Do you bring it home?
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
May 28, 2007 10:56pm CST
When your workday is over and you get home.. are you still thinking about what happened at work during the day? If there were any problems or things that bothered you, do you bring them home with you and allow them to stay in your mind?
I rarely allow myself to bring anything from work home - unless it's just work, real work LOL
Any problems, anything that bothered me, any conflicts I don't allow them to come home with me. Once I leave, that's it. I'm done for the day. I don't dwell on what happened, what I did or end up not doing, what problems came up... all that stays inside my office when I leave and that's it.
My husband on the other hand tends to bring everything home. A bad day, a problem, a conflict, he is still talking about it and thinking about it after getting home.
I am not saying that I don't discuss things that happened at work when I get home, but in general it's just stating facts but I don't let myself be upset at home by what happened at work.
What about you?
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21 responses
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
29 May 07
I tried hard not to dwell with problems in work but sometimes i bring it in home like cant help thinking of it. Im working before as treasury assistant and it deals with money. This work is really stressful. So if theres still issue or problem not solved for the day i cant help thinking of it when im in home. I couldnt relax my mind until the following day and get back to work to finish everything.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
29 May 07
I can understand. I would hate to have to deal with money at work. I would always be worried that I made a mistake :)
It happened before with me that I really had trouble getting work of my mind because something had happened that really got to me, but as a rule I leave it there when I leave
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@ljcapps (1925)
• United States
29 May 07
I work in a factory where things can get very frustrating, and sometimes i just have to talk it out with someone. That's what my wife does for me. First, she worked at Toyota also, so she understands how things work there, and she just lets me get it out. If i can get it out, and just talk about it for a few minutes, I can get over it. I don't have to lug it around with me all day. So, yes, talking about it is good. For a short amount of time. Talking about it all day, over and over and over and over and..well, you get the idea...that's bad. And it would get OLD. So as long as you're not obsessed by it, it should be alright.
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@ljcapps (1925)
• United States
29 May 07
My wife was an insurance adjuster for walmart, a very long time ago, and she actually ended up quitting the job, because it wasn't something that she could just leave at work. It was something that she brought home, and brooded over. And it was making her miserable, and so we agreed that she would quit, and ultimately, it made both of us much happier. so i completely understand where you're coming from!! Especially when you go out with friends from work, not talking ABOUT work! Work is what we do so we can live. We don't live to work.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
29 May 07
I am an expert at bringing the stuff home with me. At times I even dream about work and sometimes it has been dreams about solutions that actually helped. This is very tough though since it seems that I am never off. I am always wórking.
I am trying now to leave work where it belongs and some days are good, and some days are not *lol*
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@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
29 May 07
Hi arkaf61! I do it almost everyday. I think of work even when i am at home. I eat, drink and sleep work. I know it's bad but i am unable to change myself after being that way for ages!
@kevsgirlalways (5883)
• Malaysia
29 May 07
i don't think about work when i'm at home too. the only time when i think about work is the next morning when i have to get up, coz i'll be dreading to go to work hehe. i try to not let whatever happened at work get to me, because my life revolves around so much more and not just work work work .
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 May 07
i don't, too. even when i am affected, i don't talk about my work at home. but if it's good news, i share it to my mom and brothers. if not, i prefer to keep quiet about it.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
29 May 07
i am a pharmacist and i had always been connected to patients. even emotionally and personally connected to them in many ways. so, when i go home, the thoughts i had with them on my job, i still have them in me. but i don't let those memories ruin the rest of my day with my parents and my siblings. it's just that my work has always been and will always be a part of me wherever i go, whatever time of the day.
@babystar1 (4233)
• United States
29 May 07
Yes I do. When I get home from work I always think about work. I know that is not a good idea thinking about my job all the time. I am always discussing things to my husband about my job, and I no he gets tired of listening to me. I just have to learn to keep my problems at work.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
29 May 07
Well, I do not work outside the home. BUT,,,, when my beloved husband gets home from his work after a long hard 11 hours and all he wants to do is get a shower - eat and relax., I have a tendency to want to share my day with him. I want some adult conversation and feedback. Well, that is probably the last thing he wants to hear about.
