probably start the letter with something like, "What we had was so wonderful, can you not remember the good feelings you had for me long enough to at least tell me why we cannot be together? You need not even see me again, but just a letter explaining why is all that I ask. If you will do just this small thing for me, I will never bother you again -- even though I will love you until the day I die. If I have hurt you in any way please know that I am so very sorry, and would do anything to make it up to you, if you let me. If you are sure we can never be together again, I will accept it, but I need you to tell me why it must be this way. Please be the kind person I know you are and write me an answer, then I will do as you wish and leave you alone." If the letter comes back ripped up, then I'd try to "accidentally" run into her in a public place. In the USA we have laws against "stalking" (repeatedly following a person, and trying to contact them when they don't want you to), so be careful how you do this -- it might frighten her. Last, but not least -- if she can't find it in her heart to reply, which you surely deserve, then she's not the person you thought. If this is how she deals with problems (running away with no explanation), then she is not good for you anyway. You need someone who will fight for the relationship, not ditch it the moment something goes wrong. Better to know this about her now than to wait until you are married! Still, it's a sad situation!!

one of my big rules of life is this. If someone wants me to go, they only ever have to tell me once. There will be no debate, no second chance, I will just leave . Everyone i care for knows this. I wasnt fitted with a reverse gear, once and once only do i need to be told, im out of there blessed be

I wouldn't know what to do. I certainly wouldn't want to end up losing my loved ones like this. It can be painful. I just hope such a thing does not happen to me.

I would be shocked. There is no fire without smoke. But, if she is really that stone-hearted, I can be equally stone-hearted. I call it a day then. Easier said than done. lol.

i think i'd try my best to reach him. to know how he is, to know why. that'd be very strange, him disappearing just like that. knowing myself when it comes to love, i'd push to know his side. there could be far graver reasons than those involving our relationship. but if that's not the case, i'd still be willing to take the risk of knowing (or attempting to know). though it may inflict deeper pain, i'd have more motivation to either move on or stay.

There is a saying "If you loves someone leave him/her free to go away if he/she come back then he/she is your forever. I think you should follow this saying and you should give some time so that she can make a decision about you.

I would be so sad but I would also try to see it for what it is. There must be a reason, and if we have been together I do have the right to know the reason. Maybe i would try sending her a text message if she has a cellphone, otherwise an email or even a real letter.. Just saying that I do accept her decision - but for me to accept it i need to know why she haas done this. If this doesnt work, I guess I will just have to try and get over her. Sooner or later the truth will come to me.

Im experienced that when x (2nd boyfriend) told me that thing, he even told me that he dont want to be bothered anymore. He doesnt want me anymore and just ignore all of the sudden and leave me. He didnt even manage to talk to me or to clear things up. All I want is just a last time and a closure between us but he didnt give me the chance and thats why I hate him for doing this. I hate him for playing with me and hurting me so much. Now I understand that you can hate someone you really love. But that was before, for me I will hate him for the rest of my life and I will do certainly forget him.

it sounds to me like someones parents gave the word to break things off or else, maby thay isnt your sisutation but thats usually when these things happen.try to be strong and wait it out if she loves you truly she will be back if not than it wasnt ment to be.

Well,it is really a terrible thing.Cuz she/he does not say the reason.If this occures to me,to tell the truth,i don't know how to deal with it.Cuz i think i have the right to know the reason my love why dislike me and abondon me.Even he decides to leave,he should let me know the reason.He should respect me.And i will try to talk to him.If with no result.I will manage to forget him,cuz a man does not respect me is not worthy my love.

If someone really loves you have no fear than that at the end of it he/she will come back for sure if it wasn't love and just was a crush or something that has been taken as love than it will be quite hard to expect that he/she will going to come back,as in this case i'll rather give her time aswell and won't follow her if she misses me she will come back else she will be gone for good as one who wasn't your all that time will not be yours forever.So better to start from the beginning again!

Wait it out. If it's meant to be it will be. If not then something better might come along while you are waiting.

I would be devastated if the love of my life just left me without any explanation, my heart would be broken BUT I would have to repsect his wishes. If I have tried everything and he wont give me an explanation then obviously he never really cared for me otherwise he would of sat me down and we would of talked about whatever problems there was. You just have to be strong and move on..I know its easier said than done but you can do it.

The first thing that I'd do is find out the reason why he wants me to go away especially if I hadn't done something wrong. Then I'll make a way for us to have a talk so we could sort things out. Lastly, if there's no way that he wants to take me back, then however painful it is, I will let go and try to move on. Atleast I didn't give up on him too soon.