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
30 May 07
I understand. I think that if I stayed home I would also need some adult conversation. HUbby on the other hand will be tired, maybe not even wanting to talk much , just relax. I guess you can try and give him a bit of time while he relaxes and then have a conversation later when he feels more open to it. Sometimes that works :)
@tess1960 (2385)
• United States
29 May 07
Some people solve work problems by talking them over at home. I am one of these people. No matter how hard I try it is often hard not to bring problems, failures, mistakes home with me to talk over with a neutral person that I trust, my husband. Many times people that are overly stressed it is because they have no way of getting those things out of there systems, the battles, arguments, failures, problems and they end up with ulcers.
Then there are those that are able to just walk away from a task or a problem, argument, failure, accomplishment and leave it at the door. I sometimes envy these people.
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@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
29 May 07
I don't have to do that anymore, but I had a routine when I was still working. As soon as I would get in my car, I would remove my wristwatch, which signalled the end of that miserable baloney until I would put it back on on my way to work. During the worst and most stressful periods, no, I wasn't able to leave it, but I would try very hard. If things were going well, I wouldn't give it a single thought, let alone speak about it and there were very few coworkers I socialized with outside of work. It was nice to keep everything seperate, which made it easier not to think about or talk about it when clocking out.
@morefashion (54)
• China
29 May 07
When my workday is over and get home,i bring nothing to home.
After work time i don't talk about it and think about it though
i have any problems or things that haven't resolved.I often
do some things that i like.I also don't let myself be upset at home by what happened at work .
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@vampoet (825)
• Singapore
29 May 07
I do not have a choice...
As a teacher, my kid's personal problems to the parents' concerns and queries to the office politics so on and so forth preoccupies some part of my mind throughout the day. Not to mention the marking and the extra curricular activities....I NEED A VACATION!!!
@jhondabing (44)
• China
29 May 07
i agree with you .we should relax at home after work.after work we can see movie and listen music .we also talk about some popular topics,example weather in tomorrow,what happen in today......
you should try to change your husband's opinion ,tell him what he do is not very exect.i hope your husband will listen to you .
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
29 May 07
Yes, I think it is important to do our best to enjoy home time without the worries of work.
Hubby is just a bit different. He's also the kind of person that if something upsets him it appears that the whole world upsets him LOL I've been working on that hehe
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
29 May 07
I have to admit i take it home with me.And if i had a bad day everyone suffers from it.I don't want it but it just happens.I keep talking about it and i keep thinking about it.And then like the next day i don't feel like going to work because of that thing that happened.I sometimes can get upset real fast with some things,like work
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@UDDERONES (887)
• United States
29 May 07
I wish I could say I don't. But these co-workers I work with they agrivate me and I go home and want to tell my husband about it. But he never listened to me. So I have to keep it bottled up unless he decides to listen to me.
@SereneDragon (188)
• United States
29 May 07
I tend to bring things home and am trying hard to work on that. Things are so stressful right now (I may be laid off or may be transfered to another department-nobody knows right now). However, I do limit myself to venting on the front stoop while we smoke. That way I'm not physically bringing it in the house.
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@jyngers (13)
• Philippines
29 May 07
I tried not to bring my work related problems at home but sometimes i cant help it. there are some problems specially if its about office politics that it sticks with you like a glue. i cried a couple times at home. the only thing that can make me smile are my kids. they dont understand what am going through but seeing them and hearing how they spent their day eases my despair.
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@desty_1 (26)
• United States
29 May 07
I'm a trucking dispatcher. I have to keep information in my head and recall it at a moments notice, as well as keep that information fresh for months at a time. The biggest problem that I notice is that I forget small things at home. I can remember what happened to a load from 2 years ago, but I can't remember to pickup milk when I'm at the Super Wal-mart.
Another problem is that while I don't talk about work at home, beyond the normal idiot story, I have woke up in the middle of the night "jabbering" according my wife about having too much to do and not enough trucks to do it.
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@reshadodo1905 (20)
• Egypt
29 May 07
i love my work if any problems meet me i will tray to solve it if no one quarreled with any one in the work i will intervene to solve this problem
